Isiko lethu liqhakambisa ukungathembeki. Amakhulu amafilimu enziwa ngabo, kubhalwe izingoma. Ukukopela ngokuvamile kubonakala kubo njengento engavamile ecacile yezinzwa okungaba ubuwula ukuyigeja. Futhi umunyu wecala ususa kuphela ukunambitheka okumnandi kwalesi sithelo esinqatshelwe. Sizama ukungacabangi ngemiphumela emibi yokuxhumana kwangaphandle, sinethemba lokuthi konke kuzogcinwa kuyimfihlo. I-Blogger Rod Arters ichaza ukuthi kungani ukukopela kuyinhlekelele yomuntu siqu.
Ngokwezibalo, amadoda akhohlisa kaningi kunabesifazane. Ake sibheke amaphuzu leli phutha elibasongela ngawo.
1. Uzothola igama elisemthethweni elithi Umqambimanga. Ukuba umkhohlisi onobuqili akujabulisi kakhulu, kodwa ukukopela, uphoqeleka ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi ukhohlise njalo. Konke kuqala ngengxenye yeqiniso elimsulwa elithi «Ngizofika sekwephuzile emsebenzini namuhla», kodwa ngokushesha iphenduka ibhola eligoqayo lamanga ayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
2. Konke okuyimfihlo kuzocaca. Mhlawumbe hhayi namuhla, hhayi kusasa, kodwa ngokushesha noma kamuva bazothola mayelana nokukhaphela kwakho. Kuzoxoxwa ngakho, imininingwane yenoveli yakho izotholakala ezingxoxweni ezingenzi lutho. Akumangalisi ukuthi isaga samaShayina sithi: "Uma ungafuni noma ubani azi ngakho, ungakwenzi."
3. Wonke umuntu uzodumala. Umlingani wakho. Abangani bakho. ozakwenu. Abazali bakho. Izingane zakho. Wena ngokwakho. Ukudumala okujwayelekile kuzokuhlupha isikhathi eside njengephunga elibi.
Kunzima ukuthonya abanye, ikakhulukazi izingane zakho siqu, uma zazi ukuthi wena ngokwakho awusona isibonelo sobuhle.
4. Uzolahlekelwa ukwethembeka. Kunzima kakhulu ukuthonya abanye abantu, futhi ikakhulukazi izingane zakho, uma zazi ukuthi wena ngokwakho ukude nokuba yisibonelo sobuhle. Noma yikuphi ukuhlolwa kokuziphatha okwenzayo kuzothathwa ngokukloloda. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ungene ngaphansi komhlaba, kodwa zilungiselele ukungalalelwa kancane.
5. Uzolahlekelwa ukwethenjwa umlingani wakho nezingane. Wena wedwa uzoqeda isithunzi somuntu owake wamthembisa ukuthi uzomthanda impilo yakho yonke. Isipoki sokungathembeki kwakho sizobahlupha kubo bonke ubudlelwano obusha abanabo. Izingane zakho zizoshaqeka: isimo sabo sengqondo ngothando nomshado ngeke sishintshe sibe ngcono. Ezinganeni, uthando lwabazali bobabili luyisisekelo sokunethezeka kwengqondo, futhi luzocekelwa phansi.
6. Uzophupha ngokudabukisayo ukuthi konke kuzofana nakuqala.. Kuwe kwakubonakala sengathi utshani buluhlaza kakhudlwana ngemva kocingo. Empeleni kwakuwumphumela wokubona. Eduze, ayiluhlaza kangako futhi ayinamanzi. Uyakubona lokhu uma ulahlwa yicala lokuvukela umbuso futhi ithemba ledivosi liyanda. Uzobuka ngendlela ehlukile utshani bakho - yeka usizi, manje selushile futhi awukwazi ukuba nepikiniki kulo. Kuvele ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokujabulela utshani obuluhlaza ukuchelela utshani bakho.
Izimo zakho zokuhlala zizoba zimbi. Ngokunokwenzeka, kuzodingeka ufune enye indawo yokuhlala. Hlukanisa impahla, khokha imali yesondlo
7. Uzobheka impilo ngezinsolo futhi kuzoba nzima kuwe ukwakha ubudlelwano obusha. Abantu abasolisayo kakhulu baqamba amanga. Njengomthetho, imishado phakathi kwabathandi bangaphambili ihlala isikhathi esifushane. Uthando lwabo lwaqala ngamanga, futhi ngokwemvelo bathambekele ekusolaneni ngokuvukela umbuso ngokwesimo esifanayo.
8. Izimo zakho zokuphila zizoba zimbi kakhulu. Ngokunokwenzeka, kuzodingeka ufune enye indawo yokuhlala. Hlukanisa impahla ehlanganyelwe. Khokha isondlo sanyanga zonke. Ulahlekelwe ingxenye yebhizinisi ngemva kwecala. Esimeni esihle kakhulu, umlingani okhohlisiwe uzoyeka ukukusiza futhi akunakekele, njengoba enza ngaphambili.
9. Uzifaka engozini yokucwila ekucindezelekeni. Abangane bomshado abaningi abangathembekile, ngokushesha noma kamuva, bayaphenduka esenzweni sabo. Ukuqaphela kungase kungafiki ngokushesha, kodwa uchungechunge lokulahlekelwa lubenza baqiniseke ukuthi imizuzu embalwa yokuzijabulisa yayingafanele ukulahlekelwa umbuso wonke.
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