Leli gama lisho imizwa, uthando, inkanuko. Ngokungafani nesikhulu esomile «umlingani». Kungani abesifazane bethanda isithombe sesithandwa? Futhi ingabe ihlale ihambisana ngokoqobo nazo zonke izimfanelo esizinikeza yona? Phela isikhathi esiningi ubuye abe ngumyeni womuntu.
Igama elithi "umthandi" ligcizelela ngokungananazi isimo socansi sobudlelwane. Noma kunjalo, kungaba yinqaba ukukhetha isithandwa ngokwezinye izindlela kunokuhambisana nesimiso sobulili, ngaphandle kokuthola ukukhangwa ngokomzimba kuye. Ngokungangabazeki, umthandi u-sexy, noma engemuhle!
Ingabe kungenxa yezwi lakhe, ukubukeka, izici zobuso, amandla, isisa, ikhono lokulalela, ukuhogela, okuhlangenwe nakho, inkanuko, noma ukuzethemba abonisa ngakho isifiso sakhe?
Kunoma yikuphi, u-sexy kangangokuthi owesifazane onqotshwe nguye uyakwazi noma yini. Ukulungele ukushintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, ukuthanda ngisho nalokho okungekho kuye nhlobo, ukukhungatheka ngenxa yokungabikho kwakhe ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, ukwephula izindinganiso zokuziphatha, ukungazinaki izibopho zakhe. Okufanele ukusho!
Umbuzo uhlukile - uma kuqhathaniswa, noma kunalokho, ukuphikiswa komyeni nesithandwa. Ingabe okokuqala kufanele kubhekwe njengobulili obuncane ukuze kuthethelelwe isidingo salokhu kwakamuva? Umyeni njengembangela yokungathembeki komfazi? Ukucabanga okunjalo kusivumela ukuba siqonde kangcono ukuthukuthela okuzwiwa yindoda ekhohlisiwe: emehlweni omphakathi, ubumnandi bothando bomfazi ohlangothini lubonisa ngokucacile ukuntula kwakhe ubudoda nokukhanga ngokobulili.
Kodwa ingabe isithandwa sivusa inkanuko futhi sinesibindi kangangokuthi owesifazane ukulungele ukuthatha ingozi enkulu? Noma kumayelana nelukuluku lakhe ngomunye, mayelana nosesho lwakhe lomuntu siqu, mayelana nemizwa emisha ephakama lapho ebuka indoda yomunye umuntu ngesisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini iphutha layo ... okuhlanganisa nokuntuleka kobudoda?
Owesifazane ubona isithandwa sakhe "njengomnqobi", kanti umyeni wakhe ungumfanekiso "wemisebenzi"
Kungenzeka yini ukuzizwa ukhangwa ngokocansi kumuntu ngaphandle kokuvula iphupho lakho? Ebudlelwaneni bothando, iqiniso kanye nenganekwane nakanjani kuhlangene. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakhohlwa ukuthi abaningi balaba abathanda "abangenakuvinjelwa" bangabayeni bomunye umuntu.
Isithandwa akayena umuntu “ongcono” kunomyeni. Isithandwa "sihlukile". Unikeza umlingani wakhe umbono omusha ngaye nangobulili bakhe. Owesifazane umbona "njengomnqobi", ngakho-ke uyamvumela ukuba afeze izifiso ezicindezelwe, kuyilapho umyeni ephenduka "umsebenzi".
I-Eroticism yobudlelwane bothando izalwa phakathi nemihlangano, ngomqondo wenkululeko kanye nobuqili obucacile. Kusemdlalweni wokubukana lapho kuqubuka khona ukukhangana ngokocansi noma kuphume.
Ukuthi umyeni noma isithandwa sikhanga kangakanani kowesifazane akuxhomekile ezimfanelweni zabo zangempela zobudoda, kodwa kulokho owesifazane manje akudinga kakhulu - empilweni ehlelekile, elinganisiwe yomphakathi noma ezifundweni zokuzijabulisa nezothando.
Ngokwemvelo, umyeni angase azibuze ukuthi kwenzekani ngesimo sakhe sobulili emshadweni, ngoba usazihlola ngeso labanye besifazane futhi ngokungenacala udlala umkhohlisi, engaweli embundwini.