Okuqukethwe
Izingxabano zomndeni, ulaka, udlame… Umndeni ngamunye unezinkinga zawo, kwesinye isikhathi ngisho namadrama. Ingane, iqhubeka ithanda abazali bayo, ingazivikela kanjani ekuhlaselweni? Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ubathethelela kanjani? Le mibuzo ihlolisiswe ngumlingisi, umbhali wesikrini kanye nomqondisi uMaiwenn le Besco efilimini ethi Excuse Me.
«”- umsebenzi wokuqala kaMayvenn le Besco. Waphuma ngo-2006. Nokho, indaba kaJuliette, owenza ifilimu ngomkhaya wakhe, ithinta isihloko esibuhlungu kakhulu. Ngokusho kwetulo, i-heroine inethuba lokubuza uyise ngezizathu zokuphathwa kabi kwayo. Eqinisweni, asilokothi ngaso sonke isikhathi siveze izinto ezisikhathazayo. Kodwa umqondisi uqinisekile: kufanele. Kwenziwa kanjani?
INGANE ENGAQINISEKILE
“Umsebenzi oyinhloko nonzima kakhulu ezinganeni ukuqonda ukuthi isimo asivamile,” kusho uMaiwenn. Futhi lapho omunye wabazali ekuqondisa njalo futhi ephikelela, kudinga ukulalela imiyalo edlula igunya lakhe lobuzali, lokhu akuvamile. Kodwa izingane zivame ukwenza iphutha lokubonisa uthando.
“Ezinye izingane zingakwazi ukubhekana nolaka kalula kunokunganaki,” kunezela uDominique Fremy, udokotela wezinzwa zezingane.
Ekwazi lokhu, amalungu enhlangano yaseFrance i-Enfance et partage akhiphe i-disc lapho izingane zichazwa khona ukuthi amalungelo azo ayini nokuthi yini okufanele zenze ezimweni zokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu abadala.
UKUPHAKAMISA I-ALARM ISINYATHELO SOKUQALA
Ngisho noma ingane ibona ukuthi isimo asivamile, ubuhlungu nothando kubazali luqala ukudonsa kuye. UMaiwenn uyaqiniseka ukuthi ngokuvamile umuzwa wemvelo utshela izingane ukuba zivikele izihlobo zazo: “Uthisha wami wesikole waba ngowokuqala ukuhlaba umkhosi, okwathi lapho ebona ubuso bami obulimele, wakhononda kubaphathi. Ubaba wangifikela esikoleni ekhala izinyembezi, ebuza ukuthi kungani ngikhulume yonke into. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi, ngangimzonda uthisha owayemkhalisa.”
Esimweni esinjalo esingacacile, izingane azihlale zikulungele ukuxoxa nabazali bazo futhi ziwashe ilineni elingcolile phambi kwabantu. “Kuphazamisa ukuvinjelwa kwezimo ezinjalo,” kunezela uDkt. Akekho ofuna ukuzonda abazali bakhe.
INDLELA ende YOKUXOLELA
Lapho zikhula, izingane zisabela ngendlela ehlukile ekulimaleni kwazo: ezinye zizama ukusula izinkumbulo ezingemnandi, ezinye ziqeda ubuhlobo nemikhaya yazo, kodwa izinkinga zisekhona.
“Ngokuvamile, kulapho ziqala khona umkhaya wazo lapho izisulu zonya lwasekhaya kumelwe ziqaphele ngokucacile ukuthi isifiso sokuba nomntwana sihlobene eduze nesifiso sokubuyisela ubuntu bazo,” kusho uDkt. Ukukhula kwezingane akudingi izinyathelo ngokumelene nabazali babo abacindezelayo, kodwa ukuqashelwa kwamaphutha abo.
Yilokhu uMaiwenn azama ukukusho: “Okubalulekile ngempela ukuthi abantu abadala bawavuma amaphutha abo phambi kwenkantolo noma umbono womphakathi owenzayo.”
PHUMULA UMZUNGU
Ngokuvamile, abazali abaziphatha ngobudlova ezinganeni zabo, nabo, babencishwa uthando ebuntwaneni. Kodwa ingabe ayikho indlela yokunqamula lo mbuthano ononya? “Angikaze ngiyishaye ingane yami,” kusho uMaiwenn, “kodwa ngake ngakhuluma nayo ngokhahlo kangangokuthi yathi: “Mama, ngiyakwesaba.” Ngase ngisaba ukuthi ngangiphinda ukuziphatha kwabazali bami, nakuba ngenye indlela. Ungazikhohlisi: uma uke waphathwa kabi useyingane, maningi amathuba okuthi uzophinda le ndlela yokuziphatha. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe ukuze uzikhulule ezinkingeni zangaphakathi.
Ngisho noma uhluleka ukuthethelela abazali bakho, kufanele okungenani udedele isimo ukuze usindise ubuhlobo bakho nezingane zakho.
Umthombo: Doctissimo.