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“Ngithanda umyeni wami ngaphezu kwezingane zami”
U-Ayelet Waldman ungumbhali nomama wezingane ezine. Ngo-2005, wabamba iqhaza ekubhalweni kwencwadi Ngoba ngishilo, lapho abesifazane abangu-33 bekhuluma ngezingane, ubulili, amadoda, ubudala babo, ukholo kanye ngokwabo. Nakhu akushoyo:
“Uma kungathiwa ngifelwa yingane ngingaphatheka kabi kodwa ngiyayibona ilandelana. Ngoba ngabe ngisenaye umyeni wami. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, angikwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngikhona ngemva kokufa kwakhe. “
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Lesi simemezelo ngokushesha sibangela igagasi lentukuthelo phakathi komama, abangaqondi ukuthi owesifazane angamthanda kanjani umyeni wakhe “ngaphezu” kwezingane zakhe. Izinsongo, inhlamba, izingcingo ezinsizeni zezenhlalakahle… U-Ayelet Waldman uba isisulu sokuhlaselwa ngobudlova.
Umsakazi odume kakhulu kumabonakude, u-Oprah Winfrey, umema ohlelweni lwakhe ukuthi azichaze. Kodwa inkulumo-mpikiswano iphinde iphendukele enkantolo. Phakathi kwezinye izimenywa, “zine kuphela ezazingakimi, ezinye ezingamashumi amabili zazifuna ukungifaka amathumbu,” kusho u-Ayelet Waldman.
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