Ingabe umuzwa wenjabulo uyilungelo lethu lemvelo noma umvuzo wezenzo ezinhle nokusebenza kanzima? Ukumamatheka Kwenhlanhla noma ukunxeshezelwa ngokuhlupheka okubekezelelwe? Kuyini ukufaneleka komuntu owaneliseka ngokujulile ngokuphila, umndeni, umsebenzi futhi ujabule ngazo zonke izinsuku ezintsha? Ingabe waya emgomweni wakhe iminyaka noma nje “wazalelwa ehembe”?
Amandla okujabula ancike ku-50% ezicini ezizalwa nazo: uhlobo lomuntu, isimo sengqondo, ukwakheka kobuchopho - lokhu kuyimiphumela yezifundo eziningi. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi abaningi bethu kusukela ebuntwaneni bazizwa bejabule / bengajabule, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani kithi.
“Kodwa nokho, izenzo zethu—miphi imisebenzi esiyikhethayo, yiziphi izinjongo esizilwela, indlela esikhuluma ngayo nabantu—zithonya umbono wezwe ngaphezu kwalokho okubonakala kuwubuwula,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uTamara Gordeeva. - Ubuntu bethu abubekiwe, bakheka ohlelweni lokusebenzelana nezwe. Ungase uthi “Anginawo ama-dopamine anele” futhi udabuke ngakho. Kodwa uma siqala ukwenza okuthile, isimo siyashintsha. Okokuqala, okusenza sijabule kuwumsebenzi onenjongo futhi wokudala, ikakhulukazi ohlobene nokusiza abanye abantu futhi uqondiswe - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzwakala unomsindo kangakanani - ukushintsha umhlaba ube ngcono.
Kunamasu amaningi okuziphatha asisiza ukuthi sizizwe saneliseke kakhulu ngempilo. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukuzijwayeza ukubonga, ukusebenzisa amandla akho, nokwazisa okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle. Okubaluleke nakakhulu - ikhono lokulondoloza ubudlelwano obufudumele obusekelwe ekuhlonipheni nasekumukeleni, futhi ekukhulumisaneni ukukhetha izindlela ezisebenzayo nezakhayo zokuphendula. Kusho ukuzwelana nokujabula, ukucacisa, ukubuza imibuzo, ukuhileleka ngokugcwele esimweni.
Uma imigomo yakho ingaphezulu kwesigaba "sokuba" kunokuthi "ukuba", khona-ke injabulo izosondela
Enye indlela eya enjabulweni iholela ekhonweni lokubambisana nezwe, ukuhlala uzolile, ungethuki futhi ungesabi ubunzima. UTamara Gordeeva uyaphawula: “Isimiso esiyinhloko siwukuba nesithakazelo ekuphileni, esisiphazamisa ekukhathazekeni nasezintweni ezikhathazayo ngokweqile. “Lapho sizicabangela thina futhi singabanaki abanye, maningi amathuba okuba sizizwe sidabukile.”
Kulula kumuntu olinganiselayo, ovulelekile, futhi onomusa ngokwemvelo noma ngenxa yokukhuliswa komndeni ukulandela la masu. Abanye kufanele basebenze ekubukeni kwabo kwezwe kanye nobudlelwane nabanye: ngokuqaphela ukuyeka izifiso ezingenakulinganisela, qala imikhuba emihle, isibonelo, khumbula kusihlwa izenzakalo ezintathu ezinhle ezenzeka phakathi nosuku. Khona-ke ukuphila kuyoletha ukwaneliseka okwengeziwe.
Omunye umbuzo uwukuthi ufanelekile kangakanani umgomo onjalo ukujabula. “Lapho silwela ngokwengeziwe injabulo, kulapho siqhela khona,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. “Kungcono ukukhetha imigomo esekelwe kumagugu akho.” Uma imigomo yakho ingaphezulu kwesigaba "sokuba" kunokuthi "ukuba", okuhlobene nokukhula komuntu siqu, ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono noma ubudlelwano nabanye, khona-ke injabulo izosondela.