Okuqukethwe
I-Wendy syndrome noma kungani abanye abantu bebeka phambili izidingo zabanye
Psychology
Kulolu cwaningo olungakhathali lwenjabulo, ubuntu bukaWendy budlala indima yomhlengi nomlingani wakhe, bezizwa bethandwa, bedingeka futhi belusizo.
Uma ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule besikhuluma ngesifo i-Peter Pan, sikhomba lo mlingiswa ophilayo njengomuntu onqaba ukukhula, singabuye sihlaziye isikhundla sikaWendy, intombazane ezimisele ukujabulisa abanye ngokwesaba ukwaliwa. Le yindlela enwetshiwe ngayo Isifo se-Wendy.
Lesi sifo sisho, njengoba kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uPaloma Rey, esidingweni sokwanelisa izifiso zomunye umuntu, futhi imvamisa kuba umlingani noma izingane: «Yisifo esithinta kakhulu abesifazane, yize singenaso a ukuvikelwa kwe-neuropsychological», Kubonisa.
Laba bantu babonakala benesidingo sokujabulisa abanye ngokuseshwa okuqhubekayo kokwamukelwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlupheka ukwenqatshwa nokushiywa komunye umuntu. Lolu hlobo lobuntu luyaziwa ngaleli gama ukukhumbula isimilo sikaWendy emlandweni we Peter Pan, lapho asebenzise khona indima yokuncika ebudlelwaneni kuPeter futhi wamvimbela ekukhuleni nasekuvuthweni.
«Kubudlelwano bezithandani lapho elinye lamalungu lithatha indima yokuba ngumama, kwenza kube nzima futhi kuvimbele umlingani wabo ekubeni avuthwe futhi azibophezele ngezidingo zabo, okungaholela ekubekweni phambili kwezidingo zomunye ngokumelene nezakhe futhi, ngakho-ke, ezingeni eliphezulu lokuhlupheka ezinhlangothini zombili ", kusho uPaloma Rey. Ngakho-ke, kulokho ukucinga ngokungakhathali injabulo yomunye, ubuntu bukaWendy budlala indima “yomhlengi nomlingani wakhe ngokuzizwa bethandwa, bedingeka futhi belusizo.” Lokhu kuholela enkolelweni yamanga yokuthi uthando lisho ukuzidela, ukwesula emsebenzini nokuzincisha, ukubalekela ukwenqatshwa kwabanye nokufuna ukwamukelwa kwabo okuqhubekayo.
Ubuntu
Yize kungesona isifo se-neuropsychological endorsed syndrome, abanye batholakele izici abantu abanalolu hlobo lobuntu abazibonisayo.
- Ukuphelela: UPaloma Rey (@palomareypsicologia) uthi bangabantu abethula lesi sici futhi kubenza bazizwe benecala lapho okuthile kungahambi kahle (kulokhu, lapho behluleka ukwanelisa abanye).
- Awukho umehluko phakathi kwe umqondo wothando nokuzidela. “Bayayeka ukukhathala, ukungaphatheki kahle nanoma imuphi umphumela ongemuhle oza nokukhathalela, ngokungaphezi, omunye umuntu,” kuxwayisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
- Bayazizwa kubalulekile. Laba bantu bathatha imisebenzi nezibopho "zikaPeter Pan wabo", bafinyelela indima yokuba ngumama wabalingani babo.
- Bahlala njalo bayaxolisa noma banemizwa yecala ngezinto ebezingenakwenzeka ukuba bazenze ngesikhathi.
- Ukuhanjiswa: gwema izingxabano nomlingani wakho bese uzama ukumjabulisa ngazo zonke izindlela, noma ngabe lokhu kusho ukubeka eceleni injabulo yabo.
Ukwelapha lesi sifo
Ukubheka ukuthi laba bantu bethula iphethini yokuziphatha ejwayelekile yokuncika ngokomzwelo nokuthi izinga labo lokuzethemba liphansi. Kumele senze ukungenelela lapho lezi zindawo zimbozwe khona kakhulu.
Kodwa-ke, futhi ngokusho kongoti, kubalulekile ukufaka izinto ezinjengalezi ezilandelayo ekwelashweni:
- Ukuqwashiswa kwesimo: Ngokuvamile, abantu abaphethwe yilesi sifo bajwayela lolu hlobo lokuziphatha ebuhlotsheni babo.
- Ukuqeqeshwa kobuhlakani obungokomzwelo: kuyadingeka impela ukuthi laba bantu bangafundi ukukhomba imizwa yabo kuphela kepha bazi nokuthi bangayilawula kanjani. Ukuqonda ukuthi imizwa yabo idlale kanjani indima ebalulekile ekuthuthukiseni isimilo kuzobasiza ukuthi bagweme ukuphinda leli phethini ngokuzayo.
- Yazi ukuthi ungasho kanjani cha: Lokhu kusebenza ikakhulukazi njengoba lolu hlobo lobuntu lunenkambiso yokugwema noma yikuphi ukungqubuzana okungavela ngokwenqaba ukujabulisa umlingani wabo. "Le ngxenye inzima kakhulu ngoba idinga izikhathi zokwelashwa ezingabhekana nemicabango ephazamisayo ecasha ngale ndlela yokuziphatha," kuphetha uPaloma Rey.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele ubhekisise lezi zinhlobo zengqondo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ungashintsha futhi uthole imikhuba nempilo enempilo.