Okuqukethwe
Awujabule ebudlelwaneni? Kungenzeka ukuthi iphuzu lonke liwukuthi banobuthi, futhi umlingani wakho ungumuntu we-narcissist, ngaphezu kwalokho, uhlanekezelwe. Incazelo enjalo “elula” ngokuvamile ingatholwa ngokuthintana namaqembu okusekela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Kodwa ingabe siyashesha ngokuxilongwa neziphetho, futhi ingabe amalebula anjalo akhulisa isimo esivele sinzima?
Izinkundla zokuxhumana zisinikeze ithuba lokuthi singagcini nje ngokuxhumana nalabo esasifunda nabo nezihlobo zasemaphandleni, kodwa futhi nokuthola amaqembu anesithakazelo ngokuchofoza nje okukodwa. Kuwuphawu lwezikhathi zethu ukuthi kunenqwaba yamaqembu asekela labo abahlukumezekile ebudlelwaneni bothando. Banemithetho yabo yokuxhumana, futhi ngokuvamile eqinile, ngisho ne-slang yabo.
Ngokujoyina elinye lala maqembu, nakanjani uzothola ukwesekwa nokuzwelana. Kodwa ingabe ukuba seqenjini kukodwa kungasiphulukisa amanxeba angokomzwelo esiwathola ngenxa yezindaba zothando? Futhi ulimi olusetshenziswa abahlanganyeli lubasiza kanjani ukuba babhekane nosizi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuvimbela ukukhula komuntu siqu?
Emashalofini
Ukufaka ibinzana elithi "i-narcissist ehlanekezelwe" kubha yokusesha, sithola izinto eziningi ezinemininingwane enezici zabantu abanjalo. Futhi ngokuvamile lezi zincazelo ziyehluka komunye nomunye, njengokungathi sikhuluma ngabantu abahlukene. Ingabe ikhona into efana "ne-narcissus ehlanekezelwe" ku-psychology esemthethweni? Futhi lisho ukuthini igama elithi “ihlanekezela”?
“Ngakho-ke, awukho umqondo “we-narcissist” kwezesayensi yokusebenza kwengqondo,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Anastasia Dolganova. - U-Otto Kernberg, namuhla ongabhekwa njengomcwaningi obaluleke kakhulu we-narcissism kanye noyise wolimi lwesayensi lapho lesi simo sichazwa khona, unamagama athi "i-benign narcissism" kanye "ne-narcissism eyingozi."
I-narcissism eyingozi, ngokungafani ne-benig narcissism, kunzima ukuyilungisa futhi iyaqhubeka. Umuntu ophethwe yiso uyasolisa kakhulu, futhi kukhulunywa nge-delirium: "Wenza konke ukungenza ngizizwe ngibi kakhulu." Ekulawulweni okunonya, abantu banomkhuba wokuzilimaza ukuze bajezise abanye, baze bafinyelele ezingeni lokuzibulala. Abantu abanjalo babonakala ngokungathembeki kanye nokudumala okusobala, okubonakaliswa ngendlela yokucasuka kanye nokunqoba okuyindelelo okuqondiswe komunye umuntu.
I-Malignant narcissism yisifo esibi esithinta kabi ukusebenza, impilo kanye nobudlelwano.
Lolu hlobo lwe-narcissism lubonakala njengendawo ehlanekezelwe (kusuka egameni elithi «i-perversion» — ukuhlanekezela, ukuhlanekezela). Ukuhlanekezela ku-narcissism ebulalayo ukuthambekela, noma ngabe uqulekile, ukuguqula okuhle kube kubi ngenkulumo nokuziphatha. Ngokubukeka kwalo, uthando luphenduka inzondo, ubuhle bube ububi, amandla abe yize.
Ngakho-ke, ukuhlanekezela kungenye yezimpawu ze-narcissism eyingozi: ukuphazamiseka okukhulu okuthinta kabi ukusebenza, impilo, kanye nobudlelwane.
Kodwa bangaki abantu abanezakhiwo ezifanayo abaseduze nathi? Noma ingabe lokhu kuhlukile kunomthetho?
"I-narcissism ebulalayo ayivamile neze, ikakhulukazi ekuxhumaneni kwansuku zonke: indlela yokuphila elandelwa abantu abane-narcissism eyingozi ingase iholele ezibhedlela, ukuboshwa noma ukufa," kuchaza u-Anastasia Dolganova.
Ezingeni
"Ukuze uthole incazelo ephelele yolimi lwesayensi lwe-narcissism, kufanelekile ukwethula igama elithi "izinga lokusebenza komuntu," kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Lawa mazinga ahlukile: i-neurotic, i-borderline kanye ne-psychotic. Zihlukile komunye nomunye ngezinga lobunzima bokuphulwa kanye nezinga lokujwayela komuntu ngamunye ezweni langaphandle.
Abantu abanesakhiwo se-neurotic ngokuvamile baziphatha ngendlela enengqondo, bayakwazi ukuzihlukanisa nemizwa yabo kulabo ababazungezile kanye nemizwa yabo, futhi ngokuvamile baphila "empeleni". Azibonakali ngokuziphatha nokucabanga okunganele. Abantu abane-neurotic bazama ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano nezwe nabanye futhi bayakwazi (ngezinye izikhathi ngisho kakhulu) ukuzigxeka.
“Abaqaphi bomngcele” abahlushwa ukukhohliswa futhi bahlala bexhumene neqiniso, kodwa abakwazi ukuqaphela ngokugcwele okwenzeka kubo.
Izinga le-psychotic lobuntu libonakala ngokulahlekelwa ubunikazi, ukuntuleka kokuxhumana neqiniso. Ngenkathi sikuso, asinakuzigxeka thina ngokwethu. I-Psychosis, ukucabanga nokuziphatha okungenangqondo, i-delirium - konke lokhu kungase kube, okwamanje, ngisho nokunganakwa abanye. Nokho, ukucekelwa phansi kwangaphakathi, ukungahleleki kobuntu kuzibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene empilweni yomuntu.
Izinga elisemkhawulweni lenhlangano yomuntu liyinketho emaphakathi phakathi kwe-psychotic kanye ne-neurotic. "Abanikazi" bawo baphonswa ukusuka kwelinye ukuya kwelinye. Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi «onogada emngceleni» banezinkinga ungubani, bayazi ukuthi likhona. Abahlushwa ukukhohliswa kanye nokubona izinto ezingekho futhi bahlala bexhumene namaqiniso, kodwa abakwazi ukuqaphela ngokugcwele okwenzeka kubo.
"Imikhuba yokuhlanekezela iqiniso izozibonakalisa kuwo wonke amazinga, kodwa ukuhlanekezela kuyisici sokusebenza okujulile kwemingcele nokusebenza kwengqondo," kunezela u-Anastasia Dolganova.
Yisho dadewethu!
Siyazi ukuthi ukuxilongwa kungenziwa kuphela udokotela oxhumana naye mathupha nesiguli. Kodwa-ke, womabili amalungu amaqembu asekelayo kanye nochwepheshe bezengqondo bavame ukwenza "ukuxilongwa nge-avatar." Njengokuthi, ufunani, ungumuntu onama-narcissist. Kodwa ingabe kungenzeka ukuthola ngencazelo yokuthi othile unesifo esithile sobuntu, esiqondiswa izincazelo ezimfushane kuphela?
"Kuphela ngezibonakaliso zangaphandle - cha, ngokubheka okuphelele kokuziphatha, inkulumo, izenzo, umlando wokuphila - yebo, kodwa akulula," kusho u-Anastasia Dolganova. "Manje sisezingeni eliphezulu lokuthandwa kwe-narcissism, ngakho-ke yonke into ebukeka ibuhlungu, ingenele noma ilimazayo ibhalwe ngokuthi "i-narcissism."
Umelaphi usebenzisa amathuluzi akhethekile, futhi ulwazi lwakhe lumvumela ukuba ahlukanise isifo esisodwa kwesinye
Eqinisweni, kuningi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu nokunye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Futhi ngayinye yazo, emngceleni wayo noma ezingeni le-psychotic, iletha izinkinga eziningi ebuhlotsheni. Kukhona abalingiswa be-schizoid, paranoid, depressive and manic, hysteria nokunye. I-psychotherapist isebenzisa amathuluzi aklanywe ngokukhethekile okuxilongwa, futhi ulwazi lwakhe lumvumela ukuba ahlukanise isifo esisodwa kwesinye. Ukuxilongwa okunjalo kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba ukuphazamiseka kobuntu okuhlukile kunamandla ahlukene, futhi, ngokufanele, namasu ahlukene okusiza. "
Ingabe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yakho, ingasaphathwa «ozakwethu» eqenjini ukwesekwa, ukunquma ukuthi umlingani wakho narcissist noma cha? “Ngomsebenzi onzima kangaka wokuxilonga, akunasimilo futhi akunamsebenzi ukuthi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sikhulume nge-narcissism ukude. Kunalokho, udokotela angase aqaphele ukuthi lokho iklayenti elikuchazayo kuyefana nezici zozakwethu zokungacabangi, futhi atshele okwengeziwe mayelana nokuthi kuyini.»
Enkulu futhi enhle
Kunombono wokuthi umgadli usuke engumuntu ongenazwelo ongaqondi nhlobo ukuthi ulimaza umuntu ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Ingabe kunjalo?
“Ubuntu be-narcissistic bunobunzima obuthile ngokuzwelana. Umnyombo we-narcissistic disorder wukuziphakamisa okuqondiswe kuyena,” kuchaza u-Anastasia Dolganova. - Okuzungezile kuyathakazelisa umuntu onjalo njengokucabanga kwakhe noma imisebenzi, hhayi njengabantu abahlukene abahlangabezana nemizwa i-narcissist ngokwakhe angenayo. Kodwa-ke, ezingeni le-neurotic lokusebenza, ubuntu be-narcissistic bukwazi kakhulu ukuthuthukisa uzwela: bufika neminyaka, isipiliyoni, noma ukwelashwa.
I-Neurotics ayivamisile ukwenza izinto ezimbi ngempela. Futhi ukusho, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi “ungumuntu olungile, kodwa ohlukumeza izingane” akunangqondo
Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abalungile benza izinto ezimbi. Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi bangama-narcisists kanye ne-sociopaths? Ingabe ikhona ingozi ekunciphiseni bonke ubuntu bomuntu kube isethi yezici ezimbi?
"Ngokuqondene nabantu kanye nezenzo zabo, kungcono, ngokubona kwami, ukusebenzisa imigomo yezinga lokusebenza komuntu ngamunye," kusho uchwepheshe. Isenzo esibi ngempela singenziwa ngumuntu onanoma yiluphi uhlobo lomlingiswa, osemngceleni noma ezingeni lengqondo yokusebenza. I-Neurotics ayivamisile ukwenza izinto ezimbi ngempela. Futhi ukusho, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi “ungumuntu olungile, kodwa ohlukumeza izingane” akunangqondo!
Indaba yokuphila komuntu, lapho kukhona ukwephulwa okuphindaphindiwe komthetho, izenzo ezingenangqondo, ukubhujiswa kobudlelwane, izinguquko ezingapheli zomsebenzi, akuyona indaba ephathelene ne-narcissism njengaleyo, kodwa mayelana nezinga lemingcele yenhlangano yobuntu - mhlawumbe i-borderline narcissism.
Ubuthi impilo yonke
Inkulumo ethi "ubudlelwane obunobuthi" yafika kithi muva nje. Ukusatshalaliswa kwayo kunokuhlanganisa okukodwa okungenakuphikiswa: manje singasho kalula ukuthi sisebuhlotsheni obunenkinga ngaphandle kokungena emininingwaneni. Nokho, kubonakala sengathi sizama ukufaka yonke into kulo mqondo. Ngosizo lwayo, bachaza zombili izindaba zodlame oluqondile, kanye nezimo lapho umlingani, ngenxa yezici zakhe, engakwazi ukuzwakalisa umbono wakhe noma ukuziphatha ngokunganaki-ngobudlova. Ngakho-ke leli gama ngokwalo libonakala lisabalala futhi manje selithatha isikhala esinqunyelwe kuphela imicabango yethu siqu.
"Ubudlelwano obunobuthi" yigama le-psychology ethandwayo, ngokuvamile alisetshenziswa kwisayensi esemthethweni, kuchaza u-Anastasia Dolganova. - Yavela ngemva kokuhunyushwa kwencwadi kaSusan Forward ethi "Toxic Parents" ngesiRashiya. Le ncwadi ichaza ubuhlobo obunjalo phakathi komntwana nomzali, lapho isisekelo sobudlelwano emndenini, esikhundleni sothando nokusekela, kuwukukhonza, imizamo ephindaphindiwe yokuhlazisa, ukuxhashazwa, ukululazeka, nokumangalelwa.
Kuyenzeka abantu ababi, kuyiqiniso. Kodwa inkinga yobudlelwano obubi ijule kakhulu kunaleli qiniso elingephikiswe.
Ubuhlobo obunobuthi, ngomqondo ovamile, buwubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo lapho ingane ithanda khona kodwa ingamthandi. Ebudlelwaneni babantu abadala ababili, leli gama alibukeki lilungile: phela, asikho isabelo nesidingo sokusondelana nalowo okudlisa ushevu. Awukho umehluko esimweni Somuntu Omdala (onomthwalo wemfanelo) — Ingane (isisulu esingenacala).
Ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukubiza noma yibuphi ubuhlobo obunobuthi lapho sizizwa kabi ngesizathu esithile, uma sikhuluma ngabantu abavuthiwe? Noma ingabe kungcono ukuzama ukugwema izitembu futhi uqonde isimo esithile?
“Ukuthi, ‘Bekuwubuhlobo obunobuthi’ kusho, empeleni, ukuthi: ‘Wayemubi, futhi ngihlushwa nguye. Ukuthi "lobu budlelwano bebubi" kusho ukuthi unganqabi ukuzibuza imibuzo ebalulekile mayelana nezimbangela nemiphumela yalokho okwenzekile," isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo siqinisekile. “Abantu ababi bayenzeka, kuyiqiniso. Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukuqonda nokuqaphela lokhu kuwumsebenzi oyinhloko womphakathi wesikhathi sethu. Kodwa inkinga yobudlelwano obubi ijule kakhulu kunaleli qiniso elingephikiswe. Izitembu akufanele zisivimbele ekuhloleni izimpilo zethu kanye nengqondo yethu.
Amagama amasha, i-ajenda entsha
Kulabo okuxoxwa ngakho emaqenjini asekelayo, ulimi lwabo luyasungulwa: “ama-toks” (abantu abanobuthi), “ama-narcis” (ama-daffodils), “ama-stumps” (ama-daffodils ahlanekezelwe). Athini lamagama amasha? Siyozisiza kanjani uma ngomqondo othile sinikeza isidlaliso esiyindelelo kulowo osizwise ubuhlungu?
“Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kuwumzamo wokwehlisa isithunzi salowo osibangele ukuhlupheka. Ukwehla kwenani kungenye yezindlela zokuzivikela ezidingekayo lapho imizwa esiba nayo inamandla kakhulu futhi singenawo amakhono adingekayo wokubhekana nayo ngokugcwele, kusho u-Anastasia Dolganova. “Phela, ubudlelwano nomuntu othanda inzondo ngempela buvusa imizwa eminingi enamandla: ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, umuzwa wecala namahloni, ukungabi namandla, ukudideka, ngokuvamile ukudabuka nokunqoba kwabo. Lokhu kuphakamisa imibuzo eminingi kumuntu mayelana nendlela yokubhekana nayo manje - kokubili ebuhlotsheni nomlingani kanye nobudlelwane naye.
Futhi akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukubhekana nale mibuzo ngokushesha ngemva kokungena esimweni esibuhlungu. Okufanayo kwenzeka ekwelapheni: ukusebenza neklayenti eliye labhekana nobuhlobo obunjalo, uchwepheshe uzama ukumsekela, ukuzwelana naye.
Kungani manje amaqembu azinikezele "ku-stumps", "toxes" nazo zonke izinhlobo "zokuphendukela" zithandwa kakhulu? Asikaze sihlangane nazo ngaphambili?
"I-Perverznik" iyisithombe esidumile emphakathini futhi esinamademoni kakhulu, - u-Anastasia Dolganova ukholelwa. - Ufana ne-stereotypical njengezithombe, isibonelo, ze-hysterics, ezazibizwa ngokuthi wonke umuntu ngokulandelana ngesikhathi sikaFreud. Ngaphandle kwe-psychology, izithombe ezifanayo nazo zikhona: ama-suffragette ekupheleni kwekhulu lesi-XNUMX, amakhomanisi ekhulwini lesi-XNUMX. Uma sikhuluma nje, lena yindlela yakudala yokwazi abanye.
Ukwehlisa isithunzi umlingani wakho nge-newspeak eyehlisayo kuyindlela elula yokugwema ubuhlungu.
"I-Perverznik" iwuphawu lwezikhathi zethu. Namuhla, umphakathi uzama ukubona nokuchaza ukuhlukumeza, udlame, ubuthi ebudlelwaneni futhi uthuthukise imithetho emisha yokulawula kwabo. Kuvamile ukuthi siqale ngezithombe zakudala — njengezingane ezethulwa kumakhyubhu namaphiramidi. Lesi sithombe sikude neqiniso eliyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa kakade sifana nalo.
Yini umuntu ayiphuthelayo, ogxila kubuntu bomlingani futhi achaze izenzo zakhe ngeqoqo lezimfanelo ezitholakala komunye? Ingabe zikhona izimpumputhe angaziboni kwabanye noma kuyena?
“Izindawo eziyizimpumputhe kulesi sithombe ziphathelene nobuntu be-narcissistic uqobo, kanye nobudlelwano be-narcissistic, kanye nesisulu se-narcissist,” kusikisela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. “Le mibuzo inzima, izimpendulo kuzomele uzibheke uma ufuna ukushintsha isu lokuxhumana nabanye. Ngokwesibonelo, yini i-narcissism? Ingabe ama-narcisists yibona kuphela ababhubhisayo? I-narcissism ikhuphuka ngaphansi kwaziphi izimo, iyancipha ngaphansi kwaziphi izimo?
Ingane ikhuliswa kanjani, ukuthi ubuntu bayo buhlanekezelwe ngale ndlela? Kwenzekani ebuhlotsheni be-narcissistic? Kungani nginendoda ebhuqabhuqayo, ingane edla izindwani, izintombi ezikhulumayo, kanye nabasebenza nabo? Ingabe ngine-narcissism kimi, futhi uma kunjalo, izibonakalisa kanjani? Kungani ngiba nemizwa ngomuntu ongiphatha kabi? Kungani ngingakwazi ukuhamba? Kungani impilo yami ingazange ibe ngcono ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane?”
Sizokwazi ukuthola izimpendulo uma sisusa ukugxila kusuka kwangaphandle kuya kwangaphakathi, sisuka kuzakwethu noma esimaziyo sikubeke kithina.
"Ukwehlisa umlingani wakho nge-newspeak ehlambalaza kangaka kuyisu elilula lokugwema ubuhlungu," kuphetha isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. “Ngemizwa nezimo ezeqisayo, uzosisiza ngempela sidlule. Phela, ingqikithi yamasu alula iwusizo ngempela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu (isibonelo, lapho udinga ukunquma ukuhlukana nobudlelwane nomuntu odabukisayo). Kodwa azinawo umthelela wokuthuthuka.
Ukuphindaphinda kungumama wokufunda?
Amaqembu axoxa «abaphendukezeli» kanye «nobuthi» agcwele abantu abahlangabezane nezindaba ezithusayo ngempela. Abaningi babo badinga usizo ngempela. Futhi kuyindaba ethi «usizo lokuqala» lapho imiphakathi enjalo ikwazi ukuzibonisa.
“Amaqembu osekelo anomsebenzi obalulekile: anika umuntu ithuba lokubheka okwenzeka kuye. Bameseka ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu zokuphila kwakhe,” kuchaza udokotela wezengqondo. - Njengoba ngishilo ngenhla, izindlela ezisetshenziselwa ukusekelwa okunjalo kufanele zibe lula ngangokunokwenzeka, zasendulo, ngoba umuntu osesimweni esibi ngeke akwazi ukusebenzisa amathuluzi ayinkimbinkimbi. Ngakho-ke - ukwenza amademoni, ukwenza lula, ukunqamula imibuzo nemicabango engadingekile: "umuhle - mubi."
Kunomuzwa wokuthi la maqembu anikeza ithemba elingamanga: Ngizovele ngiyiphinde indaba yami kaningi, ngibe nabanye osizini lwabo - futhi isimo sizozilungisa ngokwaso. Kodwa akukho yini okuyingozi nokulimaza ubuntu kulokhu kukhuluma okungapheli, okubilisa ngojusi womuntu?
Isu lokusinda ngokwedlulele esikhathini esithile kufanele lithathelwe indawo yizindlela ezisebenza ngempumelelo
"Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kumuntu ofuna ukuqhubekela phambili, lo mthombo awunele: ngombono onjalo wezwe, yonke into emhlabeni ibonakala iyingozi noma ingafaneleki," kugcizelela u-Anastasia Dolganova. - Ngokuvamile abantu kancane kancane balahlekelwa isithakazelo ezingxoxweni ngaphakathi kweqembu, babhale kancane, baphawule kancane. Baneminye imisebenzi ngaphandle kokuphuma ebunzimeni babo, futhi isimo esibuhlungu kakhulu salezi zikhala siba ngathandeki kubo.
Labo abasalayo bavame ukubhajwa esigabeni sokuthukuthela nokwehliswa kwenani. Ukunamathela esithombeni esicacile nesilula somhlaba, bavimba indlela yabo eya enkululekweni. Abaqhubeki phambili ngoba abayithinti imizwa yabo eyinkimbinkimbi, futhi ngaphandle kwalokhu kukhula komuntu siqu akunakwenzeka. Ngesinye isikhathi, isu lokusinda ngokwedlulele kufanele lithathelwe indawo yizindlela ezisebenza kahle uma sifuna ukuphila ngokugcwele futhi singaphinde siwele ezindabeni ezinjalo.
Uma siqhubeka nokuhlala eqenjini lokusekelana, kodwa alukho ushintsho ekuphileni, naphezu kokuxoxwa njalo kwendaba kanye nozwela olugcwele lwabanye, uma sinomuzwa wokuthi "sizihlalele", kufanelekile ukucabangela inketho yokwelapha. ngokwethu.
Gwema izixazululo ezilula
Ukuskrola kokuthunyelwe komphakathi umaka othi «narcissus» noma «ubuthi» kungasenza sizizwe singcono. Siyinika inkinga igama, futhi ingadambisa ukuhlupheka kwethu okwesikhashana.
U-Anastasia Dolganova uyakhumbula: “Ukunciphisa ubuntu bomuntu kube isethi yezici ezimbi neze akwamukeleki kumelaphi. — Kodwa kumuntu osebudlelwaneni obulimazayo, esikhathini esithile ukusebenzelana namademoni okunjalo komlingani kungase kube usizo. Ukwesaba nentukuthelo ehambisana nokubona omunye emubi ngokuphelele, edumazekile, futhi ehlisa inani kungasiza ukuqeda ubuhlobo. Uma konke lokhu kungekho, umuntu uzovinjwa uthando, ukuzisola, ukukhohlisa, izaba zomunye, njalo njalo. Futhi kusengcono ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni obulimazayo kunokuhlala kubo. ”
Kodwa-ke, umsebenzi akufanele uphele lapho: kunengozi enkulu yokuthi sizozithola sisesimweni esifanayo nomlingani omusha - noma ngisho sibuyele "kwi-tox" yethu ethandekayo.
“Ingozi lapha iwukuqhubeka kule nqubo,” kuxwayisa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Labo abanciphisa inani lamathuba okuba ngcono - umlingani odlule ngokuhamba kwesikhathi (futhi abuyele kuye) noma umlingani omusha, engaboni izimpawu eziyingozi kuye futhi avumelane nobuhlobo obungase bufane nobedlule. Umbono ojulile wabantu, ongaphezu kwe-"demonization-deealization", uvumela ukukhetha okuqaphela kakhulu futhi okufanele.