Okuqukethwe
Lokhu kuyinto eyenzeka ngokushesha noma kamuva kuwo wonke umuntu: kufanele senze phambi kwezithameli. Futhi kwabanye ukukhuluma obala kuba uvivinyo olunzima. Nokho, kukhona amaqhinga ambalwa angakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nakho. Futhi nangempumelelo.
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Kuhle ukuthi akhona amaqhinga asiza kulokhu. Umqeqeshi wezokuzijabulisa nomqeqeshi uLuc Tessier d'Orpheu, osefundise abalingisi abakhokhelwayo iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amathathu, wabelana nathi ngezimfihlo zokulungiselela ukudlala komphakathi.
1. Lungiselela
Ucabanga ukuthi ungakwenza ngaphandle kokulungiselela? Bese ukhumbula amazwi kaNdunankulu odume kakhulu emhlabeni, uWinston Churchill: "Inkulumo engalindelekile kufanele ibhalwe kabusha kathathu."
Kungani sizama ukusiza abanye? Nazi izizathu eziyinhloko: ukubika okuthile, ukuqondwa, ukwabelana ngemizwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyini isizathu, kubalulekile ukunquma ukuthi yimuphi umlayezo ofuna ukuwudlulisa nokuthi lokho okulindelwe izethameli kungase kube yini.
Thatha ipeni nephepha ubhale phansi konke okufika engqondweni yakho uphendule umbuzo: pho uzokhuluma ngani? Yibe usuhlela indaba yakho.
Njalo qala ngombono oyinhloko, ngomlayezo oyinhloko. Kubalulekile ukubamba ukunaka kwabaxhumanisi (abalaleli) kusukela ekuqaleni. Bese wandisa emibonweni yakho ngokuningiliziwe emaphuzwini amancane amane kuya kwayisithupha, ngokokubaluleka kwawo kuwena kanye nokwethula kalula.
Qala ngamaqiniso bese uveza umbono wakho. Ukuhleleka okuphambene kwenza buthaka isitatimende futhi kuphazamise izethameli.
2. Thola ijubane elifanele
Abalingisi baqala ngokubamba umbhalo ngokuzwakalayo, balalele futhi baphimisele ngokhiye abahlukene, izwi eliphansi neliphezulu, baze bafunde ngokuphelele. Landela isibonelo sabo, hambahamba futhi usho imishwana baze baqale "ukundiza besuka emazinyweni akho".
Uma usuyilungisile inkulumo yakho, yibeke isikhathi kusukela ekuqaleni kuye ekugcineni — yisho ngendlela ozokhuluma ngayo phambi kwezilaleli. Uma usuqedile, engeza omunye u-30% womphumela (isibonelo, nweba inkulumo eyimizuzu eyi-10 ngemizuzu emi-3), ngaphandle kokwandisa umbhalo, ngokumisa nje.
Okwani? Kufakazelwe ukuthi izinkulumo "zesibhamu somshini" zizwakala zingagculisi. Ingxabano yesibili: eshashalazini bathi izethameli ziphefumula ngokuphelele. Futhi ubamba umoya wakhe ngokuhambisana nejubane lesikhulumi. Uma ukhuluma ngokushesha, izilaleli zakho zizophefumula ngokushesha futhi ekugcineni ziqale ukuminyanisa. Ngokunciphisa inkulumo yakho, uyodonsa ukunaka kwezilaleli zakho futhi uyidlulisele kangcono imibono yakho kubo.
Misa isikhashana — zidonsela ukunaka esitatimendeni esithile. Ukuphumula kugcizelela lokho ofuna ukukugcizelela. Ungama ngemva kwesitatimende ukuze unikeze abalaleli isikhathi sokucabanga ngaso. Noma phambi kokuthile ofuna ukukugqamisa.
3. Dala isithakazelo
Wonke umuntu uyavuma ukuthi ayikho into eyisicefe njengenkulumo eyisicefe. Ikakhulukazi uma igcwele imininingwane, ukuhlehla kanye nezincazelo zokuvela komuntu siqu futhi liphinyiselwa ngezwi elingazwakali neze. Ukuze wenze isethulo sakho siphumelele, khuluma ngendlela obungaxoxa ngayo indaba ethokozisayo — ngokuhlaba ikhefu nangejubane elifanele, futhi nangezwi elikhulu kakhulu elinamaphimbo anothile.
Ukukhuluma okucacile kuyisisekelo sokukhuluma. Prakthiza, ku-inthanethi kulula ukuthola ama-twist olimini emisebenzi ehlukahlukene: ukuzijayeza inhlanganisela enzima yezinhlamvu nokufunda ukungawagwinyi amagama. Ezaziwa kusukela ebuntwaneni, njengokuthi «Kukhona utshani egcekeni ...», futhi yesimanje: «Akucaci ukuthi amasheya awuketshezi noma cha.»
Yima kancane, gcizelela izinto ezibalulekile, buza futhi uphendule imibuzo, kodwa namathela esitayeleni sakho.
Ukushintsha kwephimbo kusiza ekudluliseleni imizwelo (akufanele kudidaniswe nemizwelo: umphimbo obambene, inkulumo engahlangani) — yile ndlela ongatshela ngayo izingane inganekwane, ushintsha iphimbo kuye ngokusonteka kwesakhiwo. Ngendlela, izingane zizizwa ngokushesha lapho zitshelwa okuthile ngomshini.
Ziqinisekise ukuthi izethameli zifana nezingane. Yima kancane, gcizelela amaphuzu abalulekile, buza futhi uphendule imibuzo, kodwa namathela esitayeleni sakho (ungazenzi ubukeke uhlekisa noma upholile uma ungazizwa kanjalo). Ngaphambi kokuthi ukhulume, zamula izikhathi ezimbalwa ngomsindo ukuze ubhucunga izintambo zakho zezwi futhi unikeze izwi lakho elicebile nokugcwala.
4. Sebenza ngomzimba
Ngemuva kokuthi usebenze ngokuqukethwe kwenkulumo nezwi lakho, nakekela umzimba. Lokhu kuzokusiza okhiye aba-5.
1.Vula: uqondise umhlane uvule izingalo sengathi kukhona owamukelayo.
2.Mamatheka: ukumamatheka kunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwesikhulumi futhi kuthulisa izilaleli. Kufakazelwe ukuthi abantu abamamathekayo abanalo ulaka kunezakhamizi ezizimisele.
3. Edonse umoya: Ngaphambi kokukhuluma, donsa umoya omude ngaphakathi nangaphandle, lokhu kuzonciphisa ukungezwani kwakho.
4.Bheka: bheka izethameli zizonke, bese ubheka abantu abambalwa - noma ngamunye, uma inani labalaleli lingeqi eshumini. Lokhu kubukeka kuqinisa ukuxhumana.
5.Izinyathelo: ngesikhathi uqala ukukhuluma, thatha igxathu elincane ubheke izethameli. Uma ingekho indawo (isibonelo, umi epulpiti), vula isifuba sakho bese welula kancane intamo yakho phezulu. Lokhu kuzosiza ekusunguleni ukuxhumana kwesikhulumi nesikhulumi.
5. Zilolonge
Etiyetha ngaphambi kombukiso wokuqala kuhlale kukhona ukuzijwayeza ngezingubo. Kuyasiza ukubeka ukuthinta kokuqeda. Yenza okufanayo ngokuheha abantu obathandayo abanobungane nabacabangelayo. Yethula inkulumo yakho kubo njengokungathi ukhuluma nezilaleli ezihlosiwe.