Kungani amadoda engathandi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yawo?

U-Arthur Miller wabhalela uMarilyn Monroe ukuthi lapho abantu behlukana, kusala amagama kuphela. Amazwi esingazange siwasho noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, siwaphonsa ngolaka. Lezo ezicekele phansi ubudlelwano, noma lezo ezibukhethele. Kuvela ukuthi amazwi abaluleke kakhulu kithi. Futhi amazwi othando nobubele - ikakhulukazi. Kodwa kungani amadoda engavamile ukuwasho?

I-Documentary Studio"I-Biography" uthwebule ividiyo ethinta inhliziyo yokuthi abesifazane, abangajwayele ukuvuma izono zamadoda, basabela kanjani emazwini othando.

Okokuqala, ababhali bevidiyo babuze amadoda ukuthi bavame ukukhuluma nabesifazane babo ngothando. Nazi ezinye izimpendulo:

• "Sesineminyaka engu-10 sindawonye, ​​ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile ngothando cishe kuyinto engafanele, futhi konke kucacile."
• "Izingxoxo - kunjani? Kufanele sihlale ekhishini bese sithi: Ngiyakuthanda, ngiyakuthanda nawe — akunjalo?
• “Kunzima ukukhuluma ngemizwa, kodwa ngingathanda.”

Kodwa ngemuva kwehora bekhuluma ngobudlelwano, la madoda azwakalise imizwa abengakaze akhulume ngayo:

• "Ngiyamthanda, ngisho noma egcoba izandla zakhe ngokhilimu embhedeni futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ememeza kakhulu, enomsindo" uyayinqoba.
• Ukube manje bengingabuzwa ukuthi ngingumuntu ojabulayo yini, bengizophendula: yebo, futhi lokhu kungenxa yakhe kuphela.”
• "Ngiyamthanda ngisho noma ecabanga ukuthi akangithandi."

Bukela le vidiyo futhi ukhulume ngothando.

Kungani amadoda engathandi ukukhuluma ngemizwa?

Ochwepheshe bachaza ukuthi yini evimbela amadoda ukuba aveze imizwa yawo ngokukhululekile nokuthi kuziphi izimo lapho engakwazi ukuthula khona ngothando.

Kokunye ukuhlola, izinsizwa namantombazane zanikezwa irekhodi lomntwana okhalayo ukuze alilalele. Intsha yacisha irekhodi ngokushesha kakhulu kunamantombazane. Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ekuqaleni zazikholelwa ukuthi lokhu kwakubangelwa ukuzwela okuphansi kwemizwelo. Kodwa ukuhlolwa kwegazi kwabonisa ukuthi abafana kulesi simo banda kakhulu izinga lama-hormone okucindezeleka.

Owesifazane ujwayelene kakhudlwana nokufutheka okunjalo okungokomzwelo, kuhlanganise nezingxoxo ezishubile ngemizwa. Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kuye kwahlela amadoda okuvikela, ukubonakaliswa kwamandla, izenzo ezisebenzayo futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukuvala imizwelo, isibonelo, empini noma ekuzingeleni. Ngenxa yalokho, kwaba ngokwemvelo emadodeni. Abesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, babevikelekile ukuze baveze inzalo, baboshwe endlini kanye nezingane ezincane.

Ayebaluleke kakhulu ukuba angazifaka engozini emzabalazweni wokufuna indawo noma ukudla, ngakho kwadingeka amadoda afake engozini. Ukufa kwamadoda amaningana akuzange kuthinte ikhono lokukhiqiza inzalo, kodwa ukufa kwabesifazane abaningana kwakusongela ukulahlekelwa okukhulu ngobukhulu besizwe.

Ngenxa yalokho, abesifazane baphila isikhathi eside futhi ngokuvamile mancane amathuba okuthi bafe kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila kwabo kunabesilisa. Ngokwesibonelo, abafana abasanda kuzalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi banamathuba amaningi okufa beseyizinsana kunamantombazane angakabi yisikhathi. Lokhu kwehluka kobulili kusekhona kukho konke ukuphila, futhi ngisho namadoda amadala kunamathuba amaningi okuthi afe ngemva nje kokushona komkawo kunabesifazane lapho kushona umyeni.

Umehluko ekubonakalisweni kwemizwelo kubafana namantombazane ubonakala kusukela ebuntwaneni. Amantombazane kufanele athintane kakhulu nemizwelo nemizwelo kunabafana, ngoba esikhathini esizayo kuzodingeka bazizwe ingane yabo, bamnike imfudumalo engokomoya nengokwenyama, uthando, umuzwa wokuzethemba, ukwamukelwa. Ngakho-ke, kwabesifazane, ukukhuluma ngemizwa kungokwemvelo, kumadoda, izenzo zifaneleka kakhulu.

Yini okufanele uyenze uma indoda yakho ingavamile ukukhuluma ngemizwa?

Ingabe uhlale utshela umlingani wakho ngemizwa futhi ufuna okufanayo kuye, kodwa ekuphenduleni ukuthula? Yini okufanele uyenze ukuze wenze imizwa yowesilisa ibe sobala kuwe, futhi ubudlelwano buvuleleke kakhudlwana?