Okuqukethwe
Kukholakala ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana ziyindlela ekahle yama-narcisists. Bangakhombisa izithombe zabo kanye nabakufezile ezinkulungwaneni zabantu, badale ukubukeka okuhle kakhulu. Ingabe kuyiqiniso ukuthi abasebenzisi abasebenzayo be-Facebook ne-Instagram bangabantu abazidlayo abafisa ukuqashelwa? Noma ingabe umhlaba wethu oqhutshwa impumelelo osinikeza izindinganiso ezingenakufinyeleleka zempumelelo?
Ingabe inkundla yezokuxhumana “iyindawo” yama-narcisists? Kubonakala kunjalo. Ngo-2019, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo e-Novosibirsk Pedagogical University zenza ucwaningo, imiphumela yalo eyabonisa ukuthi iningi labasebenzisi benkundla yezokuxhumana abakhuthele ngempela banazo izici ze-narcissistic. Kuvele ukuthi labo abachitha ku-inthanethi amahora angaphezu kwamathathu ngosuku futhi bathumele okuqukethwe emakhasini abo, ukubonakaliswa okunjalo kuzwakala kakhulu kunabanye. Futhi abantu abanezici ezishiwo ze-narcissistic baziphatha kakhulu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Iyini i-narcissism? Okokuqala, ku-narcissism ngokweqile kanye nokuzethemba okukhuphukile. Abantu abanjalo basebenzisa amandla abo emzabalazweni wokuqashelwa, kodwa lesi sifiso sokuphelela asibangelwa neze okuhlangenwe nakho okuhle: umuntu udala isithombe sangaphandle esingenasici, ngoba unamahloni angapheli ngobuyena bakhe bangempela.
I-narcissist ungayibona ngezimpawu ezinjengokomela ukutuswa nokunakwa okwengeziwe, ukuthanda umuntu siqu, ukungagxeki, nokukholelwa ekuphakameni komuntu siqu.
I-Narcissism ngokwayo ayikona ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Lezi zici zivamile kubantu abaningi futhi yizo ezisinika isifiso esinempilo sokusisiza ukuthi sikhuphuke izitebhisi zebhizinisi. Kodwa lesi sifo singaba yi-pathological uma lezi zici zanda futhi ziqala ukuphazamisa abanye.
"Umbukiso" obonakalayo
Njengoba omunye wemisebenzi eyinhloko yezinkundla zokuxhumana uwukuziveza, kubantu be-narcissistic leli yithuba elihle kakhulu lokugcina, futhi mhlawumbe ukuthuthukisa, izici ze-narcissistic. Ngokusekelwe kokucatshangwayo, kodwa kude neqiniso, imibono ngawe, ezinkundleni zokuxhumana wonke umuntu angakwazi ukudala kalula futhi abonise umhlaba inguqulo engcono kakhulu yakhe.
Ukuvunyelwa kanye nesikhuthazo
Ngokufanelekile, ukuzethemba kwethu akufanele kuncike ekugunyazweni kwangaphandle, kodwa imiphumela yocwaningo iphakamisa ukuthi abasebenzisi abasebenzayo bezinkundla zokuxhumana badinga kakhulu ukutuswa kwabanye, futhi lokhu kungenye yezibonakaliso ze-narcissism. Umthombo wesidingo esinjalo, njengomthetho, ukungabaza kwangaphakathi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo abakhuthele ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngokuvamile benza ihaba ngamathalenta abo, amakhono kanye nezimpumelelo zabo. Bahlale belindele ukuthi abanye bazowazisa kakhulu umsebenzi wabo, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi impumelelo ngokuvamile ayibalulekile kangako. Babonakala ngesikhundla sokuba phezulu kanye nokuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile.
Abantu be-Narcissistic abahloli ngokwanele amakhono nezimfanelo zabo, benza ihaba ukubaluleka kwabo nesiphiwo, futhi abasebenzisi abakhuthele bezinkundla zokuxhumana abagcini ngokuthumela ulwazi lomuntu siqu ngabo, kodwa futhi baqaphe okuqukethwe kwabanye abasebenzisi.
Iningi lethu lincamela ukwabelana ngezithombe zethu eziqondile ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ngakho-ke ukubheka njalo impumelelo nezimpumelelo zabanye kubangela umona, ukwehla kwenani, ukululaza okungokwemvelo kuma-narcissists, futhi kungabacindezela ukuthi baqhubeke bahlobise impumelelo namakhono abo. Ngakho-ke, ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingosi ze-Intanethi ziyindawo eyintandokazi yokuziveza kwabantu abanjalo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, indawo ebonakalayo ingathuthukisa izici zabo ezingezinhle zemvelo.
Mayelana Nonjiniyela
Natalia Tyutyunikova - isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Funda kabanzi mayelana naye .