Okuqukethwe
Sonke sincamela ukuzinza. Amasiko amisiwe, imithetho nezinqubo zivumela kokubili abantu ngabanye kanye namaqembu ewonke kanye nezinhlangano ukuthi zisebenze ngokuzinza nangempumelelo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma ushintsho lungenakugwenywa? Ungafunda kanjani ukuzinqoba futhi uyeke ukubesaba?
Sonke siyalwesaba ushintsho. Kungani? Ukuhleleka kwezinto okuvamile nokungaguquki kunciphisa izinga lethu lokucindezeleka, kudala umuzwa wokulawula nokubikezela. Izinguquko ezinkulu, ngisho nezijabulisayo, zihlala ziphula ukuhleleka okumisiwe. Izinguquko zivame ukuhlotshaniswa nokungaqiniseki nokungaqondakali, ngakho-ke okuningi kwalokho osekunesikhathi eside sikujwayele kungase kunganeli ezimweni ezintsha. Ngenxa yalokhu, singazizwa sengathi umhlabathi uphuma ngaphansi kwezinyawo zethu, okungabangela ukukhathazeka (ikakhulukazi kubantu ababhekene nalokhu).
Lapho ukukhathazeka kuba yingxenye yokuphila unomphela, kubeka engcupheni ukukhiqiza kanye nenhlalakahle yethu. Akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuqeda ngokuphelele ukukhathazeka, kodwa ungafunda ukuyilawula. Uma singakwazi ukubekezelela kangcono ukungaqondakali nokungaqiniseki, kuyancipha ukuthambekela ekucindezelekeni.
Nawa amanye amakhono angakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nokwesaba kwakho.
1. Funda ukubekezela
Ukuze uvumelane noshintsho, udinga ukufunda ukubekezelela ukungaqiniseki.
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba, ukuphefumula, nokuzindla kuyizindlela ezinhle zokuphatha izimpawu zokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka, kodwa ukuze ubhekane nembangela yalezi zimpawu, udinga ukufunda ukubekezelela kangcono ukungaqiniseki. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abakubekezelela kahle ukungaqiniseki abacindezeli kangako, bacabanga ngokucacile, futhi ngokuvamile bayachuma.
2. Gxila emphumeleni
Zama ukugxila kuphela emiphumeleni engenzeka kakhulu yezinguquko ezenzekayo, esikhundleni sokubheka yonke into engenzeka ngokwethiyori. Ungagxili ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu nasezinhlekeleleni okungenzeka kakhulu
3. Thatha umthwalo wemfanelo
Abantu abanamandla okushintsha hlukanisa lokho okuncike kubo (futhi wenze okudingekayo mayelana nalokhu), nalokho abangakulawuli nganoma iyiphi indlela (abangakhathazeki ngalokhu). Bakulungele ukwenza njengoba becabanga ukuthi kulungile, ngaphandle kokuba nolwazi oluphelele. Ngakho-ke, cishe abalokothi bazizwe bekhubazekile ngezikhathi zoshintsho.
Ungaphathi noma yiluphi ushintsho njengosongo, kodwa njengenselele
Abantu abanjalo bayaqiniseka ukuthi ukungaqiniseki kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila futhi bayaqaphela ukuthi ushintsho luhlala lunzima ngakho-ke kungokwemvelo ukuthi lubangele ukukhathazeka. Nokho, abalubheki ushintsho njengento enhle noma embi. Kunalokho, bakholelwa ukuthi kukhona ama-pluses nama-minuses kunoma yiziphi izinguquko futhi bazama ukubuka izinguquko hhayi njengosongo, kodwa njengokuhlola.
4. Lawula impilo yakho
Ukwenza kuphela lokho ongakuthonya ngempela, uzoqala ukuzwa ukuthi nguwe olawula isiphetho sakho, futhi lokhu kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yethu engokwengqondo.
Abanye abantu banazo ngokwemvelo lezi zimfanelo, abanye abanazo. Nokho, ngamunye wethu angakwazi ukuzithuthukisa ngandlela thize.
Ngokufunda ukubekezelela ukungaqiniseki kahle, sizokwazi ukunqoba izikhathi zoshintsho ngaphandle kwezinkinga ezibalulekile futhi, cishe, sizoyeka ukuhlala sibhekana nokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka.