Okuqukethwe
Abanye bethu baqamba amanga kanjalo nje, kungenanjongo. Futhi kuyabacasula abantu abaseduze. Kunezizathu eziyisithupha zokuthi kungani abaqambimanga be-pathological bengafuni ukukhuluma iqiniso. Sabelana ngokuqashelwa kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Abantu abaningi bazama ukukhuluma iqiniso ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanye baqamba amanga kakhulu kunabanye. Kodwa bakhona abaqamba amanga njalo. Ukuqamba amanga kwe-Pathological akuyona ukuxilongwa komtholampilo, nakuba kungase kube enye yezimpawu ze-psychopathy kanye neziqephu ze-manic.
Kodwa iningi labaqambimanga lingabantu abaphile kahle ngokwengqondo abacabanga ngendlela ehlukile noma abaqamba amanga ngaphansi kwethonya lezimo, kuchaza uDavid Lay, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, udokotela wesayensi yokusebenza kwengqondo. Kungani bekwenza?
1. Amanga anengqondo kuwo.
Abantu abaseduze abaqondi ukuthi kungani beqamba amanga nasezintweni ezincane. Eqinisweni, lezi zinto ezincane zibalulekile kulabo abaqamba amanga. Banombono ohlukile ngezwe kanye nohlelo oluhlukile lwamagugu. Okubalulekile kubo yilokho okungabalulekile kwabaningi.
2. Uma bekhuluma iqiniso, bazizwa behluleka ukulawula isimo.
Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abanjalo baqamba amanga ukuze bathonye abanye. Banesiqiniseko sokuthi ukukhohlisa kwabo kuzwakala kukholisa ukwedlula iqiniso, futhi kubavumela ukuthi balawule isimo.
3. Abafuni ukusicasula.
Baqamba amanga ngoba besaba ukungavunyelwa abanye. Abaqambimanga bafuna ukubongwa nokuthandwa, ukunconywa. Besaba ukuthi iqiniso alibukeki likhanga kakhulu, futhi ngemva kokulifunda, abangane bangase babafulathele, izihlobo ziyoqala ukuba namahloni, futhi umphathi ngeke aphathise umsebenzi obalulekile.
4. Uma sebeqalile ukuqamba amanga, abakwazi ukuyeka.
Amanga anjengebhola leqhwa: elinye libamba elinye. Lapho beqamba amanga, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukuthi baqale ukukhuluma iqiniso. Impilo iba njengendlu yamakhadi - uma ukhipha ikhadi elilodwa, lizowa. Ngesinye isikhathi, baqala ukuqamba amanga ukuze baqinise amanga adlule.
Abaqambimanga be-pathological banesiqiniseko sokuthi uma bevuma esiqeshini esisodwa, kuvela ukuthi bake baqamba amanga ngaphambili. Besaba ukuchayeka, bayaqhubeka nokukhohlisa nalapho kungenasidingo.
5. Kwesinye isikhathi ababoni nokuthi baqamba amanga.
Esimweni esicindezelayo, abantu abacabangi ngezinto ezincane, ngoba okokuqala kubalulekile ukuzisindisa. Futhi bavula imodi yokusinda lapho bengazi ngokugcwele abakushoyo noma abakwenzayo. Futhi bakholelwa ngobuqotho emazwini abo.
Abantu bakholelwa kulokho okwakungekho, uma kubafanela. Futhi ngemva kokuba ingozi isidlulile, abakhumbuli ukuthi bathini ngaphansi kwethonya lokucindezeleka.
6. Bafuna amanga abo abe yiqiniso.
Kwesinye isikhathi abaqamba amanga isifiso. Kubo kubonakala sengathi amaphupho angaba ngokoqobo ngokuzenzisa kancane. Bazoceba kakhulu uma beqala ukubhuquza futhi bakhulume ngomcebo wabo wasenganekwaneni noma umkhulu ongusozigidi owabashiyela incwadi yefa.