Kungani singazi ukuthi singasivikela kanjani isikhathi sethu nokuthi singasifunda kanjani

Lokhu kwenzeka kithi nsuku zonke. Kungene umakhelwane aqale akhulume lutho, sivume ngekhanda ngesizotha, nakuba eqinisweni sijahe kabi. Noma ozakwethu baqala ukukhuluma ngezinto eziwumbudane, bese sizivumela ukuba singene engxoxweni ngaphandle kokucabanga nokuthi kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani. Noma sithola umlayezo ovela kumngane: “Hey, ngidinga ikhanda lakho elikhanyayo lapha. Ungakwazi ukusiza?" - bese sivuma. Ngempela, ngeke unqabe umngane wakudala, akunjalo?

Isazi sefilosofi uSeneca sake saphawula indlela abayiziphukuphuku ngayo ngisho nabantu abahlakaniphe kakhulu lapho kuziwa ekuvikeleni isikhathi sabo siqu: “Akukho noyedwa wethu onikeza umuntu esihlangana naye imali yakhe, kodwa bangaki abanikela ngokuphila kwabo! Songa maqondana nempahla nemali, kodwa sicabanga okuncane kakhulu ngendlela esisebenzisa ngayo isikhathi sethu, okuwukuphela kwento okufanele sincishe ngayo kakhulu.

Namuhla, eminyakeni engu-2000 kamuva, sisavumela insiza yethu eyigugu kakhulu ukuba ingene eminweni yethu. Kungani? Usomabhizinisi nombhali wencwadi ethi How Strong People Solve Problems Ryan Holiday uthi kunezizathu ezine zalokhu.

Siyaqiniseka ukuthi sinesikhathi esengeziwe esanele

Bathi siphila ngokwesilinganiso iminyaka engu-78. Kubonakala sengathi ingunaphakade. Yini okufanele siyichithe imizuzu engama-20 kulokhu noma lokhuya? Iya emhlanganweni e-cafe ngakolunye uhlangothi lwedolobha, uchitha ihora emgwaqeni, ngisho nehora emuva? Hhayi umbuzo, kungani kungenjalo.

Asiboni ukuthi isikhathi sethu sinomkhawulo futhi asikho isiqiniseko sokuthi konke ngeke kuphele kusasa. Kodwa, okubaluleke nakakhulu, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, njengemali: asichithi nje imizuzu embalwa esinayo "esikhwameni" sethu, kodwa futhi sinciphisa isitoko esiqoqiwe.

Sesaba ukuthi abanye ngeke bakuthande ukwenqaba kwethu.

Asifuni ukucatshangelwa kabi ngathi, ngakho siphendula ngokuthi “yebo” kukho konke – noma, ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, “mhlawumbe”, ngisho nalapho singafuni lutho ngaphandle kokwenqaba.

U-Ryan Holiday ukhumbula ukuthi ukubonakala kwezingane kwamsiza ukuba asuse lo mkhuba. Njengoba eba ubaba, waqaphela ukuthi lapho ethatha izibopho ezingadingekile, yindodana yakhe eneminyaka emibili ehlupheka kuqala. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ngokuthi “yebo” komunye, ngokuzenzekelayo sithi “cha” komunye, futhi ngokuvamile emndenini nakwabanye esibathandayo.

Ungesabi ukungaziba umlayezo ovela kumuntu ongafuni ukuxhumana naye, noma uphendule ngo-“cha” oqinile esicelweni esingathandeki kuwe noma isicelo esingafanele, ngoba, ngaphandle kwalokho, ingane yakho ingase iphinde ishiywe. ngaphandle kwenganekwane yakusihlwa.

Asizazisi ngokwanele

Esinye sezizathu ezenza singabi naso isibindi sokwenqaba othile ngoba sesaba ukumzwisa ubuhlungu ukuthi asizizwa sinelungelo lokubeka izithakazelo zethu kuqala kunabanye. Ngesikhathi ebuzwa ukuthi kungani esaqhubeka nokusebenza, uJoan Rivers, ongomunye wosomahlaya abaphumelele kakhulu emhlabeni, wake waphendula wathi ushaywa wuvalo: “Uma kungekho okubhaliwe ekhalendeni lami, kusho ukuthi akekho ongidingayo ukuthi konke engangikwenza empilweni yami kwakuyize. Ngakho, wonke umuntu ungikhohliwe noma usezokhohlwa. Kodwa wabe esengaphezu kweminyaka engama-70 futhi eyinganekwane ephilayo!

Akubuhlungu yini? Futhi lesi sidingo esidingekayo sikulowo nalowo kithi.

Asizange siqinise imisipha yokulwela imingcele

Sonke singaphansi kobuthakathaka. Sifinyelela amafoni ethu ukuze sibone ukuthi yini entsha ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Sivumela i-Netflix ne-YouTube isiphakamisele ividiyo entsha, bese kuba enye, nenye, nenye. Ungakhathazeki ukuthi umphathi usithumelela umlayezo phakathi nobusuku mayelana nebhizinisi eliphuthumayo.

Asivikelwa yinoma ubani nanoma yini: akekho unobhala ohlezi egumbini lokwamukela izivakashi, futhi azisekho izindonga noma ngisho nokuhlukanisa ezindaweni zamahhovisi. Noma ubani angasifinyelela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Angeke, njengabaphathi bamafilimu amadala, sitshele unobhala ukuthi: “Ungangixhumani namuntu namuhla. Uma kukhona, ngihambile."

URyan Holiday uthi: “Ngacabanga kakhulu ngendlela engangingathanda ukukubona ngayo ukuphila kwami. - Ngacabanga ngakho, ngenza izingxoxo ezinde ocingweni, esikhundleni sokuzibekela incwadi emfushane. Noma ukuhlala emhlanganweni, obekungase kuthathelwe indawo ingxoxo yocingo. Lesi sikhathi esichithiwe ngingasichitha kokuthile okubaluleke ngempela: umndeni, ukufunda. Ngokungafani no-Joan Rivers, ngijabula kuphela uma ikhalenda lami lingenalutho. Ngazi kahle ukuthi yini engifuna ukuchitha isikhathi kukho, futhi angifuni ukuthi intshontshwe kimi. ”

Ngaphezu kwalokho, iHolide liqinisekile ukuthi ungasho ukuthi "cha" futhi uqhubeke nokusiza abanye. “Nakuba ngingakwazi ukuphendula wonke ama-imeyili, ngizama ukukhetha imibuzo abantu abayibuza kakhulu futhi ngiyifake ezihlokweni. Ngiyabasiza ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ngisindise isikhathi sami.

I-philanthropist ehlakaniphile inikela ngenzuzo enkulu, hhayi izimpahla ezimsiza ukuba athole imali, okusho ukuthi uyaqhubeka nokusiza abanye. Isimiso esifanayo singasetshenziswa nasesikhathini sakho.

Ngakho-ke akukho lutho olungalungile ngokugwema izingcingo ezithile, ukwenqaba ukuhlanganyela emihlanganweni engathandeki noma engenanzuzo, ukuziba ama-imeyili amaningi. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokuphatha isikhathi sakhe futhi angaziboni enecala futhi enamahloni ngakho.

Akukhona ukuthi isikhathi sakho sibaluleke kakhulu kunesikhathi sabanye abantu. Isikhathi sibalulekile ngokwaso, futhi yisikhathi sokuqala ukuqaphela lokho njengamanje.

Mayelana Nombhali: U-Ryan Holiday ungusomabhizinisi nombhali we-How Strong People Solve Problems and Bestseller. Ungawakha kanjani futhi uwakhuthaze kanjani amaphrojekthi okudala” kanye nenani labanye.