Okuqukethwe
Kukhona abantu abamangalisayo, okuthi ngokwemvelo banganikezwa izilinganiso ezifanele, kodwa naphezu kwalokhu, sibabona bebahle kakhulu naphezu kokungapheleli kwesikhumba, isibalo, nokukhuluma. Basakaza umuzwa wobumina osinqobayo. Bakwenza kanjani? Ubuhle yisimo, futhi ungakwazi ukukuhlakulela kuwe: funda ukukuthola, ukukwamukela nokwabelana ngakho. Futhi kukhona izivivinyo ezisiza ukuba kahle lawa makhono.
Masichaze ngokushesha ngokwemibandela: kunezindinganiso zobuhle, futhi akekho kithi, uma sikhuluma ngobuqotho, osilela kuzo. Ngoba zidalwe kusetshenziswa i-Photoshop, ukulungiswa kombala wevidiyo nezinye izinto zokugcoba. Kuningi osekushiwo mayelana nalawa mazinga, kukhona abalwa nawo, omunye abaphikisayo - kodwa kunoma yikuphi, ahlezi aqinile emakhanda ethu.
Lezi zindinganiso zinomphumela olimazayo kumqondo wangaphakathi wobuhle bomuntu siqu, okuzuzisa ukumaketha kwesimanje: lapho umuntu enelisekile ngokwakhe, uthenga kancane. Uma unganelisekile - ukuthengiswa kwezimonyo, amadivaysi okulungisa isibalo, inani lezikhalazo kudokotela ohlinzayo bepulasitiki likhula. Kodwa singaphikisa okuthile emibonweni egxilile enesitembu. Ini? Umuzwa wakho wangaphakathi wobuhle. Ake sikhulume ngakho: ungayithola kanjani futhi ufunde ukuhlanganyela lobu buhle?
Ungaba kanjani "i-freak"
Okokuqala, ngiphakamisa ukusuka kokuphambene: yini okudingeka yenziwe ukuze uzizwe ungakhangi nhlobo, umuntu omubi? Ubuchwepheshe buyaziwa: njalo uma ubheka esibukweni, udinga ukugxila ekushiyekeni kwakho futhi uchaze ngezwi elingaphakathi elibi kakhulu, elinyanyekayo.
Lapha, umbimbi omusha, kuphume elinye induna, ukhalo alukho esangweni, isifuba sasikade sikhona - kodwa manje mmm ...
Abaningi bethu bakhuluma kanjena njalo ekuseni, bengaboni ukuthi kwenzakalani. Izwi elingaphakathi lizwakala lijwayeleke kangangokuthi asiliboni. Uma ungenalo unya olunjalo kuwe, kwanele ukubona ukungapheleli kwakho kuzo zonke izindawo ezikhanyayo cishe amasonto amabili nsuku zonke ukuze uzishayelele ekudumazekeni okuphelele.
Sekukonke, izici zicacile: sidinga izwi langaphakathi elingathí sina, elinegunya (kumantombazane amaningi, isibonelo, ezimweni ezinjalo, izwi lomuntu othandekayo noma indoda ekahle lizwakala emakhanda abo) kanye nesikhathi. Sibuka umfanekiso efasiteleni bese sizihlola ngokunganeliseki, kanye nezibuko ezindlini zangasese/ezindlini zangasese, kanye namafasitela nekhamera yangaphambili ocingweni – kuzovela ihora nesigamu kuphela ngosuku. Futhi nansi umphumela oyifunayo.
Izwi Langaphakathi Esilidingayo
Uma umuntu elandelela ukungapheleli kwakhe kukho konke ukuphila kwakhe, khona-ke ukumane uvale lo msebenzi futhi awuvule akuwona umsebenzi olula. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ngiguqule izingxoxo zangaphakathi zibe inzuzo yami, ngiphakamisa ukudlala.
Isinyathelo sokuqala silula kakhulu: buyisela izwi elibucayi elikhuluma ngaphakathi nge-sexy. Sonke sinalolu hlobo lwezwi esidlala ngalo ngothando. Nakhu? Manje akahlole ukuthi kwenzekani. Okujulile, okudlalayo, okudlala ngothando.
“Nginezindlebe eziphumela ngaphandle,” zitshele ngaleli zwi.
Noma:
– Baby, awukwazi ukuzibonakalisa phambi kwabantu ngezinyawo ezinjalo!
Uzwa ubuwula balokho okwenzekayo? Ingabe kuya kuba nzima ukuthatha izimangalo zakho ngokungathi sína? Yilokhu kanye esikulwela.
Manje isinyathelo sesibili: udinga ukwenza leli zwi libe yinjwayelo. Indlela ezosisiza ibizwa ngokuthi “i-anchoring”. Ukubona indawo ekhanyayo, ukubenyezela kokuqala okuvela kuyo, zitshele: yeka! Futhi ngaphambi kokuba uphendukele kuye, khumbula izwi lakho langaphakathi eli-sexy. Futhi kuphela ngemva kwalokho bheka reflection.
ubuhle ngaphandle
Nginendaba enhle mayelana nokuthi le nqubo isebenza kanjani, hhayi kuphela ezingeni lokuzazi kwangaphakathi, kodwa futhi ukuthi lishintsha kanjani yonke into ezungezile. Enye intombazane, eyaphumelela kulo msebenzi ngezwi elingaphakathi emhlanganweni wokufundisa, yagoduka ngesitimela kusihlwa. Futhi ngakusasa, wathi: ngehora lokuhamba, imoto yonke yamazi - kumnandi, kulula futhi kuyashayela. Kungani? Ngoba ezitimeleni zethu kushoda kabi abantu abasakaza izifundazwe ezinhle.
Uma ufuna ubudlelwano obusha, ukukhuluma wedwa ngendlela ekhombisa uthando kuyindlela yokuba uhehe futhi uhehe. Isimo esibucayi ozihlola kuso njengomuntu odalwe ngaphandle kwempumelelo, njengephosta ethi: “Yonke into imbi empilweni yami, ngidinga umuntu ozovala imbobo enhliziyweni yami futhi angisindise ekwesabeni kokuba khona” akusona isikhangiso esikhanga kakhulu. , vuma. Uma isebenza, cishe ngeke ihehe ubudlelwano obuhle kakhulu. Njengoba omunye omkhulu wake asho, ubuhle buyisithembiso senjabulo. Futhi iqala ngaphakathi, kusukela emhlabeni ngokwakho.
Umhlaba wezempilo
Kungani ngihlala ngikhuluma ngokuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukukhuluma nawe ngobumnene, ngenjabulo, ngokucasulayo, futhi ungazicindezeli futhi uhlole ngokucophelela ukushiyeka? Ngikusho lokhu kuyo yonke ingqungquthela Yentsha kanye Nezempilo Yomgogodla, futhi abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ngifuna nje ukudala isimo esifanele ngale ndlela. Kodwa akunjalo. Ukungqubuzana okungapheli kwangaphakathi kufana nempi, futhi impi iwukubhujiswa. Ikakhulukazi, ukucekelwa phansi kwempilo. Uma umuntu nsuku zonke, phakathi neminyaka, ezibonakalisa ukuthi "okuthile okungalungile kimi futhi lokhu akunjalo", ngokushesha noma kamuva uba "akanjalo".
Ukucindezeleka kwangaphakathi kuholela ezifweni, okufakazelwa ngokwesayensi. Futhi indlela eya empilweni iqala ngokuthi siyazamukela - ikakhulukazi, umzimba wethu. Siyavuma, amahlaya ngobumnene nothando. Phela, uma sikhuluma ngobuqotho, umzimba wethu uwumfanekiso wethu. Ukuhlala sigxeka, ngeke sikujabulele. Futhi kuyakufanelekela.