Okuqukethwe
Akalokothi akhulume ngemizwa yakhe, anganyamalala izinsuku ezimbalwa. Ngemva kwakhe kwelula isitimela sezinhliziyo eziphukile, kodwa kubonakala kuwe: nguye oyiqhawe lenoveli yakho. Kungani amadoda abandayo ephenduka amaqhawe amaphupho abesifazane futhi yiziphi iziphetho ezingafinyelelwa uma udonsela kubo, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uJill Weber siyachaza.
They «shine» futhi ukuheha
La madoda azinakekela futhi abukeka emuhle njalo. Bangazama ngezitayela ezahlukene, kodwa izingubo zabo zihlala zisezingeni eliphezulu, futhi isithombe sihlukaniswa ngokunganaki okucatshangelwayo. Umlayezo oyinhloko: Ngiphatha yonke into, kuhlanganise nami, kalula. Ekuqaleni, lokhu kubonakala kuyisici esithandekayo esiheha ukunaka ngaso leso sikhathi.
Isihluthulelo sesibili sokuphumelela ukuxoshwa ekukhulumisaneni kanye ne-aura ye-understatement, okubangela isifiso sokuthola ukuthi yini elele ngemuva kwesithombe se-Childe Harold engaqondakali. Maye, kaningi lutho. Futhi ukuqina ngokomzwelo akukhona ukubonakaliswa kwalokho kujula okungavezwanga kuwo wonke umuntu futhi hhayi ngokushesha, kodwa kuphela ikhono lokulawula isimo ngaphandle kokuhileleka kakhulu ngokwengqondo kuso.
Abazibandakanyi ezingxabanweni ezishisayo futhi bagwema ukuthi kungenzeka babonakale behlekisa, bengavikelekile, bengaphelele. Ngamafuphi nje, umuntu.
Bagcina isithombe
Kupsychology yokuziphatha, kunomqondo wokuqinisa umbono omuhle ngokuphinda izenzo ezibonwe kahle okokuqala. Endabeni yamadoda angafinyeleleki ngokomzwelo, lo modeli usebenza kanje: ngezikhathi ezithile ubonisa ukubandakanyeka ebuhlotsheni kanye nazo zonke izinto zokuthandana zothando.
Ezothando neqhawe eliheha abanye besifazane ngozibuthe lithopha ukuziphakamisa kowesifazane
Kubonakala kowesifazane ukuthi ekugcineni useyitholile indawo yeqhawe lakhe. Lapho ukunaka kwayo kuncipha, iphinda imchukuluza ekuboniseni imizwa nemizwelo aseyijwayele. Futhi kuphela lapho eqaphela ukuthi isisulu sakhe siphelelwa isineke noma isithakazelo emdlalweni othatha isikhathi eside, uphinda amthumele izimpawu zokunakwa ezingalindelekile: ukuthanda ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ucela ukuhamba ndawonye ngempelasonto, aqalise ingxoxo eqotho, athumele isixha sezimbali. .
Bavusa imicabango yokuphila kwenganekwane
Kowesifazane kubonakala sengathi indoda ekhangayo, elawula ngokuphelele imizwelo yayo, ikwazi ukulawula okuningi ekuphileni. Ubonwa njengeqhawe-umnqobi ozokhipha ukusakazwa kwempilo evamile yansuku zonke futhi anikeze indaba enemibala yothando yempilo ende.
Bakhulisa ukuzethemba
Ezothando neqhawe eliheha abanye besifazane ngozibuthe lithopha ukuziphakamisa kowesifazane. Noma ngabe le ndaba ingathuthuki ibe ubudlelwano obugcwele, obuhlala isikhathi eside (obukwenza ezikhathini eziningi), ikuvumela ukuthi uphile ngephupho lobuntwana lenkosazana elaziswa ngomfanekiso, ongafinyeleleki. inkosana. Njengodokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo, ngivame ukubona lokhu njengenye indlela yokuqinisekisa ukubaluleka nokufaneleka kwami.
Baphenduka isibuko sokucabanga nokwesaba kwabesifazane.
Kwabesifazane, ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene, abangaqiniseki ukuthi bayakufanelekela ukuthola lokho abakufunayo, umusa wesilisa nesimo sengqondo kubonakala kuyizimfanelo ezisolisayo. Amadoda abonisa isithakazelo esiqotho kuwo avame ukubizwa ngokuthi awanelisayo futhi anesibindi.
Ezingqondweni zabesifazane abangazithandi futhi abangazamukeli, amadoda angenakufinyeleleka aqinisa isithombe sawo somuntu ongafanelwe uthando.
Eqinisweni, abaningi balaba besifazane abazithandi futhi abazamukeli. Futhi ukungangeneli komuntu kuqinisa ezingqondweni zabo isithombe sabo somuntu ongafanele ukunakwa nothando.
"Abangeni emphefumulweni"
Uma owesifazane ngokwemvelo evaliwe futhi engathandi ukubonakaliswa kwemizwelo, umlingani wakhe ngeke aphikelele ekumazi kangcono futhi amqonde ngokujulile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, uzokwenza konke ukuze agweme izihloko ezingakhululekile, futhi ngeke enze inkimbinkimbi lutho. Noma yiziphi izingxoxo ezihlobene nemizwa enamandla, leli qhawe lizodlula.
Njengoba ungase ubone, indoda ene-aura yokungakhuleki iyakwazi, njengasesibukweni, ukubonakalisa lezo zici zethu esasingakaze sizicabange ngaphambili. Ukusisiza sizibheke ngelinye iso kuyinto engcono kakhulu angasenzela yona. Ngoba kukho konke ukukhanga kwabo kwangaphandle, lolu hlobo lwendoda alusoze lwakuvumela ukuba uthole uthando olungenamibandela lomuntu othandekayo ongaba nawe.