"Angikhulumi nawe!" - uma uzwa lawa mazwi kumlingani wakho kaningi, uma sekuthule izinsuku eziningi futhi ngenxa yalokho kufanele ubeke izaba, unxuse, ucele intethelelo, futhi yini - wena ngokwakho ungazi, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi ukucabanga ngokuthi umuntu omthandayo uyakukhohlisa .
U-Ivan waqonda ukuthi unecala lokuthile, kodwa wayengazi ukuthi yini. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule, umkakhe ubelokhu engavumi ngenkani ukukhuluma naye. Kwakubonakala ukuthi kukhona okumcasulile. Inkinga yayiwukuthi wayemgxeka ngokoqobo nsuku zonke ngamaphutha athile neziphambeko, ngakho wayengazi ukuthi yini ebangele ukuba adube.
Usanda kuba nephathi yenkampani emsebenzini, mhlawumbe uphuze kakhulu futhi usho into ewubuwula lapho? Noma wayecasulwe yinqwaba yezitsha ezingageziwe ezazigcwele ekhishini? Noma mhlawumbe waqala ukuchitha kakhulu ukudla, ezama ukunamathela ekudleni okunempilo? Ngolunye usuku, wathumela umyalezo obhuqayo kumngane wakhe wokuthi umkakhe akajabule ngaye futhi, mhlawumbe wawufundile?
Ngokuvamile u-Ivan ezimweni ezinjalo wavuma zonke izono ezingase zicatshangwe nezingacatshangwa, waxolisa futhi wamncenga ukuba aqale ukukhuluma naye futhi. Wehluleka ukubekezelela ukuthula kwakhe. Naye wakwamukela ngokungabaza ukuxolisa kwakhe, wamthethisa kabuhlungu, futhi kancane kancane waqala ukuxhumana. Ngeshwa, yonke le nqubo yayilokhu iphindaphinda cishe njalo emavikini amabili.
Kodwa kulokhu, wanquma ukuthi wayesekwanele. Wayesekhathele ukuphathwa okwengane. Waqala ukuqonda ukuthi ngosizo lokuduba, umkakhe ulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe futhi amphoqelele ukuba athwale umthwalo wemfanelo oweqisayo. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, wayebheka ukuthuthumela kwakhe njengophawu lokuzikhandla, kodwa manje wabona ngokucacile ukuthi lokhu kwakuwukukhohlisa nje.
Ukuduba ebudlelwaneni kuwuhlobo lokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo. Amafomu avame kakhulu.
1. Ukuziba. Ngokukuziba, umlingani ubonisa ukunganaki. Ubonisa ngokucacile ukuthi akakwazisi futhi uzama ukukubeka ngaphansi kwentando yakhe. Isibonelo, ubonakala engakuboni, njengokungathi awukho, wenza sengathi akezwa amazwi akho, "ukhohlwa" mayelana nezinhlelo ezihlangene, ukubheka ngokuzithoba.
2. Ukugwema ingxoxo. Ngezinye izikhathi umlingani akakushayi indiva ngokuphelele, kodwa uyavala, egwema ngenkuthalo ukuxhumana. Isibonelo, unikeza izimpendulo zohlamvu olulodwa kuyo yonke imibuzo yakho, akakubheki emehlweni, wehla namazwi ajwayelekile lapho ubuza ngento ethile, evungama ngaphansi kokuphefumula kwakhe noma egwema ukuphendula ngokushintsha isihloko kungazelelwe. Ngakho, ususa ingxoxo nganoma iyiphi incazelo aphinde abonise isimo sakhe sengqondo sokuphika.
3. Ukucekela phansi. Umlingani onjalo uzama ngokunyenya ukukuphuca ukuzethemba. Akakuboni impumelelo yakho, akakuvumeli ukuba ufeze imisebenzi yakho uwedwa, ushintsha ngokuzumayo izidingo zakhe, ukuvimbele ngasese ekuzuzeni impumelelo. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenziwa ngasese futhi ekuqaleni awuqondi nokuthi kwenzekani.
4. Ukwenqaba ukusondelana ngokomzimba. Enqaba ukubonakaliswa kothando nothando ngakini, yena, empeleni, uyakulahla. Ngokuvamile lokhu kwenzeka ngaphandle kwamagama: umlingani ugwema ukuthinta kwakho noma ukuqabula, ugwema noma yikuphi ukusondelana ngokomzimba. Angase anqabe ucansi, athi ubulili abubalulekile kuye.
5. Ukuhlukaniswa nabantu obathandayo. Uzama ukukhawulela impilo yakho yomphakathi. Ngokwesibonelo, uyakwenqabela ukuxhumana nezihlobo ezingakuvikela kuye, ukuthethelela ngokuthi zizama ukubhidliza ubuhlobo, “ziyangizonda,” “azikunaki ngempela.” Ngakho, ukuduba akudluliseli kuwe kuphela, kodwa nasezihlotsheni zakho, ezingazi lutho.
6. Ukulimala kwesithunzi. Ngale ndlela, umlingani uzama ukukuhlukanisa neqembu lonke labantu: abangani, osebenza nabo, abangani ezigabeni namaqembu. Ubenza bakudube ngokusakaza amahlebezi amanga angcolisa igama lakho.
Isibonelo, uma ulikholwa futhi uvakashela ethempelini elifanayo njalo, umlingani wakho angase asabalalise amahlebezi okuthi ulahlekelwe ukholo lwakho noma uziphatha ngendlela engafanele. Kufanele ubeke izaba, okuyinto ehlala ilukhuni futhi ingajabulisi.
Lapho u-Ivan eqaphela ukuthi yiziphi izindlela zokuxhaphaza nobudlova obungokwengqondo umkakhe azisebenzisayo, ekugcineni wanquma ukumshiya.
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: U-Kristin Hammond unguchwepheshe wezengqondo futhi ochwepheshe ekubhekaneni nezingxabano zomndeni.