Okuqukethwe
Sishintsha njalo, nakuba singakuqapheli ngaso sonke isikhathi. Izinguquko zokuphila zingasenza sijabule noma zidabuke kakhudlwana, zisinike ukuhlakanipha noma zisenze siphoxeke ngokwethu. Konke kuncike ekutheni silulungele yini ushintsho.
1. Ukubukeka kwesilwane esifuywayo
Inombolo yokuthandwa ngaphansi kwezithombe ezinamakati ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ikhuluma ngokukhululekile ngothando lwezilwane ezinemilenze emine. Lokhu akuzona izindaba: izilwane ezifuywayo zakha umoya wokunethezeka, zisiza ukubhekana nokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Emakhaya lapho kuhlala ikati noma inja, mancane amathuba okuba abantu baphathwe yisifo senhliziyo. Abantu abaningi bazikhethela isilwane esifuywayo, basinakekele njengelungu lomndeni.
Kodwa ngisho nenja evamile yegceke noma ikati elivela endaweni yokukhosela ingaba umthombo wenjabulo isikhathi eside. Labo abadlala nezilwane ezifuywayo imizuzu engu-15 kuya kwengu-20 ngosuku bakhulisa amazinga e-serotonin ne-oxytocin, ama-neurotransmitters ngokuvamile ahlotshaniswa nenjabulo nenjabulo. Okuhlehlayo nakho kuyiqiniso: ezinjeni, amazinga e-oxytocin nawo anda phakathi nokusebenzelana nomnikazi.
2. Ukushada
Ukucindezeleka esiba nakho lapho sihlela umshado kugqitshwa injabulo yethemba lokuhlobanisa ukuphila nomuntu esimthandayo. Ngaphezu kwenzuzo esobala, abantu abashadile bathola ukuvikeleka kwengqondo - bahlushwa ukucindezeleka okuncane, mancane amathuba okuba imilutha yezidakamizwa, futhi baneliseke kakhulu ngabo nempilo yabo kunabantu abangashadile. Yiqiniso, lezi zinzuzo zitholwa yilabo abashadile abajabulayo kuphela.
Isitayela sabesifazane sokuxazulula izingxabano sibandakanya ukuzwelana okwengeziwe nokuvumelana nemizwa yomlingani.
Emindenini engasebenzi kahle, isimo sengqondo siyacindezela, izinsongo ezisohlwini ziba yingozi nakakhulu. Ukucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kuthinta abesifazane kakhulu. Futhi akukhona ukuthi bathambekele ekuthatheni yonke into enhliziyweni.
Isizathu sisezinhlelweni zokuxazulula izingxabano: isitayela sabesifazane sihilela ukuzwelana okwengeziwe nokuvumelana nemizwa yomlingani, kuyilapho abayeni bevame ukusabela kancane futhi esimweni sokungqubuzana bakhetha ukugwema ingxoxo engathandeki.
I-3. Ukuhlukaniswa
Ukwehlukana nomuntu owake wathandwa kakhulu kungase kube uvivinyo olukhulu ngaphezu kokufa kwakhe. Ngempela, kulokhu, sibhekana nokudumala okubuhlungu - ekukhetheni kwethu, amathemba ethu namaphupho ethu. Singalahlekelwa ama-bearings ethu futhi siwele ekucindezelekeni okujulile.
4. Ukuba nezingane
Ngokufika kwezingane, impilo iya ikhanya futhi inothe. Yilokho okushiwo ingqondo. Kodwa izibalo zibonisa ukuthi izinto azikacaci kangako. Ucwaningo lwango-2015 lubonise ukuthi abazali abazoba bajwayele ukuzwa izindaba zokungezwa okusha emndenini wabo ngesasasa nesasasa. Kodwa kamuva, izingxenye ezimbili kwezintathu zabo zabhekana nokwehla kwamazinga enjabulo ngonyaka wesibili wokukhulisa ingane, lapho injabulo yokuqala idlula futhi ukuphila kubuyela esifundweni esizinzile.
Ukukhulelwa kufanele kufiswe, futhi kufanele sizwe ukusekelwa kwabathandekayo, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni yokuqala.
Yiqiniso, ucwaningo lwangaphambili luyanezela ithemba: namuhla, ngokuvamile abazali abajabulile kunaseminyakeni engu-20 edlule, kodwa basajabule kakhulu kunalabo abangenazo nhlobo izingane. Ngokuqondene nezimo ezinquma ukuthi ukuzalwa kwengane kuyoba yinto enhle kithi, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo cishe zivumelana ngazwi linye: ukukhulelwa kufanele kufiswe, futhi kufanele sizwe ukusekelwa kwabathandekayo, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni yokuqala.
5. Ukushona kwabazali
Nakuba sonke sibhekana nalokhu futhi singase sizame ukuzilungiselela kusengaphambili, ukushonelwa othandekayo kuseyinhlekelele. Ukuthi umuzwa wosizi uyoba namandla kangakanani kuncike ekuxhumaneni nomzali. Ngokuvamile, amadoda aba buhlungu kakhulu ngokushonelwa uyise, kuyilapho amantombazane ekuthola kunzima ukwamukela ukushonelwa unina.
Lapho sibancane, kubuhlungu kakhulu. Izingane ezashonelwa abazali zisencane zinesimiso sokuzivikela ezifweni ezibuthakathaka futhi zisengozini enkulu yokucindezeleka nokuzibulala. Ingozi iyanda uma abazali bebengajabule futhi bedlula emhlabeni ngokuzibulala.