Okuqukethwe
Enhliziyweni, sihlala sibancane, kodwa ngokusebenza, isikhathi sithatha umonakalo. Umzimba nesikhundla emphakathini kuyashintsha. Ngeminyaka engamashumi amathathu, ngeke sisakwazi ukuphila njengabafundi. Weqa kanjani umugqa ukuze uzuze?
Uyaqonda ukuthi ukuphila ngeke kuphinde kufane. Uqala ukufihla iminyaka yakho nosuku lokuzalwa, awazi ukuthi wenzeni ngempilo. Lapho usuneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, wawulindele ukuzuza okuningi, kodwa amaphupho akho awafezekanga. Ngeke usakwazi ukucasha ngentsha. Uma uneminyaka engamashumi amabili ubucabanga ukuthi uzokwenza izinto “zabantu abadala” ngemva kwamashumi amathathu, manje akukho lapho ungakuhlehlisa khona. Uneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, futhi izinkinga ezintsha sezivele empilweni yakho.
1. Umzimba uyaguga
Okuningi kuncike empilweni nasekunakekeleni kwakho okunikeze umzimba eminyakeni edlule. Kodwa ngisho nezinjini ezihamba phambili ziqala ukusebenza ngemva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu zisebenza. Manje ubuhlungu beqolo, iqakala eligoqekile, noma i-hangover abupheli ngokushesha njengakuqala.
2. Awutholi umusa.
Abangane nezihlobo bayakuthanda futhi banendaba nempilo yakho. Ngaphambilini, bazama ukusekela noma yikuphi ukukhetha kwakho kwempilo. Kodwa manje usukhulile. Intshiseko yakho yobusha kanye nombono wokungakhathali ngempilo kanye nezezimali akusathandeki. Udinga ukushada, ube nezingane, uthathe imali yokubolekwa kwempahla — «isikhathi sesifikile.
3. Abanye balindele izinqumo kuwena.
Ngaphambi kokuvela kwemibimbi yokuqala, abantu abambalwa beza kuwe ukuze uthole iseluleko sokuxazulula izinkinga zansuku zonke. Manje usuyikhandidethi elifanelekile lale ndima. Awuseyona ingxenye yesizukulwane esisha, sekuyithuba lakho lokuba nesibopho sakho konke.
4. Intsha iyakucasula
Abangane bazothi usemncane. Ungabethembi. Ngeminyaka yakho, babezizwa ngendlela efanayo futhi bezizwa ngendlela efanayo. Abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amabili bangaphuma bayophuza isigamu sobusuku, bese bazivocavoca ejimini. Kodwa uyazi - eminyakeni embalwa konke kuzoshintsha. Ema-30, umuntu angabahawukela kuphela.
5. Ubuka izindaba
Awuseneme ngezinhlelo zokuzijabulisa eziwubulima. Manje ngesikhathi sasekuseni ubuka izindaba, ukhononde ngenhlekelele nokunakekelwa kwezempilo.
6. Awukwazi ukwenza obukade uwenza
Uwedwa nawe, usengenza noma yini: isibonelo, gxuma unqunu uzungeze indlu, ucule ingoma kaWhitney Houston. Kodwa phambi kwabanye, uzofuna ukulahla incwadi yothando mayelana nama-vampires.
7. Udinga ukuhlela izindleko zakho.
Kuke kwaba nezikhathi lapho ukhokha ngokungacabangi ngekhadi lesikweletu, kodwa sekuyisikhathi sokuzibophezela ngezimali zakho, uma kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba.
8. Kunzima ukuthi uthole indoda
Eminyakeni engamashumi amabili, wawuphila amaphupho, wawungaqala ubuhlobo nanoma iyiphi indoda eyayibonakala ikhanga. Manje bheka wonke amadoda njengomuntu ongase abe umyeni futhi wesabe ukunamathela kumuntu ongalungile. Uma ujola nendoda ukuze niziphumulele noma nizithokozise, niyimoshela isikhathi.
Umthombo: Ihlelo Lezindaba.
"INTO EPHAMBILI UKUQWASHISA NEZENZO"
UMarina Fomina, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo:
Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu yisikhathi lapho udinga ukubuka ngobuqotho impilo yakho. Isikhathi sokuqaphela indawo yethu emhlabeni futhi siqale ukuhamba lapho sifuna ukuya khona. Zifundele wena, izifiso zakho, amathuba kanye nemikhawulo. Yini ngempela ongayenza, yini ebalulekile futhi ebalulekile kuwe, yini oyilwelayo futhi yini oyigwemayo. Lesi isisekelo sokuzithanda.
Ngokuqaphela beka kuqala. Ungaholwa yimibono yabanye abantu, gcina ilungelo lokunquma. Uma unezikhala endaweni ethile yempilo yakho, ungajahi ukubamba ungacabangi. Yima ucabange ngalokho okufunayo, bese uhamba ngendlela oyikhethile.
Zilalele wena. Ungakubeki ukwesaba okusha nezimo zengqondo. Kungcono ukusebenza ngazo ngokuqaphela. Funda ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwezinhlobo zokwesaba: hlukanisa ukwesaba okukugcina uphephile ekwesabeni isipiliyoni esisha. Ungakhathazeki futhi ungesabi, ngesibindi nangentshisekelo master isipiliyoni esisha.
Isinyathelo sokuqala sokukhula ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakho. Uma usebenza kangcono ezinkingeni zalesi sigaba, kuzoba lula ukuqhubekela phambili.