Ubulili obude: imidlalo namasu okuqhubeka nokujabulela

Ubulili obude: imidlalo namasu okuqhubeka nokujabulela

Sexuality

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uNayara Malnero wembula encwadini yakhe ethi Sex ukude ukuthi yimiphi imidlalo evusa inkanuko eyenza izinga lokushisa likhuphuke kakhulu.

Ukuya ocansini wedwa kube yinselelo enkulu kubantu abaningi abahlala emakhaya ahlukene, kodwa i-Covid-19 ibe yinselelo encane kwabesifazane. ubuchwepheshe obusha., abebephethe ukufinyeza amabanga nokwenza isikhathi esinzima sokuvalelwa wonke umuntu aphile kuso sibekezeleleke kakhudlwana.

Ucingo seluphenduke umngane omkhulu, futhi yonke leyo mibhangqwana, 'ichoboza' noma abangani abanelungelo lokuthinta abaye bahlala kude isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga ezimbili nesigamu kuye kwadingeka bazivumelanise namaphethini isimo esibanike wona; ngaphandle ukuthintana ngokomzimba umcabango womuntu undiza nakakhulu, futhi izindlela ezingenakubalwa zokuqhubeka nokuya ocansini sezisunguliwe kabusha, futhi asikhulumi kuphela ngalokho umuntu ngamunye anakho kuye.

“Izindlela ezijwayelekile nezijwayelekile zokuhlalisana zisusiwe kithina futhi sesizisungulele kabusha, sesithuthukile. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule ngethule umbuzo ezingosini zami zokuxhumana ukuze ngithole ukuthi ngabe sebejoyine ucansi ku-inthanethi, futhi u-50% waphendula ngokuthi ngabe uke waluzama ngaphambilini. Kwabangu-50% abasele, u-25% bayiphasile kanti enye ingxenye bayitholile ngesikhathi bevalelwe, ” kuchaza uNayara Malnero, udokotela wezengqondo jikelele, udokotela wezocansi kanye nomqeqeshi wezocansi.

Izinkinga, njengoba umbhali «Distance sex. Imibono engama-50, imidlalo namaqhinga okuqhubeka nokuthokozela, bekudlulele kuzo zonke izici: ngenkathi ubudlelwano sebumbene kakhulu futhi budale ukuhlangana. isixhumanisi esikhulu, abanye beze ukuvalelisa, ukwehlukana nesehlukaniso. “Kunezithandani okwathi ngesikhathi ziboshiwe zikwazile ukusukuma futhi abuke amehlo ngokokuqala ngqá, baye bazana futhi baba nesikhathi somunye nomunye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abanye abaningi bathole ukuthi ngamunye ungcono eyedwa ”, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.

Khulula ocingweni

Akufani nokuba nomaqondana njengokungabi naye, nalabo abangakaphonsi kulezi zinsuku izicelo zokuqomisana. "I-Tinder ikhule ngesikhathi ivalelwe, futhi imibhangqwana ephume ingenamyocu kulokhu kuhlukaniswa ikwazile ukuzivumelanisa nesikhathi," kusho uNayara Malnero, othi. amakholi wevidiyo sebefikile ngenxa yemiyalezo ebilokhu iphakamisa izwi, nokushintshisana ngezithombe okwenzekile. "Le ndlela yokuxhumana nokuya ocansini izohlala ngoba kuningi ukwesaba ukutheleleka, ngakho uma kutholakala enye indlela ephephile, ikuvumela ukuba ujabulele ucansi kungakhathaliseki ibanga», Uyaphetha.

Abasebenzisi bebekhuluma namameshi avela emhlabeni wonke ngenxa yokusebenza kwePasport, okukuvumela ukuthi ufanise abantu abaqhele ngezinkulungwane zamakhilomitha futhi ibitholakala mahhala phakathi kukaMashi 27 noMeyi 4. Izingxoxo eSpain zikhuphuke ngo-30% uma kuqhathaniswa ekuqaleni kukaMashi, ngaphambi kokuvalelwa yedwa, okuphikisana nama-20% emhlabeni jikelele.

Imidlalo emibili evusa inkanuko

Uma okuthile kugcwele incwadi kaNayara Malnero, kunjalo imidlalo evusa inkanuko neyocansi ukukhanyisa isikhathi sanoma ubani. Ukuthi unozakwethu noma awunaye nokuthi uhlala naye noma cha, le midlalo ilungele ukunyusa izinga lokushisa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi.

“Incwadi yami inemidlalo engama-50, kodwa kunokuhlukahluka okuningi phakathi kowodwa. Okujabulisa kakhulu ukuzincisha izithombe noma ungabi nawo umsindo. Uma sithumela ividiyo engenawo umsindo noma umsindo lapho kungekho zithombe, siba nekhono ngokwengeziwe, ”kusho yena. U-Nayara Malnero uphawula ukuthi ngokuzincisha isikhuthazo, sikhulula ezinye izinzwa. “Empilweni singagqoka iduku kodwa singakwazi ukubona. Kuyajabulisa lokho, ngakho-ke kuzoba okufanayo enguqulweni ye-inthanethi ».

Ngokushintshana. Kuyinto yakudala, kodwa ayisebenzi kangako kulokho. Ngenkathi umlingani wakho egqugquzelwa, ubona kuphela kodwa akakwazi ukwenza lutho. "Ngomuntu sivame ukuzivuselela ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze sibe kumnandi kakhulu, kodwa ngale ndlela, lapho oyedwa kuphela kwababili ejima, kuba nokuhlupheka kokulinda nokwenyuka kwezinga lokushisa. Uma lwenziwa ngekholi yevidiyo, inkambiso iyafana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyasiza kakhulu ukufunda kancane mayelana nendlela umlingani wakho athanda ngayo », kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nesazi sezocansi.