I-Psychology

"Kugcine kulula!" - abeluleki bafundisa njalo. Ungawaqonda: uma ulula, kulula kakhulu kuwo. Ungaphendula lezi zingcingo, noma ungazivumela ukuthi ube yinkimbinkimbi futhi uthole injabulo enezendlalelo eziningi, enezendlalelo eziningi kanye nezingxenye eziningi ekuphileni.

Ngemva kweminyaka engu-40, ngaqala ukunakekela isikhumba sami nokuya olwandle kusihlwa kuphela. Kuleli hlobo, kakade ngigqoke izingubo zokubhukuda ezinemigqa emnyama, ngabona izinkulungwane zama-crustaceans akhanyayo endaweni yokuntweza. Enye yazo yabamba indandatho yami futhi yakhanya isikhashana ngemva kokuba igagasi selibohlile. Bekukuhle. Ulwandle lwalucwebezela. Ngabiza indodakazi yami, ndawonye sakuthanda ukukhanya nalesi sikhathi, futhi sobabili sakhumbula ...

"Angidabuki, ngiyinkimbinkimbi," kusho uDkt House, "amantombazane ayayithanda." Futhi kuyiqiniso. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, inkimbinkimbi (ikakhulukazi abesifazane abayinkimbinkimbi) ididekile ngokudabukisayo, ukudangala futhi, okubi nakakhulu, okungajabulisi. “Yeka ukuthi kunzima kangakanani kuwe konke!” - basho ngezwi lokusola futhi bakubheke njengobubi.

Yini engalungile ngokuba nzima? Phela, lokhu kusho ukuthi unezizathu eziningi zokudideka (ujule, uqonde), kodwa futhi kunezindlela eziningi zokuzijabulisa. Futhi kuyoba okunethezeka, okunezitezi eziningi, ubumnandi obuyinkimbinkimbi. Noma ngabe ubhiya onama-sprats. Ngoba eziyinkimbinkimbi zinama-receptors amaningi, izinhlangano, izithuthukisi zokunambitheka. Banemizwa ebukhali kanye nokusabela okunamandla. Futhi ngakho badinga okuncane ukuze bajabule. Ziyinkimbinkimbi kangangokuthi zingajabulela izinto ezilula. Bangakwazi bodwa.

Uma uyinkimbinkimbi, ngakho-ke ngokuhamba kweminyaka umhlaba uba ngobuningi kuwe, uvuleka njengeqabunga letiye emanzini abilayo.

Uyazi, amakha amahle, uma uwahogela ephepheni, anuka ngokuhlukile kunasemzimbeni, ngemuva kwendlebe, hhayi esihlakaleni, nakusihlwa - hhayi njengasekuseni. Kalula ekuseni, kunamandla kusihlwa. Futhi emhlabeni wami, wonke umuntu nayo yonke into ibonakala ifafazwe ngemimoya enjalo. Konke okukuyo kuyanyakaza, yonke into ishintsha umumo nencazelo, ukujula nombala, futhi ngokuya, kushuba kakhulu. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukukhula nokuvuthwa, ngokubona kwami.

Nginomngane oneminyaka engu-12 ubudala. Lapho ngineminyaka engamashumi amathathu futhi yena eneminyaka engamashumi amane nambili, wake waphusha ikhibhodi kude, wazelula esihlalweni, wahlikihla amathambo akhe futhi wakhipha umoya: “Sinezinye izinto eziningi eziphakeme ngaphambi kwethu.” Khona-ke angizange ngithole izizathu zokuba nethemba lapho ngineminyaka engamashumi amane. Kodwa manje uneminyaka engu-55, futhi akunakwenzeka ukungavumi ukuthi kwakukhona ukuphakama okuningi futhi okufanayo kulindelekile. Ngoba uma uyinkimbinkimbi, lapho-ke ngokukhula umhlaba uba ngobuningi ngokwengeziwe kuwe, uvuleka njengeqabunga letiye emanzini abilayo. Kufana nocansi: intsha inenani, abantu abadala banekhwalithi. Intsha inogwayi oshibhile nesihlabathi ezikhindini zayo, abantu abadala bane-whisky kanye nomatilasi wamathambo. Futhi lena inkambo yemvelo yezinto.

Ukukhula kusho ukuthola izindlela eziningi eziphumelelayo zokuzamukela wena nempilo.

Ukukhula akusho ukuba neqoqo lezicathulo nokwakha ikhabethe elisha. Akuzona izinto eziningi ezintsha, kunezinto eziningi ezintsha ezithakaselwayo nemizwelo. Futhi izindlela eziningi eziphumelelayo zokuzamukela wena nempilo futhi ujabulele konke.

Futhi isipiliyoni, awukwazi ukukuthola noma kuphi. Uyanqwabelana. Futhi inikeza ivolumu ekuboneni, inikeza umphumela we-3D kukho konke. Usuvele uzame izinto eziningi, unokuncamelayo, okunamathiselwe - ngemibala, iphunga, imizwa ethintekayo, izindwangu zokuhlobisa izihlalo ...

Yebo, kubalulekile kuwe. Uma i-upholstery iwukuthi, i-carpet yokwenziwa ensundu, hhayi iqhwa, yebo, kodwa uzosinda - yilokho okushiwo umuntu omdala. Kodwa uma ilineni elikhanyayo - ungajabula kakade kulokhu. Ungahlala endaweni yokwamukela izivakashi ehhotela, ulinde othile, ubheke isandla sakho ku-armrest kanye nokulukwa kwemicu endwangu futhi ujabule.

Futhi kunjalo kukho konke: ekudleni notshwala, emadolobheni, izakhiwo zabo (bheka ukuthi yiziphi izitebhisi!), Izindawo, izindaba nezindlela, isimo sezulu nemvelo, i-cinema nomculo, ukuxhumana nobungane - kulokho okubalulekile, kodwa yini okufanele uvale amehlo akho kumuntu ... Kukhethwe eningini — i-buzz yabo nezinto abazithandayo. Futhi konke lokhu akukusindisi, kodwa kwenza kube lula.

Okunye, uma kungenzeki lutho kulokhu. Endaweni ethile kukhona okwaphuka futhi akwenzekanga. Futhi awunayo insiza ejulile yangaphakathi - okunamathiselwe okukhulu nezincane, uthando, ukuzwelana, injabulo, ukunambitheka kwempilo... Amathuba ezezimali angakuqinisa konke lokhu, kodwa awakwazi ukukumiselela.

Futhi uma kukuncane kakhulu ongakusho: “O, yeka indlela engikuthanda ngayo! Ngiyayithanda nje." Okusho ukuthi, ungasho - uthando alusebenzi. Kodwa kubonakala sengathi kufanele ujabule ngezinye izikhathi, futhi uzibheke bese ubuza: “Yini engiyithanda kakhulu ekuphileni? Ubani engifuna ukumbona manje? Ukungenza ngijabule kakhulu manje - wow! Futhi ekuphenduleni, ukuthula. Futhi usengakwazi ukukhuhla nge-spoon epanini le-copper lezifiso, kodwa lutho. Futhi yilapho kuqala: “Siphi isithambisa sami sesithende? Kungani itiye libanda, i-champagne ifudumele? Futhi amakhiyubhu eqhwa engilazini ayimumo engalungile.

Kodwa uma yonke into isikhulile - empilweni unokuningi kwalokho okuthandayo. Kubandakanya izinto ezingaqondakali nezingavamile, izinhlamvu zesihlabathi nemifantu owathola kudala, owajwayela futhi ohlobisa impilo nsuku zonke. Ubuhle ukuthi usuzixolele ngezinto ezingavamile futhi nawo wonke umuntu onomlando wobudlelwane: ukuphika, intukuthelo, ukuxoxisana, ukudangala, ukwamukela - futhi konke lokhu kusemva kwakho. Uyabathanda kuwena futhi uyazi ukuthi bakwenza wehluke kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngenza isiqiniseko ngakho.

Ukuvuthwa nokuba yinkimbinkimbi yilapho ukwazi ukukhotha amanxeba akho, ukupholisa izibazi zakho, noma ukuzigqoka ngokuziqhenya, njengama-oda.

Futhi namaphutha akho, okwakungamaphutha eqiniso, noma uthando lweqiniso, oluhlale lulungile. Kodwa ukukhula, ukuvuthwa nokuba yinkimbinkimbi yilapho ukwazi ukukhotha amanxeba akho, ukupholisa izibazi zakho, noma ukuzigqoka ngokuziqhenya, njengemiyalelo. Futhi kancane kancane ukuzizwa isizungu, futhi uma uzizwa, ke ungakwesabi.

Yeka ukuthi kuyinqaba kanjani ukulalela izingcingo zokuthola izinto zibe lula, injabulo yomuntu “elula,” ukuzithoba kokunethezeka, ukufafaza umlotha ekhanda lomuntu — yebo, bathi, ngidinga izimo ezengeziwe zenjabulo, izesekeli ezengeziwe, newayini lasechwebeni elishibhile kanye “nomngane” ugwayi awanele ukuba ngizijabulise. Ukulangazelela ukuziphatha okubi kwentsha, ubudedengu nokuphelelwa ithemba kukho konke - ngezinye izikhathi kuyavela. Kodwa uma wazi futhi uthanda izinto eziningi ezahlukene, uthanda ngokuningiliziwe, uluma ngokushisa okunjalo, awuzisoli ukuthi awuneminyaka engu-20 ubudala. Futhi ukuthi uchithe kanjani amahora ulele ogwini, ungesabi ukushiswa, futhi uzishise ekushintsheni okuphelele kwesikhumba, ukhumbula ngaphandle kwe-nostalgia emnandi.

Njengoba omunye umthengisi we-air conditioner ophumelele kakhulu ethi: uma usutholile indawo yakho elangeni, ukukhetha kwakho ukuhlala emthunzini. Kukhona kwalasha wezinto ezithakazelisayo kanye nohlu olude lochungechunge olusadinga ukubukwa.

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