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Emafilimini aseHollywood, amaholide awumndeni onobungane etafuleni elifanayo, uthando oluningi nokufudumala. Futhi abanye bethu bakha kabusha ngenkuthalo lesi sithombe esijabulisayo ezimpilweni zethu. Kodwa-ke, kungani bebaningi kakhulu abavuma ukuthi amaholide ayisikhathi esidabukisa kakhulu kubo? Futhi kwabanye kuyingozi. Kungani kunemizwa eminingi engqubuzanayo?
Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi leli holide liyi-extravaganza, izimangaliso nezipho, bakulindele ngabomvu, behambisa amalungiselelo amakhulu. Futhi abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, beza nezindlela zokubalekela, ukuze nje bagweme ingxabano nokuhalalisela. Kukhona labo amaholide abadalela izinkinga ezinkulu.
“Ngahlala ehostela nabazali bami iminyaka engu-22,” kukhumbula uYakov oneminyaka engu-30 ubudala. “Ebuntwaneni bami, amaholide ayeyizinsuku zamathuba, ingozi, noshintsho olukhulu. Ngangazi kahle ngeminye imindeni eyishumi nambili. Futhi ngaqonda ukuthi endaweni eyodwa ungadla into ehlwabusayo, udlale ngaphandle kwabantu abadala, futhi kwenye bazoshaya kanzima namuhla, ngokubhonga nokumemeza "Bulala!". Kwembuleka izindaba ezihlukahlukene phambi kwami. Futhi nalapho ngabona ukuthi ukuphila kuningi kakhulu kunesithombe ekhadini leholide.
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Isimo sakudala
“Ngezinsuku zaphakathi nesonto nangamaholide, senza lokho esasikubona ngaphambili, ebuntwaneni, emndenini esakhulela kuwo futhi sakhulela kuwo. Lezi zimo kanye nendlela ebesijwayele “ukugxilisa ngayo ihange” kithi,” kuchaza uDenis Naumov, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esisebenza ngochwepheshe ekuhlaziyweni kohwebo. - Othile enkampanini ejabule wabutha izihlobo, abangane babazali, wanikeza izipho, wahleka kakhulu. Futhi othile unezinye izinkumbulo, lapho iholide liyizaba nje zokuphuza, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukulwa nokuxabana okungenakugwenywa. Kodwa asikwazi ukukhiqiza kabusha isimo esake samukelwa kuphela, kodwa futhi senza ngokuvumelana ne-counter-scenario.
"Ngangifuna ngempela ukungaphindi emndenini wami lokho engangikubona ebuntwaneni: ubaba wayephuza phakathi nesonto, futhi ngamaholide yonke into yaba yimbi nakakhulu, ngakho-ke asizange sigubhe izinsuku zokuzalwa ukuze singaphinde sihlele amadili futhi, singacasuli ubaba, ” uhlanganyela u-Anastasia oneminyaka engu-35 ubudala. “Nomyeni wami akaphuzi futhi uyangigona. Futhi ngilindele izinsuku zokuzalwa hhayi ngokukhathazeka, kodwa ngenjabulo.
Kepha ngisho nabanye balabo umlando womndeni wabo ongaqukethe izigcawu ezinzima bahlangana namaholide ngaphandle komdlandla omkhulu, bazinike bona njengento engenakugwenywa, begwema imibuthano yobungane neyomndeni, benqaba izipho kanye nokuhalalisela ...
Amaholide akuyona nje indlela yokubuyisela injabulo "kumuntu omncane" wakho, kodwa futhi ithuba lokuqondisa impilo
UDenis Naumov uyaqhubeka: “Abazali basinikeza isigijimi esisiphatha kukho konke ukuphila kwethu, futhi lo myalezo unquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela yokuphila. Kubazali noma kubantu abadala ababalulekile, sifunda ukungakwamukeli ukutuswa, ukungaphambanisi abanye. Ngahlangana namakhasimende ayecabanga ukuthi kuyihlazo ukugubha usuku lokuzalwa: “Yiliphi ilungelo enginalo lokuzinaka mina? Ukuzincoma akukuhle, ukubukisa akukuhle. Ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo abangakwazi ukuzidumisa, sicela, banikeze izipho ngokwabo, bahlushwa ukucindezeleka lapho sebekhulile. Enye indlela ongazisiza ngayo ukutotosa ingane yakho yangaphakathi, engaphakathi kwethu, ukusekela nokufunda ukudumisa.
Ukwamukela izipho, ukuzinika abanye, ukuzivumela ukuthi ugubhe usuku lokuzalwa, noma uzinikeze usuku olwengeziwe lokuphumula - kwabanye bethu, lokhu kuyi-aerobatics, ethatha isikhathi eside nokufunda kabusha.
Kodwa amaholide akuyona nje indlela yokubuyisela injabulo "kumuntu omncane" wakho, kodwa futhi ithuba lokuqondisa impilo.
amaphuzu okubhekisela
Wonke umuntu uza kulo mhlaba nokutholakala kokuqala kuphela - isikhathi. Futhi kukho konke ukuphila kwethu sizama ukumxaka ngokuthile. "Ngokombono wokuhlaziywa kokuthengiselana, sinesidingo sesakhiwo: sakha uhlelo lokuphila, ngakho luzolile," kuchaza uDenis Naumov. - Ukulandelana kwezikhathi, izinombolo, amahora - konke lokhu kwasungulwa ukuze ngandlela thize kuhlukaniswe, kuhlelwe okusizungezile, nakho konke okwenzeka kithi. Ngaphandle kwayo, siyakhathazeka, silahlekelwa umhlabathi ngaphansi kwezinyawo zethu. Izinsuku ezinkulu, amaholide zisebenzela umsebenzi ofanayo womhlaba wonke - ukusinika ukuzethemba nobuqotho bomhlaba nempilo.
Ukuqiniseka ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini, ngobusuku bukaDisemba 31 kuya kuJanuwari 1, uNyaka Omusha uzofika, futhi usuku lokuzalwa luzobala isigaba esisha ekuphileni. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma singafuni ukuhlela idili noma umcimbi omkhulu kusukela osukwini olubomvu lwekhalenda, lezi zinsuku zilungiswa ngokuqaphela. Futhi ukuthi imizwelo esiyibala ngayo ingenye indaba.
Sifingqa izinyanga eziyi-12 ezedlule, sizizwa sidabukile, sihlukana nokwedlule, futhi sijabule, sihlangana nekusasa
Amaholide yiwona asixhumanisa nemvelo, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihlaziya u-Alla German. “Into yokuqala umuntu ayinaka kudala wukujikeleza kosuku nezinkathi zonyaka. Kunamaphuzu amane abalulekile onyakeni: inkathi yasentwasahlobo nekwindla, inkathi yasebusika neyehlobo. Amaholide abalulekile ayeboshelwe kula maphuzu esizweni ngasinye. Ngokwesibonelo, uKhisimusi waseYurophu uwela phakathi nenjikalanga yasebusika. Ngalesi sikhathi, amahora okukhanya emini mafushane kakhulu. Kubukeka sengathi ubumnyama sebuzonqoba. Kodwa ngokushesha ilanga liqala ukuphuma ngamandla. Inkanyezi ikhanya esibhakabhakeni, imemezela ukufika kokukhanya.
UKhisimusi waseYurophu ulayishwe incazelo engokomfanekiso: uyisiqalo, umngcele, indawo yokuqala. Ezikhathini ezinjalo, sifingqa izinyanga eziyi-12 ezedlule, sizizwe sidabukile, sihlukana nokwedlule, futhi sijabule, sihlangana nekusasa. Unyaka ngamunye akukhona ukugijima emibuthanweni, kodwa kuyithuba elisha lokuzungeza, elinolwazi olusha esizama ukukuqonda kulawa maphuzu abalulekile. Kodwa lokhu akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kungani?
Yini amaRussia athanda ukuyigubha?
I-All-Russian Public Opinion Research Center (VTsIOM) ngo-Okthoba 2018 yashicilela imiphumela yocwaningo lwamaholide ayintandokazi e-Russia.
Amaholide akwamanye amazwe - i-Halloween, uNyaka Omusha WaseShayina kanye noSuku LukaSt. Patrick - awakasabalali ezweni lakithi. Ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo, baqashelwa kuphela u-3-5% wabantu. Izinsuku eziyi-8 ezihamba phambili ezithandwa abantu abaningi baseRussia yilezi:
- Unyaka Omusha - 96%,
- Usuku Lokunqoba - 95%,
- Usuku Lwabesifazane Lwamazwe Ngamazwe - 88%,
- Usuku Lomvikeli Wosuku Lobaba - 84%,
- Iphasika - 82%,
- UKhisimusi - 77%,
- Usuku Lwasentwasahlobo Nezabasebenzi - 63%,
- Usuku lwaseRussia - 54%.
Futhi uthole amavoti amaningi:
- Usuku Lobumbano Lukazwelonke - 42%,
- Usuku Lwezithandani - 27%,
- Usuku lwe-Cosmonautics - 26%,
- I-Eid al-Adha - 10%.
Isitsha esichichimayo
“Sike sifike eholidini sigcwele ulwazi nemicimbi. Asinaso isikhathi sokucubungula le nto, ngakho-ke ukungezwani kusala, - kusho u-Alla German. – Udinga ukuyithulula ndawana thize, uyikhiphe ngandlela thize. Ngakho-ke, kukhona ukulwa, ukulimala nokulaliswa esibhedlela, okuvame kakhulu ngamaholide. Ngalesi sikhathi, utshwala obuningi buyasetshenziswa, futhi kunciphisa ukucwaninga kwangaphakathi futhi kukhipha i-Shadow yethu - izimfanelo ezingezinhle esizifihla kithi.
Isithunzi singase futhi sibonakale ngokuhlukumeza ngamazwi: kumafilimu amaningi kaKhisimusi (isibonelo, i-Love the Coopers, eqondiswa uJesse Nelson, 2015), umndeni ohlangene uqala ukuxabana, bese ubuyisana ekugcineni. Futhi othile uya ezenzweni zomzimba, ekhulula impi yangempela emndenini, nomakhelwane, abangane.
Kodwa kunezindlela ezilungele imvelo zokuphephula isitimu, njengokudansa noma ukuthatha uhambo. Noma phatha iphathi ngokudla okuwubukhazikhazi nezingubo zikanokusho. Futhi hhayi ngempela ngamaholide, nakuba kaningi kuyisikhathi sokuhambisana nomcimbi obangela imizwelo eqinile kubantu abaningi.
Dedela Isithunzi sakho ngaphandle kokulimaza abanye - indlela engcono kakhulu yokukhulula inkomishi yakho echichimayo
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sisikisela ukukhumbula iNdebe Yomhlaba, eyenzeka ehlobo lika-2018: "Ngihlala enkabeni yeMoscow, futhi ubusuku nemini sasizwa ukukhala kwenjabulo nenjabulo, kwase kubhonga izilwane zasendle," kukhumbula u-Alla German, "ngokuphelele. imizwa eyahlukene yahlanganiswa endaweni eyodwa nemizwelo. Kokubili abalandeli kanye nalabo abakude nezemidlalo badlale imidlalo ewuphawu: izwe libhekene nezwe, iqembu libhekene neqembu, elethu libhekene nelethu. Ngenxa yalokhu, bangaba amaqhawe, balahle lokho abakuqoqile emphefumulweni nasemzimbeni wabo, futhi babonise zonke izici ze-psyche yabo, kuhlanganise nethunzi.
Ngesimiso esifanayo, emakhulwini eminyaka adlule, imigubho yayiqhutshwa eYurophu, lapho inkosi yayingagqoka khona njengesinxibi, nentokazi eqotho njengomthakathi. Ukukhulula Isithunzi sakho ngaphandle kokulimaza abaseduze kwakho kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukhulula inkomishi yakho echichimayo.
Izwe lanamuhla lithathe ijubane lokuhlanya. Ukugijima, ukugijima, ukugijima... Ukukhangisa ngezikrini, amaphosta, amafasitela ezitolo kusikhuthaza ukuba sithenge, kusiheha ngamaphromoshini nezaphulelo, kubeka ingcindezi ekubeni necala: ingabe ubathengele abazali, izingane izipho? U-Vlada oneminyaka engu-38 uyaziwa. – Umphakathi udinga ukuxokozela: ukupheka, ukubeka itafula, mhlawumbe ukwamukela izivakashi, ukubiza othile, ukuhalalisela. Nganquma ukuthi ngamaholidi kungcono ngiye ehhotela elisogwini lolwandle, lapho ungeke wenze lutho, uvele ube nothandiweyo wakho.
Futhi uVictoria oneminyaka engu-40, naye, wake waba nesizungu ngezinsuku ezinjalo: usanda kuhlukanisa futhi akasangeni ezinkampanini zomndeni. “Ngabe sengiqala ukuthola kulokhu kuthula ithuba lokuzwa ukuthi ngifunani ngempela, ukucabanga nokuphupha ukuthi ngizophila kanjani.”
Akukabi wusiko ukuthi sifingqe imiphumela ngaphambi kosuku lokuzalwa futhi senze izinhlelo zekusasa. "Kodwa emnyangweni wokubala wanoma iyiphi, ngisho nenkampani encane, i-balance sheet iyancishiswa futhi isabelomali sonyaka ozayo siyakhiwa," kusho u-Alla German. Ngakho kungani ungenzi okufanayo ekuphileni kwakho? Isibonelo, ngesikhathi sokugubha uNyaka Omusha wamaJuda, kuyisiko ukuchitha "izinsuku zokuthula" - ukuba wedwa nawe futhi ugaye isipiliyoni esiqoqiwe nemizwelo. Futhi hhayi kuphela ukugaya, kodwa futhi ukwamukela kokubili ukunqoba nokwehluleka. Futhi akuhlali kumnandi.
Uma unquma futhi uyeke ukulinda, njengasebuntwaneni, ngezimangaliso nemilingo, futhi udale ngezandla zakho
“Kodwa lena incazelo engcwele yamaholide, lapho kuhlangana okuphambene. Iholidi lihlala liyizigxobo ezimbili, ukuvalwa kwesiteji esisodwa nokuvulwa okusha. Futhi ngokuvamile kulezi zinsuku sibhekene nenhlekelele, - kuchaza u-Alla German. "Kodwa ikhono lokuthola le polarity lisivumela ukuthi sithole i-catharsis ngokucacisa incazelo ejulile kuyo."
Liyini iholidi, elijabulisayo noma elidabukisayo, isinqumo sethu, uDenis Naumov uyaqiniseka: "Lesi yisikhathi sokuzikhethela: engifuna ukuqala naye isigaba esisha sokuphila, futhi nobani. Uma sinomuzwa wokuthi sidinga ukuba sodwa, sinelungelo lokuba sodwa. Noma senza ucwaningo futhi sikhumbule labo abasanda kuthola ukunakwa okuncane, labo abathandekayo, sibashayele ucingo noma bavakashele. Ukuzenzela izinqumo ngokwethembeka wena nabanye ngezinye izikhathi kunzima kakhulu, kodwa futhi kuwukuhlakanipha kakhulu.”
Isibonelo, uma unquma futhi uyeka ukulinda, njengasebuntwaneni, isimangaliso nemilingo, kodwa udale ngezandla zakho. Uyenza kanjani uDaria oneminyaka engama-45. “Eminyakeni edlule, ngiye ngafunda ukufaka iholide langaphakathi. Isizungu? Hhayi-ke, ngizobamba umsindo kuwo. Vala? Ngakho-ke, ngizokujabulela ukuxhumana nabo. Ingabe ukhona omusha ofikile? Hhayi-ke, kupholile! Ngayeka ukwakha amathemba. Futhi kuhle kakhulu!
Ungakhubekisi kanjani abathandekayo?
Ngokuvamile amasiko omndeni anquma ukuchitha amaholide nezihlobo. Kwesinye isikhathi sivumelana ngecala: kungenjalo bazokhubeka. Indlela yokuxoxisana nabathandekayo futhi ungachithi iholidi lakho?
“Ziningi izindaba engizaziyo lapho izingane esezikhulile vele ziphoqeleka ukuthi zichithe amaholide nabazali bazo asebekhulile unyaka nonyaka. Noma ukubuthana etafuleni elilodwa nezihlobo, ngoba kuyisiko emndenini. Ukuphula leli siko kusho ukuphambana nalo,” kuchaza uDenis Naumov. “Futhi sibeka izidingo zethu ngemuva ukuze sijabulise izidingo zabanye. Kodwa imizwelo engabonakali ngokuqinisekile izophuma ngendlela yezinkulumo ze-caustic noma ngisho nezingxabano: emva kwakho konke, kunzima kakhulu ukuziphoqa ukuba ujabule lapho singekho isikhathi senjabulo.
Ukukhombisa i-egoism enempilo akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa futhi kuyasiza. Ngokuvamile kubonakala sengathi abazali ngeke basiqonde uma sikhuluma nabo ngokungagwegwesi. Futhi ukuqala ingxoxo kuyethusa kakhulu. Eqinisweni, umuntu omdala onothando uyakwazi ukusizwa. Ukuze siqonde ukuthi siyabazisa futhi nakanjani kuzofika ngolunye usuku. Kodwa sifuna ukuchitha loNyaka Omusha nabangane. Ukuxoxisana nokuhlela ingxoxo njengomuntu omdala nomuntu omdala kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokugwema imizwa yecala engxenyeni yakho kanye nokucasuka komunye.