Ungavumi ukuthatheka! Yehlisa umoya! Uma sine "traction" enhle, ukuphila kuba lula. Yonke into icacile futhi iyalinganiswa, ngokuya ngewashi kanye nesikhathi esiqinile. Kodwa ukuzithiba nesiyalo kunecala elibi.
Kubo bonke abalula kakhulu futhi abakhululekile ukukhokha ngekhadi lesikweletu, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nombhali othengisa kakhulu uDan Ariely uqhamuke neqhinga kwenye yezincwadi zakhe: uncoma ukubeka ikhadi engilazini yamanzi bese ulifaka efrijini. .
Ngaphambi kokuba unqotshwe “ukoma kwabathengi”, kuzodingeka uqale ulinde amanzi ancibilike. Njengoba sibuka iqhwa lincibilika, isifiso sokuthenga siyaphela. Kuvele ukuthi sesiqandisile isilingo sethu ngosizo lweqhinga. Futhi sakwazi ukumelana.
Kuhunyushwe olimini olungokwengqondo, lokhu kusho: singabonisa ukuzithiba. Kunzima kakhulu ukuphila ngaphandle kwayo. Ucwaningo oluningi luyakufakazela lokhu.
Asikwazi ukumelana nophaya omkhulu, nakuba sinomgomo wokuba nomzimba omncane, futhi lokho kuwusunduzela kude kakhulu nathi. Sizifaka engcupheni yokungabi abangcono kakhulu kunhlolokhono ngoba sibuka uchungechunge ebusuku bangaphambilini.
Ngokuphambene, uma silawula imizwelo yethu, siyoqhubeka siphila ngenjongo. Ukuzithiba kubhekwa njengesihluthulelo sempumelelo yobungcweti, impilo, nobudlelwano obujabulisayo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, kwaphakama ukungabaza phakathi kwabacwaningi ukuthi ikhono lokuzikhuza likugcwalisa ngokugcwele ukuphila kwethu.
Ukuzithiba kubalulekile ngempela. Kodwa mhlawumbe sikunikeza ukubaluleka okukhulu kakhulu.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sase-Austria uMichael Kokkoris ocwaningweni olusha siphawula ukuthi abanye abantu ngokuvamile abajabuli lapho kufanele balawule njalo imiphumela yezenzo zabo. Nakuba ekujuleni kwenhliziyo beqonda ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bayozuza esinqumweni sokunganqotshwa isilingo.
Ngokushesha ngemva kokuyeka isifiso esizenzakalelayo, bayazisola. UKokkoris uthi: “Ukuzithiba kubalulekile ngempela. Kodwa mhlawumbe sikubheka njengokubaluleke kakhulu.
U-Kokkoris nozakwabo, phakathi kwezinye izinto, bacela izikhonzi ukuba zigcine idayari mayelana nokuthi kaningi kangakanani bexabana nezilingo zansuku zonke. Kwahlongozwa ukuba kuqashelwe ecaleni ngalinye kulawa asohlwini ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo esathathwa nokuthi ummangalelwa waneliseke kangakanani ngaso. Imiphumela yayingacacisi kangako.
Ngempela, abanye ababambiqhaza babike ngokuziqhenya ukuthi bakwazile ukulandela indlela efanele. Kodwa kwakukhona abaningi ababezisola ngokuthi abazange bawele esilingweni esimnandi. Uvelaphi lo mehluko?
Ngokusobala, izizathu zomehluko ziwukuthi izifundo zizibheka kanjani - njengomuntu onengqondo noma wemizwa. Abasekeli besimiso sikaDkt. Spock bagxile kakhulu ekuzithibeni okuqinile. Kulula kubo ukuba banganaki isifiso sokudla ikhekhe elidumile le-Sacher chocolate.
Lowo oqondiswa imizwelo kakhulu uyacasuka, ebheka emuva, ukuthi wenqaba ukujabulela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isinqumo sabo ocwaningweni asihambisani nemvelo yabo: abahlanganyeli bemizwa bazizwe bengebona bona ngezikhathi ezinjalo.
Ngakho-ke, ukuzithiba cishe akuyona into evumelana nabo bonke abantu, umcwaningi uqinisekile.
Abantu bavame ukuzisola ngokwenza izinqumo ezivuna imigomo yesikhathi eside. Bazizwa sengathi baphuthelwe okuthile futhi abakujabulelanga ukuphila ngokwanele.
“Umqondo wokuzithiba awumuhle ngendlela engaqondakali njengoba uvame ukukholelwa. Ibuye ibe nohlangothi lwesithunzi, - kugcizelela uMikhail Kokkoris. "Kodwa-ke, lo mbono manje usuqala ukubamba ocwaningweni." Kungani?
Isazi sezomnotho saseMelika uGeorge Loewenstein sisola ukuthi iphuzu liyisiko lemfundo le-puritanical, lisavamile ngisho naseYurophu ekhululekile. Muva nje, naye uye wayingabaza le mantra: kukhona ukuqwashisa okwandayo kokuthi amandla okuzimisela ahlanganisa “imingcele engathi sína yobuntu.”
Eminyakeni engaphezu kweshumi edlule, ososayensi baseMelika uRan Kivets no-Anat Keinan babonisa ukuthi abantu ngokuvamile bayazisola ngokwenza izinqumo ezivuna imigomo yesikhathi eside. Bazizwa sengathi baphuthelwe okuthile futhi abakujabulelanga ukuphila ngokwanele, becabanga ngokuthi ngelinye ilanga bayophila kahle.
Injabulo yalesi sikhathi iyanyamalala ngemuva, futhi izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zibona ingozi kulokhu. Bakholelwa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthola ukulingana okufanele phakathi kokuyeka izinzuzo zesikhathi eside kanye nenjabulo yesikhashana.