Okuqukethwe
Ngezinye izikhathi izimo ziba zimbi kangangokuthi sinqotshwa umuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba ngokuphelele futhi kubonakala sengathi kuyohlale kunjalo. Ukuphuma kulesi simo kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kusafanele ukuzama, kuqinisekisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uDaniel Matthew.
Kusho ukuthini ukubambeka, ukudideka, ukuba semgwaqeni? Umuntu ozithola ekuleso simo uzizwa sengathi ubhajwe obishini futhi akakwazi nokunyakaza. Kubonakala kuye ukuthi akusizi ukubiza usizo, ngoba akekho onendaba naye. Lokhu kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezinkinga zomshado, ubudlelwano noma emsebenzini, ukuzethemba nokunganeliseki ngawe.
Lesi simo siwuphawu lokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha okuthile empilweni. Nokho, sivinjelwa ukwesaba nokungabi namandla, futhi ngenxa yalokho sicwila sijula.
UPHUMA KANJANI
Uma sesisesimweni esingenathemba, silahlekelwa ikhono lokucabanga ngokucacile: yonke into imbozwe yisihenqo sokuphelelwa ithemba kanye neminye imizwelo emibi. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi okungenani uzame ukungaphelelwa yinhliziyo. Phela, endaweni lapho sithatha khona i-quagmire, amathuba, izinsiza namathiphu angafihlwa - azosisiza ukuthi sithole indawo yokumisa.
Naphezu komuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba okuphelele, nakanjani kuyoba khona indlela yokuphuma. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyasiza ukubheka isimo ngendlela ehlukile bese uzama ukushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngaso. Kodwa uma lokhu kukodwa kungenele, mhlawumbe amathiphu alandelayo azokusiza.
Zinike isikhathi sokukala okuhle nokubi
Akulula, kodwa kuyadingeka ukuhlola isimo. Beka eceleni okungenani imizuzu engu-15 ngosuku ukuze ucabange ngesimo samanje. Zama ukukhuluma ngokungagwegwesi ngangokunokwenzeka: kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela engakuvumeli ukuthi uphume phansi.
Kubalulekile ngokufanayo ukuthola izaba ozama ukuzifihla bese ubhala noma yiziphi, ngisho ezingenangqondo kakhulu, imibono nezisombululo. Ukuzibophezela ngezinqumo zakho kusho ukubuyisela emuva ukulawula izenzo zakho. Kudingeka umzamo omkhulu, kodwa ngemva kwabo kuza ukuzethemba. Akekho ongaphazamisa isifiso sakho sokuqhubekela phambili.
Samukele isimo
Ukubhekana nezimo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokubhekana nazo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi wenelisekile ngokwenzekayo. Wamukela yonke into njengoba injalo ukuze unqume ukuthi uzoya kuphi ngokulandelayo, uhlele izinyathelo futhi uqale ukwakha izindlela ezintsha.
Cabanga ngezenzo zakho
Yebo, awukaqondi ukuthi yini ngempela okufanele uyenze, kodwa cabangela noma yiziphi izinketho ezingase zibe khona. Isibonelo, khuluma nomuntu ongakhethi: uzosiza ngokuveza umbono wakhe futhi, mhlawumbe, anikeze indlela yokuphuma engalindelekile engazange ivele kuwe.
YINI ENYE?
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi sonke sidinga inani elihlukile lesikhathi ukuze sikhulule: konke kuncike kumuntu ngamunye kanye nesimo esithile. Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye. Uhlukile futhi izimo zakho azifani kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngaphambili kuyindlela enzima enezithiyo, hhayi i-marathon. Nakuba kungase kubonakale sengathi kuthatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ukuhamba ngezinyathelo ezincane, lena yindlela ephumelela kakhulu.
Noma nini lapho ucabanga ngesimo sakho samanje, cabanga ngezinyathelo ozithathayo manje futhi umake izinyathelo ozithathile ukuze ubone lokho osekuzuzile. Yiqiniso, kubalulekile ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uhlele ezinye izenzo, kodwa kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ungazisoli ngamaphutha adlule nazayo. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanele ushintshe izikhombisi-ndlela. Imizamo yansuku zonke ixazulula okuningi, kodwa ukuphumula kuyadingeka. Ukuzinakekela kuyingxenye yesu lokuphuma ebunzimeni. Qaphela impilo yakho, uzitike enjabulweni, futhi uzijwayeze ukukhuluma kahle ngokwakho.
Ungesabi ukubambezeleka nezithiyo ezingalindelekile. Izithiyo zingangena endleleni, kodwa ukuthi uyafika yini kumgomo ohlosiwe kukuwe. Bheka ukwehluleka nobunzima njengamathuba oqina ngawo.
Kwezinye izimo, ukulwa kubonakala kungenangqondo ngenxa yokukhathazeka kanye nezinye iziyaluyalu zemizwa ezifana nokuphazamiseka kokunaka kokungasebenzi kahle. Ukuze ukhululeke ngokuphelele, okokuqala, udinga ukuxazulula izinkinga ezingokwengqondo.
Uma, naphezu kwemizamo yakho emihle, usazizwa uvaleleke, ukwelashwa kwengqondo kuwukubheja kwakho okuhle kakhulu. Thola uchwepheshe onekhono futhi ukhumbule: konke kuzolunga.
Mayelana nombhali: UDaniel Matthew uyisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somndeni, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, kanye nochwepheshe be-neurotic disorder.