Ukubona ukungagwemeki kokuhlukana kanye nokungaqiniseki okuphelele kwekusasa akuyona isivivinyo esilula. Umuzwa wokuthi ukuphila komuntu siqu kuyaphuma ezandleni zakhe udala umuzwa wokukhathazeka okujulile. USusanne Lachman, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisemtholampilo, ucabanga ngendlela yokusinda kulesi sikhathi esibuhlungu sokulinda ukuphela.
Lapho ubuhlobo buphela, yonke into eyayibonakala yaziwa futhi isobala ilahlekelwa ukucaca. Leso sikhala esivulekile lapho amafomu egebe adinga ukugcwaliswa futhi asenze sibheke izizathu nezizathu zalokho okwenzekile — yile ndlela esizama ngayo okungenani ukubhekana nokungaqiniseki.
Ukulahlekelwa, ubukhulu bayo ngezinye izikhathi okunzima ukukucabanga, kuyaphazamisa futhi kubangela ukungakhululeki okukhulu. Sizwa ukwesaba nokuphelelwa ithemba. Lo muzwa wokungabi nalutho awubekezeleleki kangangokuthi akukho okunye esingakwenza ngaphandle kokubheka okungenani incazelo ethile kulokho okwenzekayo.
Nokho, isikhala sikhulu kangangokuthi ayikho incazelo eyokwanela ukusivala. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zingaki izenzo eziphazamisayo esizisungulela zona, umthwalo okufanele siwudonse uzohlala ungabekezeleleki.
Esimweni lapho singenakho ukulawula umphumela, ukulinda isikhathi lapho singakhipha khona umoya futhi sizizwe singcono noma sibuyele esimweni sokuqala kanye nomlingani cishe kuyindaba yokuphila nokufa. Silindele isinqumo - yisona kuphela esizocacisa ukuthi kwenzekani noma okwenzeka phakathi kwethu. futhi ekugcineni azizwe ekhululekile.
Ukulinda ukuhlukana okungenakugwenywa kuyinto enzima kakhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Kulesi sikhala, isikhathi sihamba kancane kangangokuthi sibambeke ngokoqobo ezingxoxweni ezingapheli nathi mayelana nalokho okusilindele. Sizizwa sinesidingo esiphuthumayo sokuthola ngokushesha ukuthi ikhona yini indlela yokuxhuma kabusha nozakwethu (wangaphambili). Futhi uma kungenjalo, sikuphi-ke isiqinisekiso sokuthi siyoke sibe ngcono futhi sikwazi ukuthanda omunye umuntu?
Ngeshwa, ayikho indlela yokubikezela ukuthi kuzokwenzekani esikhathini esizayo. Lokhu kubuhlungu ngendlela emangalisayo, kodwa kufanele sivume ukuthi okwamanje azikho izimpendulo ezingadambisa noma zivale isikhala esingaphakathi kithi, izwe langaphandle alikho.
Ukulinda ukuhlukana okungenakugwenywa kuyinto enzima kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. Sithemba ukuthi sizozizwa singcono ngenxa yalokho osekuvele kusikhathaza ngokungenakubekezeleleka ngokwakho.
Zama ukwamukela okulandelayo.
Okokuqala nje: asikho isixazululo, noma kungaba yini, esingadambisa ubuhlungu esibuzwayo manje. Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokubhekana nakho ukuvuma ukuthi amandla angaphandle awakwazi ukukuthobisa. Kunalokho, ukuqaphela ukungagwemeki kwayo okwamanje kuzosiza.
Esikhundleni sokubheka izindlela zokuphuma ezingekho, zama ukuziqinisekisa ukuthi kulungile ukuzwa ubuhlungu nokudabuka njengamanje, ukuthi kuyimpendulo yemvelo ekulahlekelweni kanye nengxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuba lusizi. Ukuqaphela iqiniso lokuthi kufanele ubekezelele into ongayazi ukuze uzizwe ungcono kuyokusiza ukuba ukukhuthazelele.
Ngikholwe, uma okungaziwa kuhlala kungaziwa, kunesizathu salokho.
Ngiyakwazi kakade ukuzwa imibuzo: "Kuzophela nini lokhu?", "Kuzodingeka ngilinde isikhathi esingakanani?" Impendulo: eziningi ozidingayo. Kancane kancane, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Yinye kuphela indlela yokudambisa ukukhathazeka kwami phambi kokungaziwa - ukubheka ngaphakathi kwakho futhi ulalele: ingabe ngingcono namuhla kunayizolo noma ihora eledlule?
Yithi kuphela esingakwazi ukuthi sizizwa kanjani, uma siqhathanisa nemizwa yethu yangaphambili. Lokhu kungokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu siqu, thina kuphela esikwazi ukuphila, emizimbeni yethu kanye nokuqonda kwethu ubudlelwano.
Ngikholwe, uma okungaziwa kuhlala kungaziwa, kunesizathu salokho. Enye yazo iwukusisiza ukuba sisuse ubandlululo lokuthi akujwayelekile noma akulungile ukuzwa ubuhlungu obunjalo nokwesaba ikusasa.
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