Okuqukethwe
Lapho kubonakala ngathi siyiziphukuphuku, sibi futhi asithakazelisi kunoma ubani, lokhu kwenza ukuphila kwethu kungabekezeleleki. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Seth Gillian ukhuthaza ukuthi uzithande futhi uyakutshela ukuthi ukwenze kanjani.
Kunzima ukujabula, uhlale unomuzwa wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngathi, kodwa imicabango emibi ayiveli ekuqaleni. Zivela lapho singazinaki ngokufanele: silala kancane, sidla ngokungajwayelekile, sihlale sizithethisa. Akulula ukuzibona siwumuntu obalulekile, othandekayo uma okuwukuphela komuntu esichitha naye amahora angu-24 ngosuku esiphatha kabi.
Kufanele uziphathe kahle ukuze ubone ukubaluleka kwakho, kodwa kuphela ngokuqaphela ukubaluleka kwakho ungaqala ukuzicabangela ngendlela eqondile. Indlela yokuphula umbuthano ononya? Okokuqala udinga ukushintsha ukuziphatha kwakho.
Phila sengathi uzithanda wena, ngisho noma uzizwa ngenye indlela. Zenze sengathi ulungile kuwe, zenzisa. Zitshele ukuthi izidingo zakho zibaluleke kakhulu futhi uqale ukuzinakekela.
Nawa amasu amane angakusiza ukuthi uguqule ukuziphatha kwakho, bese kuba imicabango nemizwa yakho.
1. Beka eceleni isikhathi esanele sokuhlela kahle usuku lwakho
Ukungeneliseki ngokwethu kuvame ukuvela eqinisweni lokuthi sibamba izinto ezimbalwa ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngenxa yalokho, senza yonke into ngandlela-thile, asinaso isikhathi sokuqeda esikuqalile, noma sibambeke ohlotsheni olulodwa lomsebenzi. Ukuze ungaguquguquki ekuzishayeleni phansi, udinga ukuzama ukuhlela kangcono usuku lwakho. Uhlelo akumele lube lude - kungcono ukuqeda ngokuphelele imisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu kunokuba uqale futhi uyeke imisebenzi eminingi enamazinga ahlukahlukene okubaluleka.
2. Ziphekele ukudla kwasemini okumnandi
Pheka sengathi wenzela umuntu omkhathalelayo. Khumbula ukuthi yini lo muntu ayithandayo, cabanga ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani, enambitha into elungiselelwe ngothando ngaye. Zicabange ungumuntu ofanelwe ukudla okumnandi.
3. Zindla ngezidingo zakho: nquma ukuthi ziyini nokuthi ungahlangabezana kanjani nazo
Labo abazaziyo izidingo zabo bazinzile ngokomzwelo futhi bayazethemba ebudlelwaneni babo futhi abakwesabi ukulahlekelwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, "ngokukhipha" izidingo zakho, uthola ithuba lokuzanelisa. Ziqondise kuwena leyo mizwa eyakhayo evame ukuya kwabanye.
4. Zizungeze nabantu abanethonya elihle kuwe.
Ubudlelwano nabanye bunquma kakhulu inhlalakahle kanye nombono wempilo. Bheka labo abakwenza ube ngcono, ube nombono omuhle futhi uzethembe. Zama ukugwema labo abaletha i-negativity empilweni yakho.
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Akulula kumuntu osezicabange ngendlela embi iminyaka eminingi. Qala ngezinyathelo ezincane futhi ufunde ukuphatha ukubukeka kwakho, umlingiswa, ingqondo ngemfudumalo eyengeziwe.
Cabanga ngesithombe sakho esisha esihle, hhayi njengenguqulo yakho entsha, kodwa njengomngane omusha. Ukujwayelana nabantu, asicabangi zonke izici zobuntu babo, asizihloli izici zokubukeka kwabo. Sithanda umuntu noma asimthandi. Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi lapho uzama ukuzithanda, ungadlulela kokunye: ukugxila kakhulu ezidingweni zakho. Nokho, lokhu akunakwenzeka.
Okokuqala, izinguquko ezinhle azilula futhi cishe kuzodingeka ubhekane “nokubuyela emuva” kokungazithandi isikhathi eside esizayo. Okwesibili, ukuzinakekela kwangempela kuholela ekuqondeni kangcono izidingo zabanye nokungena ezingeni elisha, eliqaphela kakhudlwana lobudlelwano.
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: USeth Jay Gillian isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomlobi wezindatshana ezikhuluma ngokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo, ukukhathazeka, nokudangala.