Ubani owesifazane wesimanje? Ungathola izifundo eziningana eziphakeme, wenze umsebenzi, uphumelele kakhulu kunamadoda amaningi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, izidingo zomshado, umndeni futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ubufazi esikhathini sethu ziye zaba ziphakeme kakhulu futhi zinezimo eziningi. Inkululeko engalindelekile isiphuce imihlahlandlela kanye nezindlela zokupheka ezenziwe ngomumo - ukuthi ungaba kanjani ngowesifazane? Ake sikuthole!
Kumelwe ukuba uthole umbono wokuthi yonke into yayikade “ilula” kowesifazane: awekho amalungelo, awekho amathuba okuzazi. Nakekela umyeni wakho nezingane, ungacabangi nganoma iyiphi impumelelo yomphakathi. Ngiyashesha ukukudumaza: isikhundla sowesifazane emphakathini asikaze sichazwe ngokunembile.
Abesifazane abangamaViking babeyibutho eligcwele ukulwa. EJapane, amantombazane emikhayeni yamaSamurai akhuliswa ngaphansi kwekhodi yeBushido efanayo neyabafana. Ukuvubukulwa kwamangcwaba amaSkithe kwabonisa ukuthi phakathi kwamaqhawe kwakukhona amadoda nabesifazane abahlukene ngokulinganayo, futhi bonke babenemidwebo ehambisanayo nezibazi zempi. ERoma lasendulo, abesifazane babehlanganyela ezimpini ze-gladiator ngokulinganayo namadoda. Udinga izibonelo ezengeziwe?
Futhi kuze kube namuhla emhlabeni ungathola noma yiluphi uhlobo «okujwayelekile» kokuzazi kwabesifazane: i-polyandry e-Tibet, isithembu eMpumalanga Ephakathi, abesifazane ebuthweni lakwa-Israyeli ... Futhi njalo njalonjalo. Ngakho-ke, ngiphakamisa ukuthi ungagxili kunoma yikuphi okujwayelekile - ikakhulukazi uma ungakuthandi kakhulu. Kodwa-ke sizoqondani ngomqondo wobufazi?
Ubufazi ebudlelwaneni
Ubufazi kimi abubonakali njengempahla engapheli yomuntu, njengesisindo noma ubude, kodwa kunalokho uhlobo lobudlelwano. Kanjani futhi kungani, isibonelo, ukukhombisa ubufazi lapho uhlezi esihlalweni esikhululekile futhi ufunda incwadi? Ubufazi wuhlobo lobudlelwano esibakhayo namadoda esithakaselayo, futhi abuphambene nakancane nobudoda.
Ubufazi budinga umongo
Ubufazi budinga umongo. Njengoba nje kukhona abaxoxisana nabo engxoxweni ozizwa uyisilima esiphelele, kukhona namadoda athandana nawo ongazizwa njengowesifazane. Futhi lokhu akusho ukuthi kukhona okungalungile kunoma ubani kini: yisimo nje.
Kumkhakha wezobuchwepheshe, asidingi ukuqashelwa yibo bonke esisebenza nabo nozakwethu ngaphandle kokukhetha. Ngokufanayo, emkhakheni wobudlelwane, sidinga ukunakwa nokuqashelwa kuphela ngamadoda abalulekile kithi. Ngalo mqondo, ubufazi bakho buyinkomba yendoda elungile. Ubufazi bakho buncike ekutheni ungubani futhi obani amadoda abalulekile kuwe, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bungashintsha: kokubili ukuzwa kwangaphakathi nokubonakaliswa kwangaphandle.
Ifomu langaphandle lingamanga angaphakathi
Ungangeza ubufazi esithombeni sakho: amakhulu omagazini abacwebezelayo azokusiza. Kodwa “ukuzenza” umuntu wesifazane ngokwethempulethi enikeziwe kuyindlela engabazekayo.
Ake sicabange ukuthi owesifazane uthole futhi wazi kahle indlela yokugqoka, yiziphi izihloko okufanele ukhulume ngazo, ukuhambisa kanjani ukuze uhambisane nomqondo omuhle wobufazi, futhi ngalokhu wakhanga indoda yamaphupho akhe. Mangaki amahora, izinsuku, izinyanga ezanele ukuthi aqhubeke nalokhu akuqalile? Kungakanani ukukhanya nenjabulo okuzomlethela yona ngalesi sikhathi? Futhi yini eyokwenzeka kamuva, lapho ngolunye usuku ethi: “Akumina, ngeke ngisakwazi ukukwenza lokhu!” Indoda izozizwa ikhashelwe, yona - izikhaphele.
Enye yezindlela ezibalulekile zomuntu “wakho” noma “hhayi owakho” yindlela asabela ngayo kuwe lapho uziphatha kalula futhi ngokwemvelo, kuyilapho uzihlalele.
Ukusesha ubufazi
Kimina kubonakala sengathi inkinga yobufazi ayikho nhlobo ukuthi omunye wethu akanayo. Futhi ngeke kanjani ibe khona uma wonke amangqamuzana omzimba wethu eyingqamuzana labesifazane? Futhi njengoba izakhi zofuzo zihlukile, ukubukeka kwazo, ukunyakaza, imikhuba nakho kuhlukile.
Okuwukuphela kombuzo ukuthi singalizwa kanjani izwi lokungajwayelekile kwethu, ngoba akulona elinomsindo kakhulu futhi ukugeleza kolwazi lwangaphandle kuyiminza kaningi. Ukuzivocavoca "Ngingowesifazane onjani njengamanje?" kuzosiza kulokhu. Izivivinyo zesignali zehora zingenye yezintandokazi zami: zithuthukisa ngokushesha noma yimuphi umsebenzi esihlose ukuwenza. Umgomo wokuzivocavoca ulula: lokho esikunaka kuzokhula futhi kuthuthuke.
Vula ukunaka kwakho ngaphakathi bese uzibuza umbuzo: Ngizizwa ngingowesifazane kangakanani njengamanje?
Ngakho-ke, zitholele iwashi elinesiginali yehora noma usethe isibali sikhathi kufoni yakho. Ngesikhathi sesiginali, phendulela ukunaka kwakho ngaphakathi bese uzibuza umbuzo: ngizizwa ngingowesifazane kangakanani njengamanje? Lo msebenzi awuthathi imizuzwana engaphezu kwemithathu: sishintsha ukunaka, silinde impendulo evela emzimbeni bese sibuyela ebhizinisini lethu.
Kwenze amasonto amabili, futhi mhlawumbe amasonto amathathu, futhi uzomangala ukuthi lo muzwa uzokhanya futhi uqondakala kanjani - umuzwa wakho oyingqayizivele, ongenakuqhathaniswa wobufazi.