Ukwesaba ubumnyama: indlela yokuqinisekisa ingane yakho?

Lithini igama lokwesaba ubumnyama? Ubonakala eneminyaka emingaki?

Ukukhathazeka, ikakhulukazi ebusuku, kobumnyama kubizwa ngokuthi i-nyctophobia. Ezinganeni, ukukhathazeka kobumnyama kubonakala cishe eminyakeni emibili. Uyaqaphela ngokuhlukana nabazali bakhe ngesikhathi sokulala. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, umcabango wakhe ochichimayo uzothuthukisa ukwesaba kwakhe: ukwesaba impisi noma izithunzi isibonelo.

I-phobia yobumnyama ezinganeni nasezinsaneni

“Uma izingane eziningi zinokwesaba kobumnyama, ukwesaba ukuvuswa kuqale ngokuthi 'Mama, baba, ngisaba ubumnyama, ngingalala nawe?' iningi labazali abaningi ”, kufakaza uPatricia Chalon. Ingane yesaba ubumnyama ngoba iyodwa ekamelweni layo, ngaphandle kwezimpawu zayo eziyinhloko: abazali bayo. “Ukwesaba kwengane ubumnyama kusho isizungu, ukuhlukana nalabo esibathandayo hhayi ekwesabeni ubumnyama, empeleni,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kuqala. Lapho ingane isekamelweni labazali bayo, embhedeni wabo futhi kumnyama, ayisabi. Ngakho-ke i-phobia yobumnyama ezinganeni ingafihla enye into. Izincazelo.

Ukwesaba okuhlanganyelwe?

Abazali, kusukela ekuzalweni kwengane yabo, banesifiso esisodwa kuphela: ukuthi ulala ngokuthula ubusuku bonke, futhi bona ngokwabo benza okufanayo! “Ukwesaba ubumnyama kubhekisela kulokho ukuba nesizungu. Ingane izizwa kanjani ngomzali wayo oyilalisa? Uma ezwa sengathi umama wakhe ukhathazekile noma ukhathazekile lapho ethi goodnight kuye, akasoze ayeka ukucabanga ukuthi ukuba yedwa, ebusuku, ebumnyameni, akukuhle kangako ”, kuchaza uPatricia Chalon. Abazali abakwesabayo ukwehlukana ebusuku, ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene, benza ingane yabo encane ibe nengcindezi ngesikhathi sokulala. Ngokuvamile, babuya kanye, kabili noma kathathu zilandelana ukuze bahlole ukuthi ingane yabo ilele kahle yini, futhi ngokwenza kanjalo, bathumela umlayezo “owethusayo” enganeni. ” Ingane idinga ukuzinza okuthile. Uma umntwana osacathula ecela abazali bakhe izikhathi eziningana kusihlwa, kungenxa yokuthi ufuna isikhathi esengeziwe nabo », Kubonisa udokotela wengqondo.

Kungani ingane yesaba ubumnyama? Ukwesaba ukulahlwa kanye nesidingo sokuchitha isikhathi nabazali

“Ingane engakayitholi i-akhawunti yesikhathi esichithe nabazali bayo, izobafuna sekuyolala. Ukwanga, izindaba zakusihlwa, ukuqabula, amaphupho amabi ... yonke into iyizaba zokuthi omunye wabazali eze eduze kombhede wakhe. Futhi uzobatshela, ngaleso sikhathi, ukuthi wesaba ubumnyama, ukubavimba, ”kwengeza uchwepheshe. Utusa ukuba abazali bacabangele izicelo zengane futhi balindele ngaphambi kokulala. “Abazali kumele babeke phambili ikhwalithi ngaphezu kwakho konke. Ukuba seduze kwakhe, ngimtshela indaba, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ukungahlali eduze kwengane iphethe ucingo lwayo, ”kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Ukwesaba imizwa eyenza ukhule. Ingane izenzela okuhlangenwe nakho kwayo ngokwesaba kwayo, izofunda ukuyiphatha, kancane kancane, ikakhulukazi ngenxa yamazwi abazali bayo.

Okufanele ukwenze lapho ingane yesaba ubumnyama? beka amazwi phezu kokwesaba

“Ingane kumele izifundele ukulala yodwa. Lokhu kuyingxenye yokuzimela kwayo. Lapho ezwakalisa ukwesaba kwakhe ubumnyama, umzali akufanele anqikaze ukumphendula, ukukhuluma naye ngakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungakanani ubudala, "ugcizelela ukuncipha ngale ndaba. Uma sekunesikhathi esiningi sezingxoxo ngaphambi kokulala noma lapho uvuka, mayelana nokwenzekile kusihlwa, lokhu kuzomqinisekisa nakakhulu umntwana. Ukwesaba ubumnyama "kujwayelekile" ebuntwaneni.

Ukukhanya kwasebusuku, imidwebo ... Izinto ezisiza ingane yakho ukuthi ingasabi ebusuku

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sincoma ukuthi izingane zidwebe, ikakhulukazi uma zivusa izilo ezibonwa ebumnyameni. “Uma ingane isidwebe izilo ezimbi ezihlala ebusuku bayo, sichoboza iphepha ngokuphikelela 'ngokuchoboza' laba balingisi abanyantisayo futhi sichaze ukuthi sizokubeka konke endaweni embi kakhulu. , ukubachitha, okusho ukuthi udoti! », Kusho uPatricia Chalon. ” Abazali kufanele ayazise ngokuphelele ingane yabo, esigabeni ngasinye sokukhula kwayo. Lapho ekhuluma ngokwesaba kwakhe, umzali angambuza ukuthi yini ngempela eyethusayo. Khona-ke, sicela ingane ukuthi ikhethe isixazululo esizomqinisekisa, njengokubeka isibani sasebusuku, ukushiya umnyango uvulekile, ukukhanyisa iphasishi ... ", kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Kuye, uma kuyingane enquma ngesixazululo esingcono kakhulu sokuyeka ukwesaba, khona-ke uzonqoba ukwesaba kwakhe, futhi kuzoba nethuba elikhulu lokunyamalala ...