Izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo nabaqeqeshi ziphikisana ngokuthi yilabo kuphela abanekhono lokuzihlela futhi abajwayele ukuhleleka abangaba umholi. Ingabe ngempela? Noma ingabe wonke umuntu angaba umholi? Yiziphi izimfanelo okudingeka uzihlakulele ukuze wenze lokhu? Usomabhizinisi nomqeqeshi webhizinisi u-Veronika Agafonova uphendula le mibuzo.
Uyini umholi? Lona nguye ozikhethela yena futhi akadluliseli umthwalo wemfanelo kwabanye. Abaholi abazalwa, benziwa. Manje uqala kuphi?
Okokuqala, udinga ukuqaphela ukuthi ikusasa lakho alinqumi ikusasa lakho. Ungazikhawuli ekuhlakanipheni kwabantu "lapho wazalelwa khona, kwafika kahle": uma uvela emndenini wabasebenzi, lokhu akusho nhlobo ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukufinyelela ukuphakama. Umholi weqiniso uyazi ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani esikhathini esidlule, noma yini ingafinyelelwa.
Okwesibili, kubalulekile ukuzibophezela kukho konke okwenzeka empilweni yakho. Kuyiphutha ukucabanga ukuthi kunezinto ezingeke zithonywe, akusizi ukusola imvelo ngokwehluleka kwakho. Noma ngabe ulaka lubhekiswe kumholi, uyaqonda ukuthi kube yisinqumo sakhe ukuba kulesi simo. Akancikile ezimeni, uyakwazi ukuyeka ulaka okwamanje futhi angangeni ezimeni ezifanayo esikhathini esizayo. Kusemandleni akhe ukunquma ukuthi yisiphi isimo sengqondo okufanele siyamukele, nokuthi yini esingasamukeli.
Ukwenza uhlu «lokho engikudingayo ukuze ngijabule ngokuphelele» kulungile, kodwa kufanele kubhekiswe kuwe.
Okwesithathu, kufanele ekugcineni uqonde ukuthi injabulo yakho ingeyakho futhi umsebenzi wakho kuphela. Asikho isidingo sokulinda abanye ukuba bafeze izifiso zakho, njengoba kuvame ukwenzeka ebuhlotsheni bomkhaya. Ukwenza uhlu «lokho engikudingayo ukuze ngijabule ngokuphelele» kulungile, kodwa kufanele kubhekiswe kuwe, hhayi kumlingani womshado, isihlobo noma ozakwethu. Umholi wenza uhlu lwezifiso futhi azigcwalise ngokwakhe.
Ibhizinisi lami lokuqala kwakuyisikole somculo. Kuyo, ngahlangana nabantu abadala abaningi abahlupheka ukuthi ebuntwaneni abazange bathunyelwe ukuba bafunde ukudlala lokhu noma lelo thuluzi, bakhononda ngakho konke ukuphila kwabo, kodwa isikhathi eside abazange benze lutho ukufeza amaphupho abo. Isikhundla Sobuholi: Akukephuzi kakhulu ukuthi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala.
Indlela yokuphila yomholi
Umholi akacabangi ukuthi wazi konke. Uhlala ezama izinto ezintsha, afunde, athuthuke, andise ama-horizons akhe futhi avumele abantu abasha nolwazi olusha empilweni yakhe. Umholi unabo othisha nabeluleki, kodwa akabalandeli ngobumpumputhe, akaboni amazwi abo njengeqiniso eliphelele.
Kuyenzeka futhi kuyadingeka ukuya ekuqeqesheni, kodwa akufanele neze ukukhuphulela abaqeqeshi ezingeni lika-guru futhi ungacabangi konke abakushoyo njengeqiniso eliphelele. Noma yimuphi umuntu angenza amaphutha, futhi indlela ephumelelayo komunye ingase ingafani nhlobo nomunye.
Umholi unombono ngayo yonke indaba, ulalela izincomo zabanye abantu, kodwa uthatha isinqumo ngokwakhe.
Ithalente nogqozi
Uyalidinga ithalente ukuze ube umholi? Umholi wangempela akawubuzi umbuzo onjalo: ithalenta liyinto esiyiphiwe ngokwemvelo, futhi ujwayele ukuba yinhloko yempilo yakhe. Umholi uyazi ukuthi ukugqugquzela kubaluleke kakhulu, ikhono lokuqonda ngokucacile okufunayo futhi wenze ngokuzinikela okuphelele ukuze ukuthole.
Uma umuntu ehluleka ukuzihlela ukuze azuze okuthile ebhizinisini noma emsebenzini, kusho ukuthi akanaso isifiso esanele. Ngamunye wethu angahleleka ebhizinisini alidinga ngempela. Isenzo sobuholi simayelana nokukhetha izinto ezibalulekile kanye nokudala ukuhleleka. Futhi into esemqoka ukuzibona kahle kulokhu.
Kuhlala kuphela ukuthanda isimo sokungaqiniseki kanye nengozi, ngoba ngaphandle kwabo ukuthuthukiswa akunakwenzeka.
Abaningi bethu abathandi isiphithiphithi nokungabikezeli, abaningi besaba into engaziwa. Sihleleke kakhulu: umsebenzi wobuchopho ukusivikela kukho konke okusha, lokho okungase kukwazi ukusilimaza. Umholi ukhuphukela enseleleni yesiphithiphithi nokungabikezeli futhi aphume ngesibindi endaweni yakhe yokunethezeka.
Alukho uhlelo oluqondile lokuthi ungaba kanjani usozigidi kusasa: ibhizinisi kanye nokutshalwa kwezimali kuhlale kuyingozi. Ungazuza, kodwa ungalahlekelwa yikho konke. Lona umthetho oyinhloko wezwe lemali enkulu. Kungani imali ikhona - ngisho othandweni asikho isiqinisekiso. Kuhlala kuphela ukuthanda isimo sokungaqiniseki kanye nengozi, ngoba ngaphandle kwabo ukuthuthukiswa akunakwenzeka.
Inhlangano yokuphila nebhizinisi
Umholi akahambi nokugeleza - uzihlelela impilo yakhe. Unquma ukuthi uzosebenza malini futhi nini futhi udala inani kumakhasimende akhe. Ubona ngokucacile umgomo wokugcina - umphumela afuna ukuwuthola - futhi uthola abantu abangasiza ukuwufinyelela. Umholi akesabi ukuzungeza ochwepheshe abaqinile, akesabi ukuncintisana, ngoba uyazi ukuthi ukhiye wempumelelo useqenjini eliqinile. Umholi akaphoqelekile ukuthi aqonde wonke ama-nuances, angathola labo okufanele abanikeze lokhu.
Umsebenzi onzima kakhulu ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uhlele impilo yakho ngendlela eholela kumphumela ohlosiwe. Kunzima kodwa kuyenzeka.