Okuqukethwe
Sawubona, bafundi abathandekayo besayithi! Namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokho okushiwo uhlobo lobuntu obukhathazekile. Sizothola amandla nobuthakathaka bakhe, futhi sithole nokutusa indlela yokubhekana nokukhathazeka neminye imizwa aba nayo kaningi.
izici eziyinhloko
Abantu abakhathazekile babizwa nangokuthi abantu abasolisayo. Bathuthumela lapho becasulwa kancane futhi bakhathazeke ngezikhathi lapho abanye abantu bengacwayizi ngisho nokucwayiza.
Abazi ukuthi bangavikela kanjani imingcele yabo nombono wabo. Ngakho-ke, izinkampani zivame ukuthula, zesaba ukusho okuthile okungalungile. Ngokunjalo, lesi sitayela sokuziphatha sithinta ukuzethemba, hhayi ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Bayazithoba futhi banamahloni, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, bezama ukufihla ubungozi babo, badlala indima yabantu abangesabi nabazethembayo. Ngokwemvelo, lokhu kwehluka phakathi komlingiswa nokuziphatha kubonakala ngokushesha.
Ngokuvamile kunezizathu eziningi ze-alamu phakathi kwabameleli balokhu kugcizelela umlingiswa. Ukuqala ekukhathazekeni ngekusasa lakho, impilo kanye nempumelelo, futhi ugcine ngokukhathazeka ngabathandekayo bakho.
Izingane emndenini onjalo zivame ukulawulwa ngokweqile nokulawulwa ngokweqile. Umzali okhathazekile akakwazi ukubhekana nemizwa yakhe, ngakho-ke unciphisa inkululeko yengane. Kuba lula uma ephambi kwamehlo akho futhi wenza lokho ayevunyelwe ukukwenza kuphela. Bese kuba khona inkohliso yokuthi ingane iphephile.
Banomthwalo wemfanelo futhi bakhuthele, bazibonakalisa kahle njengabasebenzi. Okuwukuphela kwento ukuthi bangakwazi ukubekezelela ukuphazamiseka nokuphathwa ngendlela engafanele, besaba ukusho ukuthi abanelisekile. Ukwazi ukwenza umsebenzi oyisidina ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa eminye imisebenzi, ngisho noma kungenantshisekelo nhlobo.
Unobungane nokwamukela. Abangane abathembekile abazohlala besiza, basekele futhi balalele, uma kunesidingo.
Benza isinqumo isikhathi eside, ngoba, besaba ukwenza iphutha, balinganisa ngokucophelela izinzuzo nezingozi. Isikhathi sidlula, njengokuphuthuma kwesinqumo, ngakho-ke ngokuyisisekelo kuvela ukuthi abenzi izinqumo ezimpilweni zabo, kodwa kunalokho bahamba nokugeleza. Khona-ke, okungenani ungadlulisela umthwalo wemfanelo wokwehluleka kwabanye, ngaphandle kokuzifaka ekuzisoleni.
Ngenxa yokuthi isimiso sezinzwa sivame ukushuba, ngezinye izikhathi singahluleka, singakwazi ukumelana nomthwalo onjalo. Isibonelo, ngesimo sokubonakala kokuphazamiseka kwe-phobic, ukucindezeleka, i-neurosis, njalonjalo.
Detstvo
Izingane ezikhathazekile ngokuvamile ziyesaba ukuhlala ekamelweni uma kungekho abantu abadala, zingalali ngaphandle kwesibani, futhi zifihle ngokoqobo ngaphansi kwezembozo ngenxa yokwesaba ngesikhathi sokuduma kwezulu. Bangase bagweme ngisho nokukhuluma nontanga yabo, becabanga ukuthi bazobagcona futhi babacasule.
Qaphela izinja nezinye izilwane ezingakwazi ukulimaza. Baziphatha ngokuthula esikoleni futhi bakhathazeke kakhulu uma uthisha enganelisekile ngolwazi noma ukuziphatha kwabo.
Ngeshwa, isitayela esinjalo sokuziphatha siholela eqinisweni lokuthi ingane enjalo iqala ukushushisa ngempela futhi ibonise ukuhlukumeza kuye. Phela akaziphenduleli, uyesaba kalula futhi uzimisele ukuthula uma esolwa ngokwenza imigilingwane yabanye abantu.
Akazibambi izinyembezi ngenxa yokuba sengozini kwakhe, ngakho-ke indlela yokukhulisa izingane eqinile, enegunya kufanele igwenywe.
Izincomo
- Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi usola ngokweqile futhi ukhathazekile uma ngempela ungowalokhu kugqamisa umlingiswa ngokusho kuka-Leonhard. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ungashintsha kanjani uma uphika ukuthi kukhona inkinga? Ngakho-ke, isinyathelo sokuqala siwukuqaphela ukuthi umbono onjalo ngokuphila uletha imingcele eyengeziwe kunokusiza ekuqapheleni amandla nezinkanuko zomuntu. Ungagxili eqinisweni lokuthi uzwela futhi awuphumuli kunabanye. Qaphela ukuthi kukhona ama-nuances okudingeka usebenzele kuwo nokuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ushintshe.
- Ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho uzwa sengathi ulahlekelwa ukulawula imizwelo yakho nokuziphatha kwakho, leyo mizwa "ingaphezu kwamandla", xhuma ukuqonda. Okungukuthi, ake sithi, kwaba scary kakhulu - esikhundleni ukuzitika ngovalo, zibuze imibuzo ecacisa mayelana nendaba ukwesaba kwakho. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho uzwa umsindo ohlabayo, ungase ucabange ukuthi amasela agibelela ngenjongo yokuphinde abulale. Futhi ungabheka ezinye izizathu, ezingokoqobo ngokwengeziwe. Ngokuphazima kweso kwaba nje igatsha elishaye iwindi ngomoya oshisayo?
- Uma kubhekwa izici ezingavamile zokugcizelelwa komlingiswa okuphazamisayo, kufanele kukhethwe ubungcweti lapho ukukhuluma esidlangalaleni nokuhlangana njalo nabanye abantu kungafakwanga. Isidingo sokuhlangana nokuxhumana sibangela ukungezwani, futhi ukucindezeleka okungadingekile kungcono kakhulu kugwenywe.
- Ukulungiswa kokuziphatha akunakwenzeka uma isiphithiphithi siqhubeka ngaphakathi. Okusho ukuthi, uma imizwa ithatha futhi kunzima ukulala ngenxa yokukhathazeka. Ngakho-ke, kunconywa ukuthi uqale uzame ukuphumula isimiso sezinzwa. Isibonelo, zibandakanye ekuzindleni, sebenzisa amasu ahlukahlukene okuphumula akusiza ukuthi uthole ukuthula nomuzwa wokuthula.
- Ukukhathazeka ngokuvamile kuvela lapho ucabanga ngekusasa, izenzakalo ezingajabulisi okungenzeka. Ukuletha ukuthula empilweni yakho, funda ukuqaphela okwamanje. Okusho ukuthi, iqiniso, okungenzeka ukuthi akwethusi kangako, ngokungafani namaphupho.
- Lapho ukwethuka kungena, zama ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wakho ngaphandle kokuthatha ikhefu ukuze uzinikele ngokuphelele emicabangweni. Umsebenzi womuntu okhathazekile ungumlaphi ongcono kakhulu, ngoba ikuvumela ukuba uphazamiseke futhi umise ukugeleza kwemicabango eyesabekayo. Ngokuvamile, naphezu kwesimo somzwelo, phila indlela yokuphila evamile.
Ukugcwaliswa
Uma kubhekwa ukuthi umuntu osolisayo uvame ukukhathazeka ngezinkinga ezinye izinhlobo zokugcizelela umlingiswa ezingenandaba nazo, kuyaqabukela azithole esezimeni eziyingozi.
Uma nje ngoba ebala kusengaphambili zonke izingozi, «izingibe», akazibandakanyi ezamehlela futhi akayitshali imali yakhe ebhizinisini elingabazisayo.
Lokhu kuvumela ukuzinza nokuzinza. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi yonke into iyanyakaza ngokomzwelo kumuntu onjalo.
Futhi yilokho kuphela okwanamuhla, bafundi abathandekayo! Bhalisela izibuyekezo zesayithi futhi ushiye imibono yakho, nakanjani sizonikeza impendulo futhi sizame ukuphendula imibuzo ebuziwe.
Futhi ukuze uhlukanise kangcono zonke izinhlobo zokugcizelela umlingiswa, sincoma ukuthi uzijwayeze ngayinye ekhona. Ungakwazi ukuqala, isibonelo, nge-introvert.
Zinakekele futhi ujabule!
Indaba ilungiswe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, i-Gestalt Therapist, uZhuravina Alina