Okuqukethwe
Ubani phakathi kwethu ongakaze adwebe ekhanda lakhe isithombe esihle sekusasa, kude futhi kuze kube manje? Indlu emhlophe qhwa olwandle, i-akhawunti yasebhange ehlaba umxhwele ... Kudabukisa ukuthi lesi sithombe sihlala siyiphupho, iphupho elikhala phakathi kwalo newashi le-alamu, ngokungenasihawu lisibuyisela eqinisweni. Indlela ekugcineni ukuguqula «ngifuna» ibe «ngingakwazi»? U-Natalya Andreina, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nochwepheshe ekutholeni ubizo, wabelana ngezincomo zakhe.
Kungani kunegebe phakathi kokucabanga nalokho okungenzeka? Ake sigqamise ezinye zezizathu ezivame kakhulu.
1. Amaphupho, ngokusobala awafinyeleleki kulesi simo
"Angathanda ukuhlala eManhattan," kodwa umyeni wakhe akasoze ashiya i-Irkutsk yakubo, futhi owesifazane akakakulungeli ukudela umndeni wakhe. Kukhona igebe phakathi kokuthi “Ngiyafuna” kanye “Ngizokwenza”. Owesifazane angakwazi ngisho nokuzizwa eyisithunjwa salesi simo - kuze kube yilapho ebona ukuthi konke okwenzekayo kuwukuzikhethela kwakhe kuphela.
2. Amaphupho alien
Ukuhamba namuhla kuwumkhuba wangempela, futhi abaningi baboleka amaphupho abanye abantu okuzungeza umhlaba. Iqiniso, nokho, ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ojabulela izindiza, ngezinye izikhathi ukuvakasha okungaphephile, ukudla okungajwayelekile, kanye nokuzivumelanisa njalo nezimo ezintsha.
3. Ukungakwazi ukucabanga ngokwamathuba
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka kanje: sinephupho noma umbono - futhi ngokushesha siqala ukuzichazela ukuthi kungani kungenakwenzeka ukukubona. Kunezingxabano eziningi: akukho mali, isikhathi, amakhono, iminyaka engalungile, abanye bayolahla, futhi ngempela "umzuzu ongalungile". Siyesaba ukushintsha umsebenzi wethu ngoba mude, uyabiza futhi sekwephuzile, kodwa kungase kuvele ukuthi sisalelwe yizinyanga ezimbili kuphela ukuthi sifunde futhi sinayo lapho singayithola khona imali.
4. Ithiyori ngaphandle kokusebenza
Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi udinga nje ukwethula ngokuningiliziwe isithombe salokho okufunayo, bese … sizofika ngandlela thize “ngokwaso”. Kodwa lokho cishe akukaze kwenzeke. Ukuze umshini wokunyathelisa ugcizelelwe, akwanele ukukubona ngeso lengqondo - kuphumelela kakhulu ukulandela uhlelo lokudla nokuqeqeshwa.
Ama-stereotypes nokubuyekezwa kwemigomo
Kungani okuningi okungokoqobo kubonakala kungenakwenzeka? Ingabe izimo zengqondo nezimo zengqondo kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi kusolwe? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ithonya labo likhulu ngempela. Sifundiswe “ukwazi indawo yethu” futhi lokhu kuvame ukusigcina sisesimweni sethu sokuqala. Futhi ngisho noma sinquma ukuthatha isinyathelo, abasizungezile basitshela ngokushesha ukuthi kungani sizohluleka.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ijubane lokuphila liyakhula ngesivinini, ziningi izinto ezidinga ukunakekelwa kwethu njalo ngomzuzwana. Ngokuvamile asinaso isikhathi sokuhlala phansi sicabange: empeleni sifunani nokuthi singakuthola yini. Bese-ke, ukuhlukanisa amaphupho emigomweni yangempela, thola izibonelo, ubeke izikhathi zokugcina futhi udwebe uhlelo lokusebenza. Ngalo mqondo, ukusebenza nomqeqeshi kusiza kakhulu: ukubuyekezwa kwemigomo kuyingxenye ebalulekile yalo.
Ukukhethwa kwemvelo kwakusohlangothini lwabaqaphe kakhulu, ngakho uguquko nokungaqiniseki kubangela ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka nakanjani.
Ezikhathini eziningi, lapho sinombono womhlaba wonke, kuvuka imibuzo eminingi ezingqondweni zethu. Uzoqala kuphi? Bayosabela kanjani esibathandayo? Ingabe sikhona isikhathi esanele, imali namandla? Futhi, kunjalo: "Noma mhlawumbe, kahle, yena? Futhi ngakho konke kuhamba kahle. Futhi lokhu kungokwemvelo. Ubuchopho bethu bugcine ingxenye endala kakhulu ekhumbula kahle: noma yiziphi izinguquko, izindlela ezintsha kanye nesinyathelo kwandisa ingozi yokudliwa. Ukukhethwa kwemvelo kwakusohlangothini lwabaqaphe kakhulu, ngakho-ke manje uguquko futhi okungaziwa kubangela ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka, ekuphenduleni leyo ngxenye yakudala yobuchopho ikhiqiza okukodwa kokubili kokusabela okwaziwayo yikho: baleka noma udlale ufile.
Namuhla, indlela yethu yokuphunyuka yibhizinisi elingapheli, imisebenzi, kanye ne-force majeure, okusebenza njengezaba ezizwakalayo zokungenzi ibhizinisi elihlosiwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, thina «sidlala sifile», siwela ekunganaki, ubuvila obungachazeki, ukucindezeleka noma ukugula - zonke izizathu ezifanayo "ezinhle" zokungashintshi lutho.
Ngisho noma uvele wazi ngalezi zindlela, kuzoba lula ukuthi unganqotshwa yizo. Kodwa into engcono kakhulu ukunciphisa ukukhathazeka. Isibonelo, ukuze uthole ulwazi oluningi ngangokunokwenzeka, hlukanisa ikesi libe yimisebenzi emincane, futhi ngamunye ube neminye imisebenzi engaphansi eyishumi ukuze uthathe izinyathelo ezincane futhi kancane kancane uye phambili.
Ungafunda kanjani "ukundiza" uma izinkinga zikudonsa phansi
Ngokuvamile ngizwa kumakhasimende: “Angifuni lutho,” bese ngibuza imibuzo embalwa ecacisayo ukuze ngithole ukuthi siyini isizathu. Ukungafuni lutho nhlobo kuwuphawu lokucindezeleka okungokomtholampilo, futhi lokhu akusona isenzakalo esivamile kangangokuthi bonke abanezindlu ezibolekiwe nobaba noma omama bomkhaya babe nenhlolovo. Njengomthetho, kuvela ukuthi umuntu akanaso isikhathi esanele sokuhlala phansi futhi acabange ngalokho akufunayo. Abaningi bajwayele ukuba khona ku-autopilot, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukufika endaweni efanele ngaphandle kokwazi ikheli. Uma singazibeki imigomo, ngeke siyithole imiphumela esiyifunayo. Ekujuleni kwemiphefumulo yethu, ngamunye wethu uqonda ngokuphelele lokho akufunayo nokuthi angakufeza kanjani.
Ithuba lokucabanga yikhono lokungabeki izithiyo endleleni yakho. Eqinisweni, kwehla esikhundleni sombuzo othi "Kungani kungasebenzi?" umbuzo othi "Ngingakufeza kanjani okunye lokhu?". Kufanele kube nomuntu ohamba phambili empilweni yakho. Futhi uma kungewena, isinyathelo sizothathwa yizimo.
Fly phezu kwalasha
Mina nawe siyakwazi ukuba khona ngezindlela ezimbili: noma sihamba nokugeleza, sibona izehlakalo futhi ngandlela thize sisabela kuzo (ukucabanga okusebenzayo), noma siyabona ukuthi impilo yethu yonke ingumphumela wezinqumo zethu nokuthi singayiphatha ( ukucabanga ngamathuba) .
Umuntu okhuthele, eqaphela ukuthi umsebenzi awumfanele futhi ukhipha wonke amandla akhe kuye, ukhononda iminyaka futhi akashintshi lutho. Uzichaza ngokwakhe lokhu ngokuthi akukho okunye angakwenza, futhi eminyakeni yakhe sekwephuzile ukuziqeqesha kabusha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isikhundla esisha singaba sibi nakakhulu. Futhi ngokuvamile, akubanga yize ukuthi wachitha iminyaka emihlanu esikhungweni ukuze ayeke konke manje!
Yile ndlela indlela yokulinganisa esebenza ngayo: ukuze sinciphise ukukhathazeka, sichaza ukuthi kwenzekani kithina ngendlela yokuthi iqale ukubukeka inengqondo.
Kufanele unake amathuba ngokuqaphela ngaphambi kokuba le ndlela yokucabanga izenzekele.
Umcabango okhuthele ugxila kulokho okungenzeka. Angiwuthandi umsebenzi - kodwa yini ngempela: iqembu, abaphathi, izibopho? Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile kule nkampani ethile, ungaya kwenye. Uma ungayithandi imisebenzi, kunengqondo ukucabanga ngobungcweti obusha. Thola lapho ungafunda khona izinto ezintsha, qala ukuzilolonga. Kulokhu, umuntu uthatha isibopho sokunganeliseki kwakhe ngomsebenzi, ahlaziye ukuthi yini engalungile, futhi ayixazulule ngendlela eyakhayo inkinga.
Ubunzima ukuthi kufanele unake amathuba ngokuqaphela futhi ukwenze ngokuphindaphindiwe ngaphambi kokuba le ndlela yokucabanga izenzekele. Umshayeli wendiza ozenzakalelayo usihola endleleni evamile: izimo zethu zengqondo njengabazali, izinkolelo zethu, nethemba lobusana lokuthi yonke into “izozihlakaza ngokwayo” kusivulela indlela.
Ukunciphisa ibanga phakathi kwemicabango kanye namathuba angempela kungenzeka kuphela ngezenzo eziphathekayo, ngokucacisa isimo sangempela sezindaba. Uma uphupha ukuthuthela eningizimu, funda mayelana nezingibe, thola labo asebevele bahamba ngale ndlela, thola izinzuzo zamadolobha ahlukene, izindawo kanye namanani ezindlu. Ungase ungadingi ngisho nokulinda kuze kube yilapho usuthatha umhlalaphansi, futhi ukuthutha kuzokwenzeka ngonyaka ozayo.
izincomo ezisebenzayo
Ukuzama "ukumpompa" ukucabanga ngamathuba, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungakugcina kanjani kugxile ekunakeni. Kwalokhu:
- Zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngalokho ongajabuli ngakho kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo yakho: umsebenzi, ubudlelwano, impilo, ukuqina, ezezimali, ukuzijabulisa. Lokhu kuzokunikeza uhlu ozosebenza ngalo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi nguwe onesibopho sakho konke “okungahambanga kahle” — okusho ukuthi unamandla okulungisa yonke into.
- Nquma ukuthi uzoqala ukwenzani futhi nini ukuxazulula inkinga. Ubani ongakusiza? Ayini amathemba akho? Ngokugxila ngokuqaphela emathubeni esikhundleni sezithiyo, unesihluthulelo sayo yonke iminyango.
Ake sithi uhlushwa yisisindo sakho esengeziwe. Isinyathelo sokuqala siwukuvuma ukuthi akuphathelene nezakhi zofuzo, «amathambo amakhulu» noma ozakwabo aba-oda i-pizza ehhovisi njalo ngemva kwalokho. Abakuvumeli ukuthi ube sesimweni, kodwa wena ngokwakho. Futhi isizathu akusona ngisho nokuntuleka kwamandla - ukuthembela entandweni kuphela, ukulahlekelwa isisindo akuphephile ngokombono wesimo somzwelo: yile ndlela ukuphuka, umuzwa wecala, ukuzigxeka, futhi lapho akukude nokuphazamiseka kokudla. .
Funda ukucabanga ngokuqhubekayo: yimaphi amathuba onawo? Isibonelo, ungafunda kabanzi mayelana nokudla okunempilo nezimiso zokunciphisa umzimba, ufunde ukupheka ukudla okulula kodwa okumnandi. Ukuze uzithibe, ungathola uhlelo lokusebenza ngekhawunta yekhalori, futhi ukuze uthole ugqozi, ungathola inkampani yokugijima ekuseni noma ukuya ejimini.
Futhi konke lokhu - esikhundleni sokufaka ohlwini ngokungapheli izizathu zokuthi kungani "manje akusona isikhathi", ngeke uphumelele futhi akufanele uqale.