Ezweni lapho ikhono lokuhamba phezu kwamakhanda nokusebenza ngendololwane kubaluleke ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuzwela kubonakala okungenani kuyisici esingafanele, ngokwesilinganiso esiphezulu - uphawu lobuthakathaka. Intatheli yaseMelika uMatthew Loeb uqinisekile ukuthi ukuzwela kungathathwa njengesithunzi sakho.
"Uzwela kakhulu!" kubhodla ubaba.
"Yeka ukuthatha yonke into mathupha" Ibhodla induna.
"Yeka ukuba i-rag!" uthukuthele ugane unwabu.
Kubuhlungu kumuntu ozwela ukuzwa konke lokhu. Uzizwa sengathi awuqondi. Izihlobo zikhala ngokuthi uhlale udinga ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo. Ozakwenu emsebenzini bakuphatha ngendelelo. Esikoleni wawuxhashazwa njengomuntu obuthakathaka.
Bonke banephutha.
Siphila ezweni lapho ingcindezi nokuzethemba ngokuvamile kwenza umuntu acabange futhi acabangele.
Siphila ezweni lapho ingcindezi nokuzethemba ngokuvamile kwenza umuntu acabange futhi acabangele. Kwanele ukukhumbula ukuthi uDonald Trump waba kanjani umongameli weRepublican Party. Noma bheka noma yimuphi umphathi ophezulu onezindlela zobushiqela, eziqhayisa kakhulu ngenzuzo ekhulayo.
Ukuphila kuwumdlalo othintana naye, noma okungenani yilokho «othisha abahlakaniphile» abavame ukukusho. Ukuze uye phambili, kufanele uphushe wonke umuntu ngezindololwane zakho.
Isifundo esitholiwe. Uma unquma ukuba «uqine kakhudlwana», udlula abantu obajwayele ehhovisi unobuso obuyitshe, ubanikeza ukubukeka okuqinile, ngokudelela ususa noma ubani okuphazamisayo. Ngenxa yalokho, awubheki "unzima", kodwa nje ungumuntu oqhoshayo.
Ukuzwela isipho esithokozelwa abangani nomndeni wakho
Nasi isifundo okufanele usifunde: Ungazami ukucindezela uhlangothi lwakho olubucayi—zama ukulwamukela. Ukuzwela kuyisipho abangani nomndeni wakho abasazisayo, ngisho noma isifiso sakho sokubonakala siqinile futhi sibucayi sibavimbela ekusivumeni ngokukhululekile.
Ukuzwela ngokomzwelo
Uke waqaphela ukuthi othile uzama buthule futhi engabaza ukugcina ingxoxo iqhubeka? Yebo bakwenza. Ukuzwela kwakho kukuvumela ukuthi unqume ngokunembile isimo somzwelo sabanye. Wonke umuntu uyamshaya indiva lo muntu onamahloni, niqhamuke nazane. Ukuqonda kwakho nobuqotho kuyaheha futhi kwehlise izikhali, ngakho kuhle kakhulu ukukhuluma nawe ngamunye ngamunye. Abantu bakwethemba ngokwemvelo. Kusuka lapho kulandela ukuthi...
… ungudokotela wengqondo ozelwe
Umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi ujulile futhi uthuthukile. Uzwela ngokwemvelo, futhi abangani nomndeni bayohlala bephendukela kuwe lapho bedinga ukusekelwa. Kukangaki kwenzekile ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho okuthile kwenzeka - futhi ngokushesha bakubize? Kubo, ufana nesibani esingokomzwelo.
Ukubiza abangani nezihlobo "imizuzu embalwa, ukuthola ukuthi unjani", ngemva kwamahora amabili uvame ukuqhubeka nengxoxo, usize "ukunamathisela" inhliziyo ephukile. Yebo, usukulungele ukunikela isikhathi sakho ukuze usize izihlobo nabangane “abanobuhlungu benhliziyo”. Futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu, uthuthuke ngokomzwelo ngokwanele ukuze uqonde ngempela ulwazi lwabo.
Funa futhi uthole
Unengqondo ethanda ukwazi. Uyathanda ukwazi ngokwemvelo. Uhlala ubuza imibuzo, uqoqa izingcezu zolwazi, uzama ukuqeda ukoma kwengqondo yakho. Umunca ulwazi njengesipontshi.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngokuyinhloko unesithakazelo kubantu: izici zabo, yini ebashukumisayo, yini abesabayo, hlobo luni "lwamathambo abanawo ekamelweni".
Ngomphefumulo wakho ozwelayo, unokuningi ongakunika abanye - ngisho nabagxeki abakhathele yikho konke. Isimo sakho sengqondo esifudumele, imvelo enhle, ukuqonda kanye nelukuluku lokuhlakanipha kukhuthaza labo abaseduze nawe. Futhi ngalokhu wenza ukuphila okuzungezile kungabi nzima kancane.
Nakuba ukuphila kuvame ukufana nomdlalo wokuxhumana, ngezinye izikhathi ungenza ngaphandle kwekhithi yokuzivikela.