Ukuncika ngokomzwelo. Lapho "unkulunkulu" wakho uthule

Kumuntu oncike ngokomzwelo, othandekayo wakhe - umzali, umfowabo noma udadewabo, isithandwa noma umngane - kubaluleke kakhulu. Ubeka lo omunye njengo "nkulunkulu" wakhe - uphathisa impilo yakhe kuye, umnika ilungelo lokuyiphatha.

Amazwi akhe, izenzo noma, ngokuphambene, ukungenzi lutho kunquma isimo somzwelo somuntu onomlutha. Uyajabula uma “uNkulunkulu” ekhuluma naye, ejabula, emenzela okuthile, futhi ezwa ubuhlungu obukhulu obungokwengqondo uma enganelisekile ngaye noma emane ethule, engaxhumani naye.

Ukulutha okunjalo kungakha kunoma yimuphi umuntu, kodwa kuvame ukuvela kubantu abanomzwelo. Ukunamathela kwabo kunamandla, baphila imizwa yabo ngokujulile ngakho-ke bahlushwa umlutha kakhulu kunabanye.

Lokhu kuwumphumela wokuhlukumezeka kokukhula kwengane. Ukulutheka kungadala izimo ezehlukene kusukela ebudlelwaneni bokuqala bomzali nengane. Kodwa lokho abafana ngakho ukuthi phakathi nenkathi yokunamathiselwe okuqinile, ukuhlanganiswa kwangempela kwengane nomama (kuze kube unyaka nesigamu), umama waphula ukuxhumana noma wayengafudumala ngokwanele, eqotho.

Futhi ngenxa yobudala, akakwazi ukuphila kulo lonke i-palette yemizwa ephakama ngesikhathi esifanayo: inamandla kakhulu kumntwana omncane, ngakho-ke uyayisusa.

Kodwa le mizwa iyamehlula kakade lapho esemdala ezimweni zokulahlekelwa ukuxhumana nomuntu amthandayo. Umuntu omdala kulezi zikhathi uzizwa eyingane engenakuzisiza. Ubhekana nokwethuka, ubuhlungu, ukuphelelwa ithemba, ukwesaba, ukwethuka, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukudabuka, ukungabi namandla.

"Kungani wenza kanje kimi? Kungani unesihluku esingaka? Uthuleleni pho, usho okuthile! Awunandaba nami! Unyangithanda? Uyinunu! Ungangishiyi, ngizofa ngaphandle kwakho!» - lena imishwana evamile yabantu abancike emoyeni.

Lesi yisimo esibucayi esingaholela ekuhlaselweni yinhliziyo, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukushaywa uvalo, ukuzilimaza ngisho nokuzibulala. Uma umlingani eshiya umuntu othembele ngokomzwelo, angagula kakhulu noma azibulale. Abashadile abanjalo bahamba baye kwelinye izwe ngemva kwenyanga yokushona komyeni noma umkabo, ngoba balahlekelwa injongo yokuphila, ngoba isimo sabo esingokomzwelo asibekezeleleki.

Bafuna ukuthi bahlale bethintana, bakhulume ngecala, bagcizelele amasiko azoqinisekisa ukuthi umlingani ulapha, eduze, uyabathanda. Abantu abancikile babangela uzwela, kodwa futhi ukucasuka nentukuthelo: ababekezeleleki futhi abaneliseki ekufuneni kwabo uthando ...

Abathandekayo babo bavame ukuhlukana nobudlelwane lapho sebekhathele ukukhonza umlutha womlingani wabo, ukwesaba kwakhe. Abafuni ukwenza izenzo ezingadingekile, shayela izikhathi eziyishumi ngosuku futhi ulungise ukuziphatha kwabo kuye ngokusabela komlingani. Abafuni ukuncika.

Uma uncike ngokomzwelo, umsebenzi wakho ukufunda indlela yokubhekana nesimo sakho somzwelo esinzima uwedwa. Ake sithathe lesi simo. Othandekayo wakho "uyalenga" ubuhlobo: hhayi yebo noma cha, akukho zinyathelo eziqondile.

Kukhona ikhefu lokukhathazeka. Usuvele uthathe izinyathelo eziningi kakhulu kulobu budlelwano ngoba "unkulunkulu" wakho uyazindela, futhi manje ulindile, uyenqabela ukwenza. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ugcwele imizwa.

Ngizokwabelana ngolwazi lwamakhasimende ami nabangane, okubasiza ukuthi babhekane nesimo sabo somzwelo.

1. Isibopho

Susa isibopho ngesimo sakho kumlingani wakho. Ungalindeli ukuthi angenza noma yini ukudambisa ukuhlupheka kwakho. Shintshela ukugxila kwakho kuwena nokusabela kwakho.

2. Awekho amaphupho neziqalo

Ungacabangi ngalokho okwenziwa "unkulunkulu" wakho okwamanje, ungapendi isimo, ungatoliki okwenzekayo. Ungavumeli ukwesaba nokulindelwe okungekuhle kulolonge ukuqagela kwesimo.

Ngokushesha nje lapho uzibamba emicabangweni enjalo, buyisela ukunaka kwakho esimweni sakho samanje. Lokhu kungenziwa, isibonelo, ngokugxila ekuphefumuleni.

3. Ubukhona "lapha futhi manje"

Qalaza. Skena umzimba wakho ngeso lengqondo. Phendula imibuzo: Ngikuphi? Njengami?" Qaphela imininingwane emincane yendawo okuzungezile, uzwe izinguquko ezincane emzimbeni wakho, ukungezwani kwesaziso nokunye ukungakhululeki. Zibuze ukuthi yimiphi imizwa onayo njengamanje nokuthi ihlala kuphi emzimbeni.

4. Isibukeli sangaphakathi

Thola indawo enethezekile, enempilo emzimbeni wakho futhi ubeke ngokwengqondo “I-Inner Observer” lapho - leyo ngxenye yakho ehlala izolile futhi inenjongo kunoma yisiphi isimo, ayivumeli imizwelo.

Unemizwa eyinkimbinkimbi kanye nokungakhululeki mayelana nokuthula «kankulunkulu», kodwa akubona nonke.

Beka imizwa yakho engemihle endaweni ethile emzimbeni wakho futhi uqaphele ukuthi zonke ezinye izingxenye zomzimba ziphilile futhi azikho kahle.

5. Ukugawula, ukuphefumula, ukugxila, ukuxhumana nawe

Umkhuba wokumisa phansi uzokuvumela ukuthi ugxilise ukunaka kwakho kuzo zonke izingxenye zomzimba ezixhumene nezindawo ezivundlile. Ukugxila ekuphefumuleni, vele uwubheke, ulandele ukugeleza komoya ngeso lakho langaphakathi.

Gxila esikhungweni sakho (iminwe emi-2 ngaphansi kwenkaba, u-6 cm ujule esiswini), phawula imizwa egxile lapho: ukufudumala, amandla, ukunyakaza. Qondisa umoya wakho phakathi nendawo, uwugcwalise futhi uwukhulise.

Kuhle uma ukwazi ukugcwalisa umzimba wonke ngomuzwa ozwayo phakathi nendawo. Zama ukunganqamuki ukuxhumana naye.

6. Ukuphila imizwa yakho

Qaphela yonke imizwa onayo bese uphendula ngayinye ngokudedelana. Isibonelo, ubonile ukuthukuthela futhi wakunika indawo esandleni sakho sokudla. Qala ukwenza into ethukuthele kakhulu: ukugeza izitsha, ukushaya amakhaphethi, ukuhlanza isitofu. Veza imizwa. Cabanga nje ukuthi intukuthelo iphumela esandleni sokudla.

Uma ukwazi, bhala incwadi ethukuthele ethi «unkulunkulu» wakho, uveze konke okucabangayo ngaye. Asikho isidingo sokuthumela incwadi - uyaqonda ukuthi imizwa yakho ihlobene kancane nesimo samanje. Basuka ekuhlukumezekeni kwasebuntwaneni, futhi akufanele uchithe ubudlelwano obathandayo ngenxa yakho.

7. Ukuzithanda

Isizathu sokuthembela ngokomzwelo ukuzithanda okwanele futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukulindela uthando oluvela ngaphandle. Lokhu kushoda kwavela ngenxa yokuthi ingane yayingenalo uthando lukamama olwanele futhi kwakungekho lapho ingafunda khona ukuzithanda.

Isikhathi sokugcwalisa lesi sikhala. Usuvele uskene umzimba futhi uthole amaphakethe okuphatheka kabi. Zinakekele ukuze wenze imizwa kulezi zingxenye zomzimba ikhululeke kakhudlwana. I-Massage, sebenzisa amafutha aphunga, thatha indawo ekhululekile.

Kungaba inkomishi yekhofi, imuvi, incwadi, umsebenzi womzimba, ukugeza usawoti, ingxoxo nomngane. Into eyinhloko ukuthi uthola ukuthutheleka kwemizwa eyakhayo.

I-8. Ukuhlaziywa

Manje njengoba wehlile futhi wazinakekela, ungavula ingqondo yakho uhlaziye isimo. Kwenzekani ebuhlotsheni bakho "noNkulunkulu", okufanele ukwenze - linda noma uthathe isinyathelo.

9. Isenzo: cabanga ngemiphumela

Uma udonsela ukwenza okuthile: shayela, usho okuthile, ucacise isimo, mhlawumbe ngisho nokuxabana, qala ucabange imiphumela yalezi zenzo. Khumbula ukuthi umsebenzi wakho ulolonga iphethini yobudlelwano bakho "nonkulunkulu".

Ingabe ufuna ubudlelwano bakho buhlale buthuthuka ngokwalesi simo? Lona umthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu, futhi kuyodingeka uthwalwe kubo bonke ubudlelwano. Uma usukulungele ukuzithathela lona, ​​yenza ngesibindi.

10. I-Psychotherapy

Inkambo yokwelashwa kwengqondo yomuntu siqu izokusiza ukuthi usebenze ngokuhlukumezeka kwasebuntwaneni futhi uqede ukuncika ngokomzwelo.