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Siyalwazi ikharikhulamu yesikole ezincwadini zesiRashiya, sibhale indaba engaphezu kweyodwa. Kodwa ipsychology yezinye zezenzo ezenziwa abalingiswa ayikacaci. Sisenemibuzo yezakudala. Ufuna izimpendulo kubo.
Kungani u-Onegin ethanda uTatiana ebholeni, ayenqabile ngaphambili?
U-Onegin uyindoda enesitayela sokunamathisela esingenampilo. Kubonakala sengathi abazali abazange bayinake indodana yabo: yakhuliswa nguMadame kuqala, kwase kulandela uMonsieur. Ngakho-ke, u-Eugene waba «usosayensi» embonini ethize - «isayensi yothando lwethenda» nothando, azama ukukuthola emndenini, bese ebuhlotsheni bothando.
Insizwa ijwayele ukuthola noma yini eyifunayo. Ifa likamalume lamenza waceba, izindaba zothando — wangabi nandaba. Nokho, amabhola kanye ezamehlela amorous kwaba yisicefe, ngoba Eugene akazange athole imizwa - manipulations kuphela nemidlalo. Bese ehlangana noTatyana. Ukuzenzisa akajwayelekile kuye, futhi uyavuma ukuthi uyamthanda u-Eugene. Kodwa u-Onegin wabulala ithemba emphefumulweni wakhe, engaziniki ithuba lobunye ubuhlobo, engakholelwa ukuthi kungase kube ngenye indlela.
Kungani-ke, lapho ehlangana noTatyana ebholeni, waba igugu kuye? Yini "evula" imizwa yakhe? Okokuqala, ukungafinyeleleki kwayo. Manje useyabanda naye, futhi u-Eugene uzama ukuncibilikisa inhliziyo yentombazane eyake yathandana naye futhi aklebhule ohlwini lwabanqobi.
U-Eugene uqhutshwa umona ongazi lutho nokuhaha. U-Tatyana wamahhala wayengathandeki kuye, umfokazi uthatha yonke imicabango yakhe
Okwesibili, u-Eugene uchitha wonke amandla akhe ekufuneni izinzwa ezintsha. Isithukuthezi, ukuba ndikindiki engqondweni, swing «idealization — devaluation» — lezi izici a narcissist. Inkinga yakhe ukungabi nozwelo. Ukunqoba kukaTatyana kuwumzamo wokuzizwa uphila futhi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uyayinaki imizwa yentombazane, ayiboni ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka kwayo, ehlanganiswe ne-mask yokunganaki.
Okwesithathu, u-Eugene uqhutshwa umona nokuhaha. U-Tatyana wamahhala wayengathandeki kuye, umfokazi uthatha yonke imicabango yakhe.
Inkinga yomlingiswa wenoveli ukungakwazi ukuthanda. Ihlukene phakathi: ingxenye eyodwa ifuna ukusondelana, enye ilulaza yonke into. Siyazwelana naye, siqaphela ukuthi lokhu akulona iphutha le-Onegin, kodwa ishwa lika-Onegin. Kukhona indawo eqandisiwe emphefumulweni wakhe, udinga uthando lobabili ukuyincibilikisa. Kodwa wazikhethela yena. Sisusa uTatyana ngezinhliziyo zethu zonke: iziphepho zithukuthele emphefumulweni wakhe, ulimele futhi unesizungu, kodwa kwakudingeka ashade, futhi udumo luyigugu ngaphezu kothando.
Kungenzeka yini ngenye indlela?
Uma u-Eugene wayekholelwa ukuthi ubuhlobo obuqotho bungenzeka, uma engazange alahle uTatiana, lo mbhangqwana wawungajabula. Yena, ejulile futhi efunde kahle, enothando futhi ethembekile, angabelana ngokuthanda nezithakazelo ze-Onegin. Angaba umngane wakhe, isithandwa, umyeni, uthisha - futhi yena ngokwakhe uzoshintsha, okokuqala ngqa empilweni yakhe, azi ukuthi ukusondelana kwangempela kuyini.