Ngenkathi abanye "becindezelwa" futhi bezama ukuzivumelanisa ngandlela thize nokudideka, abanye bathola izinzuzo zesimo bona ngokwabo. Kubonakala sengathi laba bantu abalesabi ikusasa — bajabulela isikhathi samanje.
Abaxabanisi noma bathuke. Kunalokho, bayazuza esimweni samanje futhi bathola incazelo ekhethekile kuso. Abanye baba nokuthula, abanye balalelisisa, abanye bazethemba kakhulu kunangaphambili. Kwabanye, ngokokuqala ngqá ekuphileni kwabo, bazizwa bengabodwa, bedidekile, futhi beqaphile.
Ngokusobala, abaningi badidekile: “Kungenzeka kanjani lokhu? Ingabe laba bantu abananhliziyo futhi banobugovu kangangokuthi bayakujabulela ukubona abanye behlupheka, bekhathazeka futhi bezama ukuziphilisa? Akunjalo neze. Eqinisweni, iningi lalabo abazizwa bejabule manje bangabantu abazwela kakhulu, abangenandaba nobuhlungu babanye, abathambekele ekubekeni izidingo zomakhelwane babo ngaphezu kwezabo.
Bangobani futhi kungani beziphatha ngendlela abenza ngayo?
1. Abantu abane-chronic missed opportunity syndrome (FOMO - Fear Of Missing Out). Banomuzwa wokuthi konke okuhle kwenzeka ngaphandle kwabo. Aqalaze abone ukuthi wonke umuntu oseduze uhleka futhi ujabulela ukuphila. Bahlale becabanga ukuthi abanye baphila ezithakazelisayo futhi ezijabulisayo. Futhi lapho cishe zonke izakhamuzi zeplanethi zivaliwe ekhaya, ungakwazi ukuphumula: manje abaphuthelwa lutho.
2. Abantu abacabanga ukuthi akekho obakhathalelayo. Labo ababencishwa ukunakwa kwabazali ebuntwaneni ngokuvamile bazizwa sengathi babodwa emhlabeni. Ngezinye izikhathi umuzwa wesizungu uyalutha kangangokuthi uba ntofontofo. Mhlawumbe phakathi nenhlekelele yomhlaba wonke uwedwa ngempela, kodwa ukubekezelela kangcono kunabanye. Mhlawumbe iqiniso ekugcineni libonisa isimo sakho sangaphakathi futhi ngokwengxenye liqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu kuvamile.
3. Abantu abajwayele ubunzima kusukela ebuntwaneni. Izingane ezikhuliswe ezindaweni ezingalindelekile neziguquguqukayo ngokuvamile kufanele zenze izinqumo zabantu abadala, ngakho zikhula zilungele noma yini.
Kusukela besebancane, ngokuzenzakalelayo bajwayela ukuhlala beqaphile. Abantu abanjalo bayakwazi ukugxilisa ingqondo ngokushesha ezimweni zokungaqiniseki, benze izinto ngokushesha nangokunquma, futhi bathembele kubo kuphela. Ngesethi eqinile yamakhono okusinda kubhubhane, bazizwa begxile kakhulu futhi beqiniseka.
4. Abantu abafisa okuhlangenwe nakho okwedlulele. Izimo ezingokomzwelo ngokweqile, eziba ndikindiki ngokoqobo ngaphandle kokujabula, manje sezigezwa olwandle lwemizwa ecacile. Abanye abantu badinga ngempela okuhlangenwe nakho okungajwayelekile, ngisho nokwedlulele ukuze baphile ngempela. Izimo eziphuthumayo, izingozi, izinxushunxushu zibakhanga, futhi konke lokhu kufike nobhubhane lwe-COVID-19. Manje bazizwa okungenani okuthile, ngoba ngisho nemizwa engemihle ingcono kune-vacuum ephelele.
5. Izingeniso emnyombeni. Izindlu eziqinisekayo, ezihlale zihudulwa kwenye indawo futhi ziphoqelelwe ukuxhumana nabantu, ziphefumula. Ngeke usakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nomphakathi oxokozelayo, kusukela manje kuqhubeke wonke umuntu uzijwayelanisa nawo. Imithetho emisha yamukelwe, futhi lena yimithetho yama-introverts.
6. Abake babhekana nobunzima ngisho bengekho ubhubhane. Kunabantu abaningi emhlabeni abake babhekana nobunzima obukhulu bempilo kanye nezinhlupheko esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokuthi kuqubuke lolu bhubhane. Isimo samanje sibanikeze ithuba lokuthi baphefumule.
Izwe elijwayelekile lawa ngokuzumayo, akukho okwakungaxazululwa noma kulungiswe. Kodwa njengoba wonke umuntu enezinkinga, ngezinga elithile kwaba lula kubo. Akuyona indaba yokuzikhukhumeza, ukuthi nje baduduzwa umuzwa wokuba ngabangane. Phela, ubani manje olula?
7. Abantu abakhathazekile osekuyiminyaka belindele inhlekelele. Ukukhathazeka ngokuvamile kubangela ukwesaba okungenangqondo kwezenzakalo ezibuhlungu ezingalindelekile. Ngakho-ke, abanye ngaso sonke isikhathi balindela uhlobo oluthile lwenkathazo futhi bazame ukuzivikela kunoma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle.
Hhayi-ke, sesifikile. Into ebiyesaba wonke umuntu futhi obengayilindele yenzeka. Futhi laba bantu bayeka ukukhathazeka: ngemuva kwakho konke, ababekulungiselele impilo yabo yonke kwenzeka. Ngokumangalisayo, esikhundleni sokwethuka, kwaba khona ukukhululeka.
Kusho ukuthini konke lokhu
Uma okunye kwalokhu okungenhla kusebenza kuwe, ngisho nangesilinganiso esincane, cishe unqotshwa umuzwa wecala. Cishe ucabanga ukuthi akulungile ukuzizwa ujabule ngaleso sikhathi. Qiniseka ukuthi akunjalo!
Njengoba singenakukwazi ukukhetha imizwa yethu, akufanele sizisole ngokuba nayo. Kodwa kusemandleni ethu ukubaqondisa endleleni enempilo. Uma uqoqwe, uzolile futhi ulinganisela, sebenzisa lesi simo.
Ngokunokwenzeka, unesikhathi esiningi samahhala nezindaba ezicindezela kancane. Leli yithuba lokuzazi kangcono, wamukele izikhalo zasebuntwaneni ezakwenza waqina, yeka ukulwa nemizwa “engalungile” bese uyamukele njengoba injalo.
Akekho owayengacabanga ukuthi isintu kwakuyodingeka sibhekane novivinyo olunzima kangaka. Noma kunjalo wonke umuntu ubhekana nakho ngendlela yakhe. Ubani owaziyo, ngokuzumayo lesi sikhathi esinzima sizophenduka ngendlela engaqondakali ukuze uzuze?
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