Okokuqala, ngenxa yenkululeko. Ukushiya ukwesaba esikhathini esidlule kusho ukukhululeka, ukususa umthwalo okuvimbela ukuba uphile ngenjabulo. Wonke umuntu unephupho, indlela evinjwe ukwesaba. Ukudedela uvalo kusho ukuqaqa izandla endleleni eya kukho. Ukhululiwe, uzothola ithuba lokwenza obukade ukusaba!
Okwesibili, ngenxa yempilo. Ukuyeka ukwesaba kusho ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Uma uvame ukwesaba, khona-ke isimiso sakho sezinzwa kanye ne-psyche sicindezelekile - lokhu kungaholela ekuguleni. Lapho i-psyche igcwele ukwesaba, usesimweni sokubheka ingozi, futhi uma lokhu kuphindaphindiwe kaningi, kungabangela ukuhlaselwa kwe-panic noma ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Kwanele ukuyeka ukwesaba, futhi isimiso sezinzwa sizoyeka ukuchitha amandla engqondo, khona-ke amandla asetshenziselwa ukwesaba azotholakala okuthile okuwusizo.
Okwesithathu, ukuzethemba okuhle. Lapho unqoba ukwesaba, kwakheka imicabango efanele ku-subconscious: "Nginamandla", "Ngingumnqobi", futhi ukwazi uthola isipiliyoni sokunqoba, okunikeza inkolelo yokuthi ungakwazi ukubhekana nemizwa engemihle yangaphakathi. .
Ekugcineni, ngenxa yomlingiswa onamandla. Ukunqoba ukwesaba kwakha isimilo. Uma ungakwazi ukunqoba ukwesaba okukodwa, khona-ke ungakwazi ukunqoba okunye. Kulula ngawe ukuba ubhekane nezilingo.
Futhi manje ake sibone ukuthi yiziphi izindlela nezindlela zokuqeda ukwesaba.
1. Thola ezinye izizathu zokubhekana nokwesaba. Lezi zizathu zizokunika amandla ekulweni futhi zibe yisisekelo sokunqoba kwakho. Isibonelo, uma uthanda ukuhamba kodwa wesaba ukundiza, isifiso sokuya ezindaweni ezikude kuzoba yisizathu sakho sokuqala. Okwesibili kuzoba yikhono lokuhamba emhlabeni ngokukhululeka futhi wonge isikhathi sokuhamba.
2. Chaza ukwesaba. Kusukela kudala, umuntu ubesaba kakhulu into engaziwa. Ngakho-ke, funda konke mayelana nokwesaba kwakho. Chaza ukwesaba kwakho ngokucacile. Kubhale phansi ngokuningiliziwe ephepheni, ukudwebe futhi ukusho ngokuzwakalayo - kwenze kube yinto ebonakalayo ngendlela ephephile ngangokunokwenzeka. Bese uthola lonke ulwazi ngakho. Engxenyeni yamacala, lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi uyikhiphe ngokuphelele, noma okungenani uyinciphise.
Isibonelo, uma wesaba izicabucabu ezinkulu, kufanele wazi ukuthi zitholakala kuphela e-Amazon jungle, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi amathuba okuhlangana nawo eMoscow mancane kakhulu. Futhi lapho ufunda ukuthi izicabucabu zikhetha ukubaleka lapho umuntu esondela, yehlisa umoya nakakhulu.
3. Thola isizathu sokwesaba. Indlela elula yokubhekana nokwesaba, imbangela oyaziyo. Khona-ke kwanele ukukuqeda, futhi ukwesaba kunganciphisa noma kunyamalale ngokuphelele. Uma imbangela ingatholakali, khona-ke ukwesaba akunangqondo, futhi lesi yisikhathi sokuzibandakanya ekuzihloleni ngokujulile noma ngisho nokuphendukela kuchwepheshe ekusebenzeni nama-phobias.
Isibonelo sokwesaba okuqaphelayo yicala elilandelayo: ebuntwaneni, umfana waphonswa emanzini, futhi ngomzuzu waklinywa waze wahlengwa. Kusukela lapho, uyesaba ukuba semanzini uma engezwa ngaphansi.
Kunzima kakhulu ukusebenza ngokwesaba okuqulekile; umuntu ngokuvamile akakwazi ukukhumbula izimbangela zabo. Isibonelo, icala elinjalo: intombazane yayisaba kakhulu amapayipi okunisela ingadi. Kuvele ukuthi esemncane wayethanda ukuchelela izimbali ngepayipi. Ngesinye isikhathi, otshanini, njengoba ecabanga, beka ipayipi. Wayithatha, kwavela inyoka, yamshutha futhi yamethusa kakhulu intombazane. Kodwa akazange akhumbule le ndaba waze waphendukela kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, owambeka esimweni sokuluthwa ingqondo futhi wabuyisela lesi siqephu enkumbulweni yakhe.
4. Hlola ukwesaba kwakho. Sebenzisa isikali sika-0 kuye ku-10 lapho u-3 ephephile futhi u-4 ebeka impilo engozini. Isibonelo, wesaba izinambuzane futhi ulinganise lokhu kwesaba ngamaphuzu angu-XNUMX-XNUMX. Kuvele ukuthi akafinyeleli ekusangweni lokufa. Ingabe kuwufanele ukuchitha amandla amaningi ngakho-ke? Noma ingabe kungenzeka ukuthatha lokhu kwesaba ngomoya ophansi?
5. Thatha isibonelo kwabangesabi, ungafunda kubo ukunqoba ukwesaba. Khuluma nomuntu ongenakho ukwesaba kwakho, futhi okungcono nakakhulu nomuntu onqobe ukwesaba okunjalo. Uyohola nobani, kusukela lapho uzobhala - isaga esidumile sithi. Kukhona futhi isizathu sesayensi salokhu: isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Albert Bandura sabeka phambili futhi saqinisekisa inkolelo-mbono yokufunda komphakathi, ethi umuntu, ngokubheka, angafunda izinto ezintsha noma aguqule ukuziphatha okudala. Ngisho nangokubuka nje ukuthi umuntu ulwa kanjani nokwesaba futhi akunqobe, uzokholelwa ukuthi nawe ungakunqoba.
6. Ngemva kokunqoba ngakunye phezu kokwesaba, zivuze, isibonelo, ukuthenga okubalulekile, ihora lokuhamba emvelweni, ukuya enkundleni yemidlalo yaseshashalazini noma i-cinema, noma ukuza neyakho. Umvuzo kufanele ube okuthile okubalulekile kuwe!
7. Dlula ukwesaba. Ngakho-ke uzothola isipiliyoni sangempela sokulwa nokunqoba ukwesaba futhi ngenxa yalokho uthole amandla phezu kwakho. Ngokuzayo lapho uhlangana nento ethusayo, uzokwazi ukuthi uyakwazi ukuyilawula imizwa yakho. Uma ukuthola kunzima ukubhekana nokwesaba uwedwa, cela usizo kumngane onokwesaba okufanayo nawe. Makabe umsizi wakho. Ngakho-ke, uma wesaba ukuphakama, cela umngane ukuba akhuphukele ophahleni lwendlu nawe futhi ame eduze kwakho, ebambe isandla sakho. Kumngane kuyoba i-adventure encane, kodwa kuwe kuyoba isipiliyoni sokunqoba.
Ukuyeka ukwesaba kusho ukuzikhulula, uqine futhi uvulele into entsha. Ngaphandle kwendawo yokunethezeka (endaweni yokwesaba) kukhona amathuba amasha, amandla, nemivuzo. Ukuphila ngaphandle kokwesaba kuzokunika amandla amasha, uzojabula kakhulu. Usifundile lesi sihloko, okusho ukuthi unomuzwa wokuthi ukwesaba kuphela okukuhlukanisayo nokugcwaliseka kwezifiso zakho ezijulile, futhi ufuna ukuyeka ukwesaba. Nqoba ukwesaba - ngeke uzisole!