Esikweni lanamuhla laseNtshonalanga, kuyisiko ukusakaza isimo sengqondo esihle. Ukuhlupheka ngenxa yemizwa engemihle kubhekwa njengehlazo, ukuvuma ubuthakathaka lapho ubhekene nezimo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Tori Rodriguez uyaqiniseka ukuthi akufanele sivimbe futhi sifihle okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu ngenxa yempilo yethu engokwengqondo nengokwenyama.
Iklayenti lami lizama ukuxazulula ubuhlobo obuyinkimbinkimbi nomkakhe. Njengodokotela wezifo zengqondo, ngizama ukumeseka futhi ngingavumeli izitatimende ezibucayi. Kodwa ngokuvamile, phakathi nokuchaza okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, iklayenti liqala ukuxolisa: "Uxolo, ngizizwa ngibuhlungu kakhulu ..."
Umgomo oyinhloko we-psychotherapy ukufunda ukubona nokuveza uhla olugcwele lwemizwa. Kodwa yilokho kanye iklayenti elixolisa ngakho. Iningi leziguli zami lihlushwa ukubonakaliswa okunzima kwemizwelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi intukuthelo engalawuleki noma imicabango yokuzibulala. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uzizwe unecala noma unamahloni ngabo. Lokhu kuwumphumela wokuthatheka kwesiko lethu ngokucabanga okuhle.
Nakuba kuwusizo ukuhlakulela imizwa eyakhayo, lokhu akufanele kube inkolelo-mbono nomthetho wokuphila.
Intukuthelo nokudabuka kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila, futhi ucwaningo olusha lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Jonathan Adler lubonisa ukuthi ukuphila nokwamukela imizwa engemihle kubalulekile empilweni yengqondo. "Khumbula, sidinga imizwa ikakhulukazi ukuze sihlole isipiliyoni," kugcizelela u-Adler. Ukuzama ukucindezela imicabango «emibi» kungaholela ekwanelisekeni okuncane kwempilo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulula ukuphuthelwa izingozi "ezingilazini ezinemibala e-rose ye-positive".
Esikhundleni sokucashela imizwa engemihle, yamukele. Gxila kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho futhi ungazami ukushintsha
Ngisho noma ugwema ukucabanga ngesihloko esingajabulisi, ingqondo enganakile ingaqhubeka nokusebenza ngale ndlela. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uRichard Bryant waseNyuvesi yaseNew South Wales eSydney wacela ingxenye yabahlanganyeli bokuhlola ukuthi ivimbele imicabango engadingeki ngaphambi kokuyolala. Labo ababezabalaza ngokwabo kwakungenzeka ukuthi babone umfanekiso wokugxeka kwabo emaphusheni abo. Lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi "ukuyeka ukulala."
Esikhundleni sokucashela imizwa engemihle, yamukele. Gxila kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho futhi ungazami ukushintsha. Lapho ubhekene nokunganaki, amasu okuphefumula okujulile nokuzindla azosiza. Isibonelo, ungacabanga imizwa njengamafu antantayo - njengesikhumbuzo sokuthi ayingunaphakade. Ngivame ukutshela amaklayenti ukuthi umcabango uwumcabango nje futhi umuzwa uwumuzwa nje, akukho okunye, akukho okuncane.
Ungawachaza kudayari noma uwatshele kabusha komunye umuntu oseduze nawe. Uma ukungakhululeki kungashiyi, ungabekezeli - qala ukwenza, uphendule ngenkuthalo. Tshela umngane wakho ngokukhululekile ukuthi ama-barbs akhe azokulimaza. Zama ukushintsha imisebenzi oyizondayo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuphila okungenani isonto ngaphandle kwemizwelo emibi. Esikhundleni sokuziba ukungabi nandaba, funda ukubhekana nakho.
U-Tori Rodriguez uyi-psychotherapist kanye nochwepheshe kwezokwelapha ze-Ayurvedic.