Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kithi ukuthi singafinyelela umgomo wethu kuphela uma siqhubekela kuwo ngayo yonke intokozo nengcindezi. Lesi sitayela singokwemvelo emadodeni, kusho isazi sezengqondo-acmeologist, umqeqeshi wesifazane u-Ekaterina Smirnova. Futhi thina, besifazane, sinamanye, ngezinye izikhathi amathuluzi asebenza kakhulu.
Ukuze ufinyelele imigomo ebekiwe, dlulela ngenhloso emgomweni ohlosiwe, sebenza ngokuhlelekile, ube umholi oqinile - abesifazane abaningi bakhetha isu elinjalo ebhizinisini nasempilweni. Kodwa ingabe njalo kuyamzuzisa owesifazane ngokwakhe?
“Ngesinye isikhathi, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba ngingene ezifundweni zokusebenza kwengqondo, ngasebenza enkampanini yenethiwekhi, ngidayisa izimonyo neziqholo, futhi ngathola imiphumela,” kukhumbula isazi sesayensi yezemvelo u-Ekaterina Smirnova. - Usuku lwami lonke lwaluhlelwe ngomzuzu: ekuseni ngazibekela imigomo, futhi kusihlwa ngifingqa imiphumela, umhlangano ngamunye wawulawulwa futhi kufanele ulethe umphumela othize. Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, ngaba umthengisi ongcono kakhulu eqenjini, ngabe sengikhuluma nabesifazane abangu-160 abakhiqiza kakhulu enkampanini futhi ngabelana ngolwazi lwami.
Kodwa uhlelo olunjalo lwathatha zonke izinsiza zami. Kwakudinga amandla kakhulu. Yebo, lesi yisikole esihle kakhulu, kepha ngesinye isikhathi uyabona ukuthi usuphenduke i-cog emshinini omkhulu. Futhi bavele bakukhame njengolamula. Ngenxa yalokho, kwaqala ubunzima emndenini wami, ngaba nezinkinga zempilo. Futhi ngathi kimi, “Yeka! Sekwanele!» Futhi washintsha amaqhinga.
Amandla emvelo yowesifazane
U-Ekaterina uyavuma ukuthi wenza ngokuvumelana ne-algorithm yesilisa. Lokhu kwasebenza kahle kumqashi, kodwa hhayi yena noma abathandekayo bakhe. Waqala ukufuna ezinye izindlela namathuluzi ukuze afinyelele imigomo ezoletha ukwaneliseka, ukunikeza amandla yena nomndeni wakhe, ukumcebisa.
“Singakwazi ukufeza konke esikufunayo, kodwa ngendlela ehlukile. Ngiyathanda ukuphupha nokwenza amaphupho afezeke njengowesifazane. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ngizizwa njengomlingo.
Kusho ukuthini "owesifazane"? “Kulapho sifunda khona ukuba ngowesifazane ongaphili ngokuvumelana naye kuphela, kodwa futhi ngokuzwana nangobunye nomndeni,” kuchaza u-Ekaterina. - Owesifazane onjalo unokholo emandleni e-Universe, uNkulunkulu, uMama Omkhulu (ngamunye unokuthile okungokwakhe). Unokuxhumana nemvelo yakhe yowesifazane, wethemba intuition yemvelo ethuthuke kakhulu futhi uzwa ukuthi angenza kanjani amaphupho afezeke.
Ngokombono wakhe, owesifazane uyazi ukuthi angashintsha kanjani, njengokungathi ubambe isilawuli kude ngezinkinobho ezandleni zakhe, ekhetha isiteshi sakhe selungu ngalinye lomndeni noma osebenza naye. Noma ime esitofini esikhulu futhi azi ukuthi ngasiphi isikhathi sokufaka umlilo kwesinye sezihlobo zakhe, futhi anciphise kwesinye. Owesifazane onjalo ohlakaniphile uqoqa amandla, azigcwalise kuqala, bese ehambisa izinsiza zangaphakathi kumaphuzu nezikhombisi-ndlela ezifanele.
Ukuze ufeze izinhloso zakho, akusadingeki ugibele ihhashi eligijimayo nesabha evuliwe noma ugibele ibhuldoza, ushanela izithiyo.
Njengamanje, indodana idinga ukunakwa, futhi manje kungcono ukondla umyeni futhi umbeke embhedeni ngaphandle kokubuza imibuzo eminingi, kodwa uye kumngane ngokwakhe futhi uxoxe ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Kodwa kusasa umyeni uzobe ephumule futhi ejabule.
Ukusabalalisa amandla nokukhuthaza abathandekayo kuwumsebenzi oyinhloko wesifazane, umqeqeshi uyaqiniseka. Futhi angakwenza lokhu ngokuzikhandla, ephoqelela ngokunembile yonke into ukuthi ijikeleze umsebenzi nephupho lakhe. Yonke into ixazululwa yodwa, kule misebenzi “indawo iyashintsha”, kutholakala abantu abalungile abazoba othisha bethu noma basisize sifeze izinhlelo zethu.
“Uma owesifazane enza yonke into ngothando, uyazi ngenhliziyo yakhe ukuthi kufanele enze kanjani, angagcwalisa kanjani iphupho lakhe ngamandla akhe nabantu abafudumele abathandayo. Ukuze ufinyelele imigomo yakho, akusadingeki ugibele ihhashi eligijimayo elihoshiwe inkemba noma ugibele ibhuldoza, ushanela izithiyo endleleni, njengoba kwenza abesifazane abaningi abathanda amasu amadoda.
Izinsimbi zabesifazane ezithambile zifana nemeyili ye-VIP, iletha ulwazi oludingekayo ku-Universe ngokushesha nangokuthembekile. Owesifazane ofunde lobu buciko umane uyazi futhi uyakwenza. NjengoVasilisa omangalisayo, enyakazisa umkhono wakhe. Futhi lokhu akusona isingathekiso, kodwa imizwa yangempela abesifazane, okungenani kanye ekugelezeni, ababhekana nayo.
Ikhithi Yamathuluzi Yowesifazane Ohlakaniphile
Enye yalezi zinsimbi ezithambile zesifazane ibizwa ngokuthi “Imizuzu eyisikhombisa ephindwe kathathu”. Umgomo womsebenzi wakhe ukudlula ezigabeni eziyisikhombisa ukusuka ekwamukeleni umsebenzi kuye ekuwuxazululeni. “Ake ngithi nginephupho: Ngifuna umndeni wami uthuthele kwenye indlu enethezekile. Ngiyamtshela umyeni wami ngakho. Kuyoba njani ukusabela kwakhe kokuqala? Ezimweni ezingu-99% sibhekana nokuphikiswa. “Nathi sizizwa sijabule lapha!”, Noma “Manje asikwazi ukukukhokhela!”, Noma “Manje akusekho lapho — ngizoqedela iphrojekthi …”.
Owesifazane ojwayelekile uzocasuka noma uzofakazela icala lakhe ngobudlova. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uyazi ukuthi unezikhathi eziyisithupha ezengeziwe zemizuzu emithathu. Uzokwazi ukuphinde amkhumbuze ngephupho lakhe, kodwa ngendlela ehlukile.
Owesifazane uzofeza ukuthi ngesikhathi sesikhombisa indoda izocabangela lo mbono hhayi nje othakazelisayo, kodwa futhi owakhe.
Okwesibili, uzobeka kahle ikhathalogi yezindlu ezintsha endaweni esobala, ephikisana ngokuzwakalayo ukuthi ukukhanya kunjani nokuthi umyeni wakhe ekugcineni uzoba nehhovisi lakhe, futhi ingane ngayinye inekamelo layo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi kulesi sigaba umyeni uzovuma, kodwa uzolinda okwesithathu. Engxoxweni nonina noma uninazala, uzokwabelana ngombono. "Hhayi-ke ... udinga ukucabanga ngakho," kusho umyeni.
Futhi ngakho kancane kancane, ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngokubandakanyeka kwezinsiza ezihlukahlukene, izincwadi, abangane, uhambo lokuvakashela indlu enkulu, izingxoxo ezihlangene, uzofinyelela ukuthi ngesikhathi sesikhombisa le ndoda izocabangela lo mbono hhayi nje othakazelisayo, kodwa futhi. okwakhe. "Sekuyisikhathi eside ngikhuluma ngalokhu, akunjalo, sithandwa?" “Yebo, sithandwa, umqondo omuhle!” Futhi wonke umuntu uyajabula, ngoba isinqumo senziwe ngothando.
“Ngamunye wethu, njengomsiki, upholisha imiphetho yedayimane ukuphila kwakhe konke. Sifunda ukudala, ukuhlanganisa, okuxhumene nobulili bethu besifazane namandla abo, ukuze sizizwe njengabathakathi bangempela abakha ubuhle, imfudumalo nothando, "kusho u-Ekaterina Smirnova. Ngakho mhlawumbe kuwufanele ngizame?