Isikhathi esiningi sizwa “ngengilazi yamanzi” ezihlotsheni nakubangane abangakwazi ukulinda size sibe nezingane. Njengokungathi isizathu sokuzalwa kwabo kuphela ingilazi yamanzi lapho sebekhulile. Kodwa bambalwa abantu abaziyo ukuthi le nkulumo empeleni imayelana nesihe, mayelana nozwelo, mayelana nokusondelana ngokomoya.
"Kungani sidinga izingane?" — «Ukunika umuntu ingilazi yamanzi lapho esegugile!» kuphendula ukuhlakanipha kwabantu. Izwi lakhe liphezulu kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi alisivumeli thina (bobabili abazali nezingane) ukuzwa impendulo yethu kumbuzo obuziwe.
“Ingilazi yamanzi okukhulunywa ngayo yayiyingxenye yesiko lokuvalelisa esikweni laseRussia: yayibekwa ekhanda lomuntu ofayo ukuze umphefumulo ugeze futhi uhambe,” kusho isazi sezifo zengqondo zomkhaya u-Igor Lyubachevsky, “futhi yayingafanekiseli kangako. usizo olungokwenyama njengokubonakaliswa kwesihe, isinqumo sokuba seduze nomuntu emahoreni okugcina okuphila kwakhe. Asimelene nesihe, kodwa-ke kungani lesi sisho sivame ukubangela ukucasuka?
1. Ingcindezi yokuzala
Lawa mazwi, aqondiswe kumbhangqwana osemusha, abonisa ngendlela engokomfanekiso isidingo sokuba nengane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi banesifiso esinjalo nethuba, umhlinzeki womndeni uyaphendula. - Esikhundleni sengxoxo eqotho - isidingo se-cliché. Akuqondakali nakancane ukuthi iqhamukaphi! Kodwa kubonakala sengathi intsha kufanele ilalele. Isaga esimayelana nengilazi yamanzi silulaza izinhloso zabazali abangaba abazali futhi sibe ukubonakaliswa kobudlova bokuzala. Futhi, njenganoma yiluphi udlame, kuzodala ukwenqatshwa nokubhikisha esikhundleni sokuvuma.
2. Umuzwa wokuzibophezela
Lesi sisho sivame ukudlala indima yesilungiselelo somndeni. “Uwena ozonginika ingilazi yamanzi ekugugeni kwami!” - umyalezo onjalo wenza ingane isithunjwa somuntu omdala. Eqinisweni, lokhu kuyi-oda elifihliwe elithi "phila kimi", u-Igor Lyubachevsky uhumusha "kusuka kubazali ukuya kwisiRashiya". Ubani oyokwazi ukujabula ngokuthi ugwetshelwe ukunakekela izidingo zomunye, ngisho “nomkhulu”?
3. Isikhumbuzo sokufa
Isizathu esingabonakali, kodwa esingenasici esingaphansi kwesimo sengqondo esibi mayelana "nengilazi yamanzi ekugugeni" ukuthi umphakathi wanamuhla awufuni ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuphila akupheli. Futhi lokho esizama ukuthula ngakho kugcwele ukwesaba, izinganekwane futhi, yiqiniso, imibono engaguquki, ethathelwa indawo ingxoxo engagwegwesi yenkinga.
Kodwa inkinga ayihambi: kusukela ngesikhathi esithile, abadala bethu badinga ukunakekelwa futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo besaba ukungabi namandla kwabo. Ukufutheka nokuziqhenya, amaswidi kanye nokucasuka kuhambisana nababambe iqhaza kulo mdlalo.
Ngamunye wabo uba yisithunjwa se-stereotype mayelana nengilazi yamanzi: abanye bayilindile, abanye babonakala bebophekile ukuhlinzeka ngokufunwa futhi ngaphandle kwabaxhumanisi.
“Ukuguga kwabazali ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuvuthwa kwezingane. Izikhundla emndenini ziyashintsha: kubonakala kufanele sibe abazali komama nobaba bethu, - isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sichaza amandla okungqubuzana. - Labo esasibheka eziqine, kungazelelwe babe «abancane», abaswele.
Njengoba zingenalo ulwazi lwazo futhi zithembele emithethweni yezenhlalakahle, izingane zizinikela ekunakekeleni futhi zikhohlwe ngezidingo zazo. Abazali bangabhikisha noma "baphanyeke" enganeni ukuze bahlanganyele nayo isizungu nokwesaba ukufa. Bobabili bayakhathala, futhi baphinde bafihle futhi bacindezele intukuthelo komunye nomunye.
Sifingqa i
Wonke umuntu unokwesaba kwakhe, nobuhlungu bakhe. Singasizana kanjani futhi sigcine uthando ngesikhathi sokuguqulwa kwendima? “Akudingekile ukuthi uchithe sonke isikhathi sakho okhululekile eduze kombhede wesihlobo noma ubhekane nezinkinga zezempilo uwedwa. Izingane nabazali banganquma imingcele yamakhono abo futhi banikeze ingxenye yemisebenzi kochwepheshe. Futhi ukuba ngomunye nomunye uthando nje, abantu abasondelene, "kuphetha Igor Lyubachevsky.