Okuqukethwe
Ukusebenza nodokotela wezengqondo akuwona wonke umuntu. Ingabe yisikhathi sokubhukha i-aphoyintimenti noma singalinda? Sizobhekana nalokhu nge-psychotherapist u-Ekaterina Mikhailova.
Eqinisweni, isithakazelo kumuntu siqu, isifiso sokuthola lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho, kwanele ukuqala ukwelashwa. Kodwa ekuphileni kusekhona izimo lapho usizo lwe-psychotherapist lungase ludingeke cishe kuwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, uhlamvu nobulili.
Ubunzima ngesisekelo
Ukuthola kunzima ukwenza lokho okubonakala kulula kwabanye. Isibonelo, ungase ungazizwa ukhululekile ukuba “wedwa ekhaya” futhi ukuthole kunzima ukuxoxa nabantu ongabazi noma ukuthenga ngaphandle kweseluleko. Izizathu azisho lutho, kodwa kuwena zibucayi.
Ukubona umelaphi akulimazi uma i-quirk, njengokwesaba ubumnyama, ukuphakama, noma ukukhuluma esidlangalaleni, ikhule kangangokuthi kufanele ushintshe okuthile empilweni yakho ngenxa yalokho: isibonelo, wenqaba indawo yokuhlala enhle. ngoba nje usesitezi esiphezulu.
Isipiliyoni esibuhlungu
Akukhathalekile ukuthi sekunesikhathi esingakanani empilweni yakho. Uma, ngemva kwengozi encane, ukushaya kwenhliziyo kwakho kuyashesha futhi izandla zakho ziba manzi lapho ufika ngemuva kwesondo futhi, uma ubona noma wenza okuthile futhi lokhu kukuvimbela ukuba uphile ngendlela evamile, lesi yisizathu sokuhlangana nodokotela wengqondo.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kosizi
Kwenzeka ukuthi isilinganiso sosizi esihlobene nokulahlekelwa othandekayo, ukungabi nabulungisa okuhlangenwe nakho, kufana nokuthi akunakusingathwa yedwa. Uma uhlala ezinhlungwini ezinzima futhi ngemuva kwesikhashana, udinga usizo nakanjani.
Ukuzenyeza
Wonke umuntu udlula ezikhathini lapho engazithandi khona, lapho ukuzethemba kwehla. Lokhu kungenxa yokwehluleka okuthile noma izinkinga ezihlobene nobudala. Kodwa uma ungazithandi ngaso sonke isikhathi, lesi yisizathu esiqondile sokufuna usizo.
Ukushintsha kweminyaka
Abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukuhambisana nokuguqukela kwemvelo esigabeni esilandelayo seminyaka. Usemusha futhi awufuni ukuba umuntu “omdala”. Kodwa, maye, kuzokwenzeka. Esimeni sakho, ngokusekelwa i-psychotherapist.
Ukumethemba
Lapho umuntu engakwazi ukubhekana nenye yemikhuba yakhe futhi iqala “ukumhola” ekuphileni, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zikhuluma ngokulutheka. Ukuncika kuhlukile. Ngokwesibonelo, othile uzizwa ejabule kuphela lapho esothandweni. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukhetha "izinto" ezinjalo, empeleni, akukho lutho olungatholakala ngaphandle kosizi.
Inani akuwona ubuhlobo nomuntu wangempela, kodwa isimo "sokugula okuphezulu". Isigaba esifanayo sihlanganisa: imishini yokugembula, ukudla ngokweqile, umkhuba wokulala nomuntu ongamazi bese uyazisola, ukuba umlutha womsebenzi ... Uma uwela ngaphansi kwethonya lothile futhi lokhu kulutheka kukuphuca inkululeko, isithunzi, le nkinga. akusona isimo, kodwa ngokwengqondo.
ukukhathazeka
Uma ungabaza njalo, awukwazi ukuthatha isinyathelo esidingekayo nganoma iyiphi indlela, ukhathazeka nganoma yisiphi isizathu, futhi ukukhathazeka akuhlanganisi, kodwa kuyakukhubaza, lesi yisizathu sakudala sokuxhumana nochwepheshe.
Isimo semizwa esingesihle
Kwenzeka kumuntu ngamunye wethu, kodwa uma kuqhubeka njalo, yonke into ezungezile iyacasula, impilo ibonakala inzima futhi ingenanjongo, kuphakama imicabango mayelana nokugula okungathí sina okungenzeka kuwe noma kwabathandekayo bakho, udinga ukusekelwa. Ngiyaqaphela: emisebenzini ye-Western psychotherapeutic, cishe ingxenye yesithathu yezikhalazo zihlobene nokudangala.
Izindaba zomndeni
Umndeni uyinjabulo yethu, ukuzigqaja kanye … nomthombo wezinkinga zethu. Ziningi kangangokuthi kuyadingeka ukukhuluma ngazo ngokwehlukana nangokuningiliziwe. Kukhona uhlelo olukhethekile lokwelashwa komndeni, olubandakanya ukusebenza nomndeni uwonke.
Ungazivikela kanjani kuma-charlatans?
Ama-Psychotherapists avame ukutuswa amandla okulutha kanye namandla angaqondakali. Lona umphumela weminyaka eminingi yokucwayiza ezikrinini ze-TV kanye namakhasi amaphephandaba "ama-psychotherapists" afana noKashpirovsky nama-pop hypnotists. Ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa i-charlatan ngendlela efanayo nanoma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi.
Qaphela izimpawu ezimnikezayo: inala yemiphumela yangaphandle, ukuziphatha okungavamile, imizamo yokucindezela isinyathelo sakho.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenzayo sihlala sizwela isikhathi, ukusiphatha mahhala (ukuhlelwa kabusha kwemihlangano okuvamile, ukubambezeleka kweseshini) kukhuluma ngokungenamsebenzi. Qaphela ubuningi begama elingaqondakali: i-psychotherapist izama njalo ukukhuluma ulimi lweklayenti, lokhu kungenye yemithetho yomsebenzi. Akawasebenzisi amagama athi “iso elibi” noma “umonakalo”, akenzi izithembiso “zokubuyisela othandekayo.” Akakwazi ukunikeza iziqinisekiso noma: emva kwakho konke, umsebenzi omningi kuzodingeka wenziwe nguwe, futhi awukwazi kusengaphambili ukuthi yimiphi imiphumela ozoyithola. Uqinisekisiwe kuphela usizo olufanele lochwepheshe.
Izinkinga zempilo
Yebo, futhi ziyisizathu sokuphendukela ku-psychotherapist uma ubona ukuthi isilonda sakho siyazwela ebudlelwaneni nabaphathi. Noma uhlale ungenwa umkhuhlane, kodwa imithi ayikusizi ... Iningi lamakhasimende odokotela bengqondo abantu abangenazo izinkinga zabo ezingokwengqondo (ukuziphatha, ubudlelwano, njll.), kodwa labo abalethwa kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ngokugula ngokomzimba.
Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, i-psychotherapist yiyona kuphela yodokotela lapho i-ambulensi ingeke imyise khona. Kukuwe ukuthi uzoya kuye noma cha. Okungukuthi, ngokubona kwami, kusenza "sithandeke kakhulu futhi sikhange" kuso sonke isitolo sokusiza.