Okuqukethwe
Ukushintsha amanabukeni, ukulungisa ukudla, ukuhlanza indlu, ukugeza izingane, ukuhlela ama-aphoyintimenti… Ukuba ngumama akulula! Ngabe uzizwa sengathi unomsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele ekhaya?
Ingabe ukhungathekile ngemisebenzi eminingi okufanele uyenze lapho ubuya emsebenzini ebusuku?
Kulesi sihloko, sizokhuluma ngempilo kamama, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, thola izixazululo zokuyiphila ngokugcwele!
Kungani ukuba ngumama ohlala ekhaya kufana nemisebenzi yesikhathi esigcwele eyi-2,5?
Ukuba ngumama namuhla, emphakathini wethu wasentshonalanga, kuwumsebenzi wesikhathi esigcwele (ngaphandle kokukhokhelwa kunjalo!). Sikhokhelwa ngokufanayo ngothando esiluthola ezinganeni zethu nokubabona bekhula, ngokungagwegwesi, lokho kuyigugu!
Ngokusho kwe-INSEE, eYurophu, imindeni enomzali oyedwa yehle isuka ku-14% yaya ku-19% phakathi konyaka we-1996 nowe-2012. Futhi e-Ile de France, ama-75% omama abangabodwa, ngaphezu komsebenzi wabo, banakekela bodwa futhi bakhuthele izingane zabo ezisacathula.
Uyini umama oyedwa? Ungumama onakekela konke yena, ngaphandle kokuthola usizo lomngane wakhe! (1)
Ngokwami, ngithola ukuthi kudinga isibindi esikhulu namandla amakhulu engqondo ukukhulisa ingane wedwa. Ngoba masithembeke, ukukhulisa ingane akuyona into yokuzalwa futhi akuveli ngokwemvelo.
Ngaphandle kwabanye abanayo egazini labo futhi abenza umsebenzi wabo (umsizi womama, umzanyana, umzanyana omkhulu!).
Kodwa-ke, akuwona kuphela omama abodwa abahluphekayo. Ukuba ngumama ebudlelwaneni nakho kunesabelo sakho sokuphazamiseka. Ukulayisha kwengqondo, uyazi? Ngikumema ukuba uye kobheka incwadi yamahlaya ka-Emma eyadumisa leli gama kuwebhu. (2)
Umthwalo wengqondo yiqiniso, kumama, lokucabanga yedwa ngayo yonke imisebenzi yasendlini okufanele ayenze (ukuhlanza, ukubonana nodokotela, ukugeza, njll.).
Ngokuyisisekelo, kufanele sicabange ngayo yonke into, ngenkathi sihlala nozakwethu, ophethe njengathi emfundweni yengane encane. Kuthatha abantu aba-2 ukuba nengane, noma ngabe njengomama, umzimba wethu uzidalele konke ngokwakho izinyanga eziyi-9.
Ngokuya kocwaningo olwenziwe yiWelch College e-United States, olwenziwe ngomama baseMelika abangama-2000 abanengane ephakathi kweminyaka engu-5 nengu-12, omama basebenza cishe amahora angama-98 ngesonto (isikhathi esichithwa nezingane zifakiwe), okulingana Imisebenzi engu-2,5 yesikhathi esigcwele. (3)
Ngakho-ke, konke lokhu kungashintsha ngokushesha kube yisikhathi esigcwele siphindaphindwe ngo-2 uma singalutholi usizo!
Ungagcwaliseka kanjani empilweni yakho njengomama?
Kukhona isaga sase-Afrika esithi: “Kuthatha isigodi sonke ukukhulisa ingane.” Ukukhulisa ingane, kufanele ukubheke lokhu. Impela simlethe emhlabeni, futhi sinesibopho sengane yethu nentuthuko yakhe.
Kepha lokho akuvimbi ingane, ukuze ikhule kahle, kufanele izungezwe abantu abaningana. Iqembu elinamandla lizomnika ukuhambisana okudingekayo ekukhuleni kwakhe.
Ngakho-ke uma ukwazi, cela umndeni noma abangani, noma umzanyana akusize, (ngomsebenzi wesikole, noma uphelezele omncane aye eklabhini yakhe ngoLwesithathu, njll.) Ngoba akudingeki uzenzele yonke into ngokwakho. - ngisho nangesizathu sokuthi uwena umama. (4)
Ungahlali wedwa, mema abangani noma umndeni endlini, phumani niyothola amapaki, izindawo ezikude, ukuvakasha, ukwenza imisebenzi emisha nezingane zakho noma uwedwa. Kuzokusiza kakhulu wena nengane yakho.
Kubalulekile ukuthi ube wedwa nezingane zakho nokuthi uzinike isikhathi sakho, uma kungenzeka. Sonke sihlukile, futhi ngamunye ukhulisa izingane zakhe ngokwehlukile.
Ayikho iresiphi eyodwa, eyisimangaliso yokuguqula izingane zakho zibe “izingane ezisacathula” noma ukukuguqula ube “umama omkhulu”. Usuvele umkhulu ngale ndlela oyiyo.
Ungalaleli omama abazi yonke into noma obenzela yonke into ngokumangazayo, ngoba kungamanga ngokuphelele. Musa ukuzishaya uma ukhetha ukusebenza isikhathi esigcwele ukuze uchume emsebenzini. Uma wenziwa ukuthi usebenze akukho okumele ube namahloni ngakho.
Futhi uma uthatha isinqumo sokusebenza itoho ukuze uchithe isikhathi esithe xaxa namakherubi akho, noma uzinikeze isikhathi esithe xaxa sakho, unganqikazi ukuthatha igxathu!
Into ebalulekile ukuzijabulisa wena nokuhlangabezana nezidingo zakho, uzilalele! Yiba nguwe, okungukuthi, ongaphelele. Isithako esingcono kakhulu ongangeza empilweni yakho futhi izingane zakho zizokhula kangcono uma ulungile kuwe futhi ungakhungatheki.
Kuyinto enhle kunazo zonke ongayinika izingane zakho. Shintsha umsebenzi womama wakho ube ngumsebenzi wamaphupho. Ungakwena lokhu.
Ekuphetheni:
Kukhona izixazululo zokwazisa impilo yakhe njengomama.
- Yenza imisebenzi yezemidlalo noma yokuphumula (i-yoga, ukuzindla, umdanso, njll.).
- Ungabe usazizwa unecala ngokuba ngumama futhi uthathe ngokuphelele. Futhi zicabange ngokuphelele.
- Ungalaleli “sithi” noma “konke kuhamba kahle ngami” noma “kufanele ukwenze kanjalo”.
- Uma ufuna ukusebenza ngokugcwele noma uma ukhetha itoho, yilungiselele. Uma ufuna ukufaka ubhaka emhlabeni nezinsana zakho, kwenze lokho!
- Thola imisebenzi nendlela yokuphila ekufanele nokuthi yini ezokulethela ukwaneliseka okukhulu komuntu siqu.