Okuqukethwe
Ngesikhathi esifanayo lapho eba umama, eneminyaka engu-27 ubudala, u-Valérianne Defèse wanquma ukwakha ibhizinisi lakhe lokuhlela izingane: Ukulinda Ingane. Indlela yokufeza ngobuchwepheshe, ngenkathi ujabulela indodakazi yakho. Owesifazane osemusha usitshela ukuthi, muva nje, uhlangana kanjani phakathi kwamabhodlela okuphakelayo kanye nokuqokwa kwamaklayenti… ngenjabulo.
Ukutholakala kokuhlela kwezingane
Ngaphambi kokudala inkampani yami, ngasebenza njengomphathi womcimbi eqenjini labezindaba. Umsebenzi wami wawunendawo ethile ekuphileni kwami. Ngazinikela ngokuphelele, angibange ngisawabala amahora ami… Ngemva kwalokho, ngakhulelwa futhi ngabona ukuthi kwakungaseyona impilo engangiyifunayo. Ngangifuna ukuqhubeka nokusebenza, kuyilapho nginesikhathi sokuzinikela endodakazini yami. Ngangesaba ukuthi unesi wasenkulisa enkulisa owambona ethatha izinyathelo zakhe zokuqala. Umqondo wokuqala ibhizinisi wavela, kancane. Bengifuna ukunikela ngezinkonzo zami, kodwa bengingazi kahle ukuthi “yini”. Ngolunye usuku, lapho ngifunda umagazini wokukhulisa izingane, ngathola isihloko esikhuluma ngokuhlela izingane. Yachofoza. Njengoba ngangingumama omncane kakhulu, izwe “elimangalisayo” lobumama lase lingikhangile, ngalithola limnandi. Wakhulelwa ke usisi wami. Ngamqondisa kakhulu ngesikhathi ekhulelwe ekukhetheni amathuluzi adingekayo ekufikeni komntwana. Ezitolo, abanye besifazane bacime izindlebe ukuze balalele iseluleko sami. Lapho, ngazitshela: “Kumelwe ngiqale!” “
I-Waiting For Baby: isevisi yokulungiselela ukufika Komntwana
Uma silindele ingane yethu yokuqala, akekho ngempela osiqondisayo ekuthengeni okuwusizo. Ngokuvamile, sizithola sithenga kakhulu, noma kabi. Sichitha isikhathi, amandla kanye nemali. I-Waiting For Baby iwuhlobo lwe-concierge yabazali bakusasa, enikeza ukubasiza kuwo wonke amalungiselelo abo. Ngifuna ukunikeza abesifazane abakhulelwe iseluleko sangempela esiwusizo kanye nezinto ezibonakalayo, ukuze ukufika kwengane yabo kungabi umthombo wokucindezeleka, kodwa umzuzwana wenjabulo nokuzola.
Kuye ngephakheji ekhethiwe, ngeluleka abazali besikhathi esizayo ngocingo, ngihambe nabo esitolo, noma ngilandele "umthengi womuntu siqu", ngamanye amazwi ngibathengela futhi ngihambise imikhiqizo kubo. Ngingakwazi futhi ukunakekela inhlangano ye-baby shower noma ubhapathizo, kanye nokuthunyelwa kwezimemezelo! Ukuhlelwa kwezingane kuhloswe kwabesifazane abakhuthele, abakhungathekiswe yimisebenzi yabo, abangenaso ngempela isikhathi sokunakekela yonke imicikilisho noma ukuthenga ngaphambi kokufika koMntwana. Kodwa futhi komama bakusasa abakhulelwe amawele noma abalele embhedeni ngenxa yezizathu zezokwelapha, futhi abangakwazi ukuyothenga.
Impilo yami yansuku zonke njengomama kanye nomphathi webhizinisi
Ngiphila ngesigqi sendodakazi yami. Ngisebenza ngesikhathi sokulala noma kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu. Kwesinye isikhathi lokho kubangela izimo ezihlekisayo: mina, ngibhala ama-imeyili ami nge-chip yami emadolweni ami noma ocingweni ngithi “shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh »… Hey yebo, ezinyangeni ezingama-20, udinga ukunakwa njalo! Kwesinye isikhathi ngimshiya enkulisa ukuze aphefumule kancane futhi akwazi ukuqhubeka, kungenjalo ngeke ngiphume kukho. Uma ngikhethe ukuzimela, wukuba ngikwazi nokuzihlela ngendlela ebengifisa ngayo. Uma ngifuna ukuzithathela amahora amabili, ngiyakwenza. Ukuze ngingakhungatheki, ngenza “uhlu lwezinto zokwenziwa”. Ngizama ukuqina nokuhleleka.
Uma ngineseluleko ngomama abasebancane abafuna ukuqalisa, bengingabatshela ukuthi balokothe bafinyelele kwabanye ikakhulukazi bajoyine amanethiwekhi osomabhizinisi. “Abadala” bangakuphelezela, isinyathelo ngesinyathelo. Kukhona uhlobo lobumbano oludalwayo. Futhi-ke, lapho ibhokisi seliqalisiwe, kubalulekile ukusebenza kahle ekukhulumisaneni kwakho, isibonelo ngokwakha ubudlelwano nezinye izinkampani.