Manje ngineminyaka engu-46 ubudala, nginebhungu elineminyaka engu-29 ubudala, okusikisela ukuthi ngaba nendodana yami lapho ngineminyaka engu-17 ubudala. Ngakhulelwa ngenxa yobudlelwano obuqhubekayo nesoka lami unyaka wonke. Nganginovalo ngoba ngangingaqondi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani emzimbeni wami futhi ngingaziboni nezinxushunxushu ezazihilela lesi senzakalo.
Ngokushesha abazali bami babonana nodokotela wezifo zabesifazane ngenjongo yokukhipha isisu. Isiphetho sasifuna ukuthi “ngiwele” kudokotela “ongaguquki” okwathi ngasese, wangibala ubungozi engibasebenzisayo (ikakhulukazi ubungozi bokungabi nabantwana). Ngemva kwale ngxoxo, ngasukumela abazali bami ngababekela intando yami yokuthi bayigcine ingane.
Indodana yami iwukuzigqaja kwami, ukulwa kwempilo yami kanye nengane elinganiselayo, enobudlelwane… Nokho, ekuqaleni ayizange inqotshwe. Ngiqhutshwa umuzwa wecala omkhulu (umama asize kakhulu ekuwunakekeleni), ngasishiya isikole ngokushesha ngemva kokumenyezelwa kwesimo sami. “Sasibophekile” ukushada. Ngakho ngazithola sengiwunkosikazi wekhaya, ngihlala esigodini, nginendlu yami nokuvakashela abazali bami nsuku zonke ngenxa yemisebenzi nje kuphela.
“Angikaze ngiduke nengane yami”
Umqondo wokuhlukanisa weza kimi ngokushesha, ngesifiso sokuthola umsebenzi. Ngafunda kakhulu, mhlawumbe ukuze ngikhohlwe ukuthi ngangingeke ngikwazi ukukhulisa indodana yami ngedwa, njengoba umama ayengitshele iminyaka eminingi. Kodwa angizange ngiphambuke kumntanami kuze kube manje: ukunakekelwa kwansuku zonke kwakunguye, kodwa imfundo yakhe kwakuyimi. Ngaphinde nganakekela izidingo zakhe, izinto azithandayo, ukuvakashela udokotela, amaholide, isikole ...
Naphezu kwalokhu, ngikholelwa ukuthi indodana yami yayikhule kahle, inothando olukhulu, nakuba ngangingase ngiquleke ngezinye izikhathi. Wayenobusha obuzolile futhi wayenemfundo ehloniphekile: u-bac S, ekolishi futhi manje useyidokotela womzimba. Nginobudlelwano obuhle kakhulu naye namuhla.
Mina-ke, ngaba nenkinga enkulu yokuthola ibhalansi yami. Ngemva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlaziywa kwengqondo, manje ngingowesifazane ogcwalisekile, oneziqu (DESS), ingxenye yenkonzo yomphakathi yendawo, kodwa ngezindleko zokusebenza kanzima kanye nokufutheka okungapheli.
Uma ngibheka emuva, ukuzisola kwami akukona neze mayelana nokukhetha engakwenza ukuze ngibe nomntwana ngineminyaka engu-17. Cha, namuhla nginezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu ngomshado wami kanye nobuhlobo enganginabo ngaleso sikhathi nomama. Ukwehliswa kwesithunzi engangikusona kanye nobunzima enganginabo bokuphuma kukho kwanginika, ngesikhathi esifanayo, amandla okuphila engangingase ngibe nawo ngenye indlela.
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