Okuqukethwe
Ukuduma kokuqeqeshwa kokukhula komuntu siqu namuhla kukhulu kunangaphambili. Silwela ukuziqonda thina, ukuthola izici ezintsha zobuntu bethu. Kwakukhona ngisho nokuncika ekuqeqeshweni - indlela entsha yokungahlali, kodwa ukudlala impilo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Elena Sokolova usitshela ukuthi kungani ukucindezeleka okunjalo kuyingozi nokuthi ungakuqeda kanjani.
Ngithola ukuqeqeshwa okuhle kochwepheshe kusebenza kahle. Basiza abafuna ushintsho futhi bakulungele. Kodwa kule minyaka embalwa edlule, bayanda labo abafuna «iphilisi lomlingo» - izinguquko ezisheshayo empilweni ngaphandle komzamo ohlangothini lwabo.
Bahlala behambela amakilasi amasha futhi kalula babe imilutha yokuqeqesha. Kumelwe ukuba ubabonile abantu abanjalo. Imvamisa banolwazi «eliyingqayizivele» mayelana nesakhiwo somhlaba, eyingqayizivele futhi engenakuphikiswa, futhi njalo ukuya trainings. Ukushisekela ukuqeqeshwa "kuyinkomba" entsha emibuthanweni ethile, inkambiso entsha yenkolo. Nakuba, kimi, lokhu kuyindlela entsha yokungahlali, kodwa ukudlala impilo, ukuthuthukisa izimfanelo ezintsha nokuzijwayeza amakhono amasha ekuqeqesheni. Kodwa ungazifaki engozini ukuzisebenzisa.
Ukuqeqeshwa kokugxila kakhulu akusizi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abavakashi "abashisekayo" abanjalo bayashintshashintsha kakhulu. Uma nje bekhuthazwa ulwazi olusha futhi bethola ukunakwa okwanele ku- «guru», bahlala bethembekile, kodwa bangakwazi ukukhubazeka ngokushesha. Phatha umqondo owodwa bese ulandela omunye. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi le mibono nolwazi lungashintsha lube ngokuphambene ncamashi - kusukela kuBuddhism kuya ekukholelwa kuNkulunkulu, kusukela kowesifazane wamaVedic kuya kowesifazane waseTantric ...
Abathathekile badlulisela ku-guru into ebaluleke kakhulu - umthwalo wezimpilo zabo
Abagcwele umdlandla nokuzinikela emehlweni abo badlulisela ku-guru into ebaluleke kakhulu - umthwalo wezimpilo zabo.
Ngenxa yalokhu, bafuna ulwazi oluzoshintsha ukuphila kwabo: “Ngingaphila kanjani, ngokuvamile, okulungile nokungalungile! Ngendlela, angifuni ukucabanga, ngiyazinqumela nami. Ngifundise, O mfundisi omkhulu. Yebo, yebo, ngakuqonda konke (ngaqonda) ... cha, ngeke ngikwenze. Yini okufanele yenziwe? Cha asivumanga kanjalo ..ngingowephilisi eliwumlingo. Kanjani?"
Ukuqeqesha, kodwa hhayi iphilisi eliwumlingo
Kuyini ukuqeqeshwa? KUYIKHONO, njengakwezemidlalo — uye lapho uziqeqeshela khona ukuyompompa amaphephandaba bese ungalindeli ukuthi uzoshwiba. Ukuqeqeshwa kuyisisekelo, izinga elinguziro, idiphozithi, umfutho, futhi isenzo siqala lapho ushiya ukuqeqeshwa.
Noma thatha ukuqeqeshwa kwebhizinisi. Ufunda izinqubo zebhizinisi, ube nekhono ngokwengeziwe kule ndawo, bese uletha ulwazi olusha futhi wena ube musha ebhizinisini lakho elithile futhi ulishintshe, ulenze lisebenze kahle. Okufanayo kuya ekuqeqesheni ukuzithuthukisa komuntu siqu.
Abazifelayo banenkinga enkulu ngalokhu. Ngoba awufuni ukuthatha isinyathelo. Angifuni ukucabanga. Hlaziya, ungafuni ukushintsha. Futhi ngemva kokuqeqeshwa, lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo, kuphakama ukumelana — “Ngesizathu esithile angikwazi ukuphuma endlini, angikwazi ukuqala ukwenza okuthile, angikwazi ukuhlangana nendoda …” Nginike elinye iphilisi eliwumlingo. “Nganquma ukujwayelana nendoda ngase ngiya ekuqeqesheni”… sekudlule izinyanga eziyisithupha… senihlangene? “Cha, nginokuphikisa.”
Futhi, ngemva kweminyaka eminingana, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nangaphambili, lapho iphilisi lomlingo lingasebenzi, badumala kumqeqeshi, ekuqondeni, esikoleni. Futhi ucabanga ukuthi benzani? Ufuna omunye umqeqeshi. Futhi konke kuphinda futhi - amehlo azinikele, inkulumo-ze yemibono, ukulindela isimangaliso, "ukumelana", ukudumazeka ...
Umqeqeshi njengomzali
Kwesinye isikhathi akukho mayelana nokuqeqeshwa nhlobo.
Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu ogxile kakhulu uya ekuqeqesheni, ezama ukuqeda ubuhlobo bomntwana nomzali ukuze ekugcineni aphumelele, ukuze athole imvume, ukuqashelwa, ukutuswa komzali. Ezimweni ezinjalo, i-coach-guru yenza "njengomzali".
Khona-ke ukucabanga okugxekayo kwabantu abadala kuyacisha, i-censor iyahlakazeka, ukuthintana nezifiso zomuntu kuyanyamalala (uma kukhona) futhi uhlelo "lomzali nengane" luyavuleka, lapho umzali ethi yini okufanele ayenze, futhi ingane ilalela noma yenza njenge-hooligan.
Abaphethwe bafuna iphilisi eliwumlingo elizoshintsha izimpilo zabo, futhi uma lokho kungasebenzi, bashiya… baye komunye umqeqeshi.
Kodwa lokhu akuyishintshi impilo yengane nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngoba konke ekwenzayo ifuna ukunakwa umzali. Akusho lutho ukuthi umzali omuhle noma omubi.
Ngendlela, lokhu kuchaza isithakazelo esikhulu ekuqeqesheni, lapho kunemibandela eqinile kakhulu yokwelapha abahlanganyeli. Kukhona umuzwa wangaphakathi othi "ojwayelekile", olungile, ojwayelekile. Lokhu uma kwamukelwa emndenini. Uma ubuhlobo nabazali bubanda, mhlawumbe ngisho nonya (futhi eRussia lokhu mhlawumbe umndeni wesibili), khona-ke ekuqeqeshweni okunjalo umhlanganyeli uzizwa esekhaya, endaweni evamile. Futhi ngokungazi ufuna ekugcineni athole "isixazululo" - okungukuthi, ukuvikela ilungelo lakhe lokuphila noma ukuthola ukunakwa komqeqeshi.
Awukho umnyombo wangaphakathi, akukho khono nomkhuba kanye nesipiliyoni sokuthembela kumuntu omkhulu nongesekayo ongangisiza nginqobe ubunzima.
Ubasiza kanjani abathathekile
Uma othile omaziyo esedlule inqwaba yokuqeqeshwa, kodwa lutho olushintshayo empilweni yakhe, phakamisa ukuthi ayeke. Thatha ikhefu ucabange. Mhlawumbe akakudingi nhlobo. Isibonelo nje, ekuqeqesheni kwami ukuganwa, kuzoba khona umuntu othi ngenxa yokusebenza naye, abone ukuthi AKAFUNI ukuganwa, futhi isifiso sasilawulwa yingcindezi yezihlobo, umphakathi, akakwazi ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwangaphakathi eyedwa. Futhi yeka impumuzo efika ngesikhathi lapho, ngemva kokuqaphela ukungafuni, owesifazane uzivumela ukuba angafuni. Ingakanani injabulo, amandla, amandla, ugqozi oluvulekayo lapho ungakwazi ukuqondisa amandla akho nokunaka lapho kuthakazelisa ngempela.
Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu othathekile uya ekuqeqesheni, ezama ukuqeda ubuhlobo bomzali nomntwana futhi ekugcineni athole ukuqashelwa "kumqeqeshi nomzali".
Uma ufuna ukuzinakekela, ungathola isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihle esizokusiza ukuthi ubuyele esisetshenziswa, uzizwe futhi uqonde imigomo yakho nezinto eziza kuqala. Indlela enhle yokuphuma ekuthathekeni iwukuba ubuyele esimweni sakho esiqinile nesivuthiwe, futhi lokhu kungenziwa ngomzimba. Ukudansa, ezemidlalo, ukunaka izidingo zakho, imizwa kanye nemizwa. Kwesinye isikhathi, ngokuxakile, izinkinga zempilo, ukukhathala okujwayelekile futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukwanda kokukhathazeka kungaba ngemuva kwesidingo sokuqeqeshwa.
Ukuqeqeshwa kuyasebenza futhi kuwusizo kulabo abakulungele ukushintsha izimpilo zabo. Zingaba i-pendel yomlingo, inkundla yokuhlola yokwandisa ulwazi lomuntu, ukwazi amakhono amasha okuxhumana nokuxhumana nabantu kanye nempilo.
Ukuqeqeshwa akukwazi ukunikeza isiqinisekiso sokuthi impilo yakho izoshintsha.
Uzothola ulwazi olwanele namathuluzi okukushintsha.
Kodwa kufanele ukushintshe ngokwakho.