Okuqukethwe
Izingane ezine-Attention Deficit Disorder zivame ukubeka zonke izinto ezingajabulisi neziyisicefe kuze kube sekugcineni, kunzima kuzo ukugxilisa ingqondo nokulawula imizwa yazo. Abazali bangabasiza kanjani?
Izinzuzo zokuthikamezeka nokuba namawala
Enye yezincazelo ezilula kakhulu ze-attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) ivela kudokotela wezengqondo kanye nentatheli uTom Hartmann. Waba nesithakazelo esihlokweni ngemva kokuba indodana yakhe itholwe “inokukhubazeka okuncane kobuchopho,” njengoba i-ADD yayibizwa kanjalo ngalezo zinsuku. Ngokombono kaHartmann, abantu abane-ADD "bazingeli" emhlabeni "wabalimi."
Yiziphi izimfanelo umzingeli ophumelelayo okwakudingeka abe nazo ezikhathini zasendulo? Okokuqala, ukuphazamiseka. Uma kunomsindo emahlathini okugeja wonke umuntu, wayewuzwa kahle. Okwesibili, ukuthatheka. Lapho kwase kuchwaza emahlathini, abanye besacabanga nje ukuthi bahambe bayobona ukuthi kukhonani, umzingeli wasuka ngaphandle kokunanaza.
Waphonswa phambili umfutho owawubonisa ukuthi kwakunezisulu ezinhle ngaphambili.
Khona-ke, lapho isintu sisuka kancane kancane ekuzingeleni nasekubutheni siye ekulimeni, kwadingeka ezinye izimfanelo ezidingekayo ukuze kulinganiswe umsebenzi oyisidina.
Imodeli yomzingeli-umlimi ingenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokuchaza uhlobo lwe-ADD ezinganeni nakubazali bazo. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuba unciphise ukugxila ekuphazamisekeni futhi uvule amathuba okusebenza ngokuthambekela kwengane ukuze kube lula ngangokunokwenzeka ukuba ibe khona kulo mhlaba ogxile kubalimi.
Qeqesha umsipha wokunaka
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufundisa izingane ukuhlukanisa ngokucacile phakathi kwezikhathi lapho bekhona esikhathini samanje nalapho «bewa ngokoqobo» futhi ukuba khona kwabo kubonakala kuphela.
Ukusiza izingane zisebenzise imisipha yazo yokunaka, ungadlala umdlalo obizwa ngokuthi i-Distraction Monster. Cela ingane yakho ukuba igxile emsebenzini wesikole olula kuyilapho uzama ukuyiphazamisa ngokuthile.
Ake sithi ingane iqala ukuxazulula inkinga ngezibalo, futhi okwamanje umama uqala ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo: "Yini engingayipheka emnandi namuhla ..." Ingane kufanele izame konke okusemandleni akhe ukuthi ingaphazanyiswa futhi ingaphakamisi ikhanda layo. Uma ebhekana nalo msebenzi, uthola iphuzu elilodwa, uma kungenjalo, umama uthola iphuzu elilodwa.
Izingane ziyakuthanda uma zithola ithuba lokunganaki amazwi abazali bazo.
Futhi umdlalo onjalo, uba nzima nakakhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubasiza ukuba bafunde ukugxilisa ingqondo emsebenzini, ngisho nalapho befuna ngempela ukuphazanyiswa okuthile.
Omunye umdlalo ovumela izingane ukuba ziqeqeshe ukunaka kwazo ukuzinika imiyalo eminingana ngesikhathi esisodwa, okufanele ziyilandele, zikhumbule ukulandelana kwazo. Imiyalo ayikwazi ukuphinda kabili. Ngokwesibonelo: “Phuma uhlehlele egcekeni, ukhethe izindwani ezintathu zotshani, uzibeke esandleni sami sobunxele, bese ucula iculo.”
Qala ngemisebenzi elula bese udlulela kweminye eyinkimbinkimbi. Izingane eziningi ziyawuthanda lo mdlalo futhi uzenza ziqonde ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukusebenzisa ukunaka kwazo ngo-100%.
Bhekana nomsebenzi wesikole
Lokhu kuvame ukuba yingxenye enzima kakhulu yokufunda, futhi hhayi nje ezinganeni ezine-ADD. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali basekele ingane, babonise ukunakekela nobungane, bechaza ukuthi basohlangothini lwakhe. Ungakwazi ukufundisa "ukuvusa" ubuchopho bakho ngaphambi kwekilasi ngokuthepha kancane iminwe yakho phezu kwekhanda lakho noma ukuhlikihla izindlebe zakho ngobumnene ukuze uzisize zigxile ngokuvuselela amaphuzu wokutshopa.
Umthetho wemizuzu eyishumi ungasiza emsebenzini ingane engafuni ukuwuqala. Utshela ingane yakho ukuthi ingakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi engafuni ngokukhethekile ukuwenza ngemizuzu eyi-10, nakuba empeleni ithatha isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ngemva kwemizuzu engu-10, ingane iyazinqumela ukuthi izoqhubeka nokuzilolonga noma imise lapho.
Leli iqhinga elihle elisiza kokubili izingane kanye nabantu abadala ukuthi benze lokho abangafuni ukukwenza.
Omunye umqondo uwukucela ingane ukuthi iqedele ingxenye encane yomsebenzi, bese igxuma izikhathi ezingu-10 noma ihambahamba endlini bese kuphela iqhubeka nemisebenzi. Ukuphumula okunjalo kuzosiza ukuvusa i-prefrontal cortex yobuchopho futhi kusebenze isimiso sezinzwa esimaphakathi. Ngenxa yalokhu, umntwana uzoqala ukukhombisa ukunaka okwengeziwe kulokho akwenzayo, futhi ngeke esabona umsebenzi wakhe njengomsebenzi onzima.
Sifuna ingane ikwazi ukubona ukukhanya ekugcineni komhubhe, futhi lokhu kungafezwa ngokuhlephula imisebenzi emikhulu ibe yizicucu ezincane, ezilawulekayo. Njengoba sifunda amasu okwenza ukuphila kube lula “njengomzingeli” emhlabeni “wabalimi,” siqala ukuqonda kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ubuchopho bengane ene-ADD busebenza kanjani futhi samukele isipho sabo esiyingqayizivele negalelo ezimpilweni zethu nasemhlabeni wethu.
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