10 imishwana killer for umshado

Yebo, umuntu kufanele ahlukanise phakathi kwalokho okushiwo ngamabomu nalokho okushiwo ngengozi. Kodwa ngale misho eyishumi, udinga ukuqaphela ngokukhethekile.

1. “Awuzigezi izitsha. Sebevele baphenduka indawo yokufaka.”

Okokuqala, intonation. Ukumangalela kusho ukuzivikela, ukuhlasela — ukuzivikela. Ingabe uzizwa unamandla? Ufana nomshayi wesigubhu obeka ijubane layo yonke ingoma ekuqaleni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amapuleti azobe esekhohliwe, futhi uzofuna ukuxoxa ngezinye izihloko, futhi isigqi sokuxhumana kwakho sizohlala sifana: "Ngiyahlasela, ngivikele!"

Okwesibili, igama elithi "ungalokothi" akufanele lizwakale ezingxoxweni zakho, njengokuthi "njalo", "ngokujwayelekile" kanye "nawe kuze kube phakade", kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSamantha Rodman.

2. "Ungubaba omubi/isithandwa esibi"

Amagama anjalo anzima ukuwakhohlwa. Kungani? Sisondele kakhulu ezindimeni uzakwethu azikhomba njengomuntu. Lezi zindima zibaluleke kakhulu endodeni, futhi kungcono ukungabuzi.

Kukhona njalo enye indlela — ungasho, isibonelo: «Ngithenge amathikithi e-movie, amantombazane ethu ayakuthanda ukubuka amafilimu amasha nawe,» isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uGary Newman siyeluleka.

3. "Uzwakala njengomama wakho"

Ungena endaweni okungeyona eyakho. «Ekuseni, ilanga, umama ubhaka ophaya ...» - yeka isithombe libalele. Ibinzana elinjalo lingazwakala kuphela esimweni esisodwa - uma liphinyiselwa ngephimbo lokuncoma. Futhi kubonakala sengathi siphinde saphambuka esihlokweni sengxoxo, ukhumbula uSharon O'Neill, umelaphi womndeni.

Uwedwa manje. Khumbula ukuthi ubukufuna kanjani lokhu ekuqaleni kokwazana kwakho - ukuba wedwa, futhi kungabikho muntu ongaphazamisa. Pho kungani wenzela ukuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho iminyene kakhulu?

4. "Ngiyakuzonda uma wenza lokho" (esho ngokuzwakalayo phambi kwabangane bakhe noma umndeni wakhe)

O, lokho kungucha ngokuphelele emshadweni. Khumbula, ungalokothi ukwenze lokho, kusho u-Becky Whetstone, umelaphi womndeni.

Anjalo amadoda. Yisho umusho ofanayo ngasese, futhi umlingani wakho uzowulalela ngomoya ophansi. Iphuzu alikho ngisho nasemshweni ngokwawo, kodwa eqinisweni lokuthi umemezela inzondo yakho phambi kwalabo abakubheka njengenhlangano eyodwa futhi umbono wabo ubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu.

5. "Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi ungcono kakhulu?"

Ithamo eliphindwe kabili likaphoyizeni emshweni owodwa. Uyakungabaza ukubaluleka kozakwethu futhi «ufunde» imicabango esekhanda lakhe, kuchaza u-Becky Whetstone. Futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kwakuwukubhuqa?

6. "Ungangilindi"

Ngokuvamile, ibinzana elingenabungozi, kodwa akufanele kushiwo kaningi ngaphambi kokulala. Ungamshiyi umlingani wakho lapho engekho imizuzu yakusihlwa enkampanini yalabo abazomtholela kokubili isikhathi namagama amnandi - udinga nje ukuvula i-laptop ...

7. “Ingabe uba ngcono?”

Lokhu akukhona ukugxeka okwakhayo. Futhi ukugxeka ebudlelwaneni kufanele kwakhe, kukhumbuza u-Becky Whetstone. Ngomuntu, lokhu akujabulisi kabili, ngoba yena, emi phambi kwesibuko, unelisekile ngokuphelele ngokwakhe.

8. "Akufanele ucabange kanjalo"

Usho ukuthi akumele enze izinto ongakwazi ngazo. Akusekho ukuhlazeka endodeni. Zama ukumqonda noma ubuze ukuthi kungani ecasuke kangaka, kodwa ungasho nje ukuthi “akufanele ucasuke,” kweluleka uSamantha Rodman.

9. "Angimazi neze - sisebenza ndawonye"

Okokuqala, ungenzi izaba! Okwesibili, uyazi ukuthi lokhu akulona iqiniso futhi uyamthanda. Phakathi neminyaka yomshado, ukuzwela omunye wozakwenu kuzovela nakanjani - kuwe nakumyeni wakho.

Inketho engcono kakhulu ukuthi, "Yebo, kuzwakala kuhlekisa, kodwa ngithande umphathi omusha wezokuthengisa. Uma eqala ukuncokola, ungikhumbuza wena kanye namahlaya akho,” kusho umqeqeshi wezocansi uRobin Wolgast. Ukuvuleleka, esikhundleni sokuthula ezihlokweni ezingakhululekile, kuyisu elingcono kakhulu ebudlelwaneni.

10. "Ucabanga ukuthi ngingcono?"

Omunye wemibuzo exakile ohlwini olude lokungajwayelekile komshado kuphawulwe nguRobin Wolgast. Ufuna ukuthini ngempela? “Ngiyazi ukuthi sengikhuluphele. Angijabule futhi ngifuna ungitshele ukuthi ngiyaphila futhi ngibukeka ngingcono nakakhulu. Kodwa namanje ngiyazi ukuthi akulona iqiniso.”

Ukuphikisana okunjalo kwe-dialectical akukho emandleni awo wonke umuntu, ngaphandle kwalokho, kuvela ukuthi umenza abe nesibopho senhlalakahle yakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umbuzo ofanayo, uma uphindaphindiwe izikhathi eziningana, uzophenduka isitatimende somlingani. Futhi uzovumelana nawe.

Kodwa uma unenhlanhla nomlingani wakho, uzothola impendulo elula kunoma yimuphi umbuzo onjalo: "Yebo, unami, salukazi, noma yikuphi kwenye indawo!"