Ekupheleni konyaka ka-2021, uKarine Ferri ukhipha incwadi kwa-Éditions Robert Laffont: Impilo esesilinganisweni. Sahlangana naye:
Sawubona Karine. Njengowesifazane, umama nomholi, ukwazi kanjani “ukungakhethi”?
KF : Ngikuthanda kakhulu engikwenzayo, ngokomsebenzi, kodwa nasempilweni yami yomuntu siqu neyomndeni. Ngiyazisa okugqamayo njengokuthula nemvelo. Ngibe nokuthula isikhashana manje “nalawa maKarine amabili” nokuba ngowesifazane wakho kokubili ukukhanya nesithunzi.
Ukubuyisana ngempumelelo laba bobabili, nokho, Ngihleleke kakhulu: i-ajenda yephepha, uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe… Ngihlela yonke into! Ngiphinde ngihlukanise isikhathi sami somsebenzi nesomuntu siqu ngokusemandleni ami onke, ukuze kuthi uma ngisethiwe, ngigxile emibukisweni, kodwa, uma ngisekhaya, ngiba ongafinyeleleki kakhulu, okungcono kakhulu ngomlayezo wombhalo, ukuze ngilondoloze umndeni. ukhokho.
Incwadi yakho ibizwa ngokuthi “A life in balance”, uwuqhamuke kanjani lo mbono?
KF : Iphrojekthi yazalwa ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa kokuqala, lapho sigcine ukusondelana nomphakathi ngezinkundla zokuxhumana. Ngabe sengizizwa nginentshisekelo engabelana ngakho empilweni yami yansuku zonke : izindlela zami zokupheka, izithombe ezikhethekile… Le ncwadi yakhiwe phezu kwezinto ezifanayo, ukuze ifinyeleleke kubo bonke abantu besifazane, eduze nangokuzethemba: ngabelana ngezinhla zami zokudlala nezitsha engizikhonzile...
Kwakuyithuba futhi lokuhlanganisa "amathiphu namasu" ayengisebenzela ngesikhathi sesibhedlela sokubeletha futhi engangifuna ukudlulisa. Ngale ncwadi ngiyethemba ukuthi abesifazane bazogqoka ukubukeka okunokhahlo kancane kuye. Senza konke okusemandleni ukubuyisana impilo njengowesifazane, impilo kamama kanye nempilo yobungcweti, akufanele futhi sibe ngaphansi kwengcindezi eyeqile, ikakhulukazi njengoba izinkundla zokuxhumana ngebhadi seziyidlala le ndima. Ngokwami uhlangothi, bengilokhu ngenza ukukhetha ukuthi ngizilalele mina kuqala futhi ngingalandeli izitayela zakamuva.
Ubuye ubhekane nomuzwa wokukhathazeka ovela ngesikhathi esifanayo nokuba ngumama, kuyini?
KF : Impela, lo muzwa mubi futhi uyakhazimula… Kuyamangalisa, ngoba kusho ukuthi sinenhlanhla yokuba ngabazali, kodwa futhi kubi ngoba ususa isilinganiso esithile sokukhanya ekuphileni kwansuku zonke! Uma sesiyingane empilweni yethu, bese sicabangela abaningi, sivame ukuzibuza ukuthi ngabe ingane yethu iphilile yini, uma senza konke kahle nathi… Lena yindlela umama angitshela ngayo esikhathini esidlule: "Uzobona, uma unezingane, uzolala kancane ”, yabe isithatha incazelo yayo ephelele, kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Nsuku zonke, iyini indlela yakho yokuphila?
KF : Ezemidlalo ziyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwami kwansuku zonke futhi kwakunjalo nangesikhathi ngikhulelwe. Noma kunjalo, Angiqinile kakhulu ekudleni, ngincamela ukuzijabulisa futhi uma ngenza umehluko, nginxephezele ngosuku olulandelayo ngokuba onengqondo kakhudlwana noma ngokudlala ezemidlalo.
Wabelana ngezinkambiso zezemidlalo encwadini yakho, uzithuthukise kanjani?
I-KF : I-reflex yokuqala yokuba nayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumama wekusasa noma omncane, iwukuba cela imvume yangaphambili kadokotela wakho ukuze uzilolonge ezemidlalo. Khona-ke, umqondo awukona ukuhamba ekusebenzeni kodwa kunalokho ekugcineni isimo somzimba nengqondo. Ukuzivocavoca konke kwakhiwe ngokubambisana nomqeqeshi wami wezemidlalo, u-Xavier Ritter, oseneminyaka engilandela. Ngiphinde ngabelana ngeziphakamiso zokuzindla ukuze ngenze indlela yokuphila kahle iphelele.
Iziphi izeluleko (izi) ezingezakho kakhulu phakathi kwalezo ezabiwe?
KF : Kwabesifazane abasanda kuthola ukuthi bakhulelwe kodwa abafisa ukulinda kuze kudlule izinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze bamemezele kwabaseduze nabo, ngiyalithanda leli thiphu elihlanganisa esikhundleni sewayini ngejusi yamagilebhisi ngesikhathi sokuhlangana komndeni, ama-aperitif nabangani noma ama-cocktails ochwepheshe, kungisebenzele kahle kakhulu!
Uma kungenjalo, uma umntwana ekhona phakathi kwethu, iqiniso lokuthi ebeka ama-pacifiers amaningana embhedeni kwaba usizo olukhulu kithi ngesikhathi sokuvuka kwasebusuku: kulula kuye ukuthi azitholele i-pacifier yakhe yedwa futhi aphinde alale.
Ubuye unamathisele, kubonakala, ukubaluleka okuthile ekuvusweni kwezinzwa?
KF : Ngempela, ngokwesibonelo, umculo ukhona kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke, njengokuqaphela ukuthintwa, okuhilela massage baby, ngemva kokugeza. Ngithatha isikhathi sangempela ukushintshana nezingane zami ngaleso sikhathi ukuze ngizihlikihle, ngikhulume nazo ...
Umbuzo owodwa wokugcina: ukwazi kanjani ukusindisa izikhathi zekhefu?
KF : nginesidingo sangempela sokwenza kanjalo izikhathi zokuthula ukuze ngibe sengitholakala, emndenini wami nangokomsebenzi, kusethi. Bese ngenza njengoba kwenza abazali abaningi, ngilungise: ngesikhathi izingane zilala ubuthongo, lapho zisesikoleni… Lezi akuzona izikhathi ezinde, imizuzu eyishumi yanele kodwa kufanele ibe njalo. Singathola ke “Indawo yesiphephelo” esizobe sikucabangile, lapho sizizwa kahle futhi lapho kungenzeka khona ukuphumula.
Ngiyabonga Karine!