Okuqukethwe
Bekungaba lula kanjani ukuphila uma othile omkhulu, ohlakaniphile futhi owazi konke esixazululela zonke izinkinga zethu futhi asinike “iphilisi eliwumlingo” lenjabulo. Kodwa maye! Akekho noyedwa udokotela wezifo zengqondo, u-shaman, i-blogger, umqeqeshi, umsebenzi wezamandla ongazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi singazixazulula kanjani ngokushesha zonke izinkinga nokuthi iyiphi indlela yokukhetha ukufeza amaphupho ethu. Kungani zingekho izixazululo ezilula ezindabeni eziyinkimbinkimbi?
Ukufuna Umzali Owazi Konke
Iseluleko esihle esivela kubantu ongabazi ababonakala benendaba nekusasa lakho eliqhakazile singaba ushevu wangempela kuwe. Bayasidukisa.
“Udinga ukuba ngowesifazane ngokwengeziwe! Khulula amandla akho esifazane, yeka ukuba "indoda ephumelelayo," abaqeqeshi bamanga bathi, besenza kabusha buthule.
“Thembela endaweni yonke egcwele insada! Phila ekugelezeni. Yeka ukwesaba, beka imigomo ephezulu! Kumele ucabange kakhudlwana,” sizwa ngothisha abahlukene. Futhi siyeka ukuhlola ngobuqotho izinsiza zethu zangaphakathi, sitheleleka nge-"phupho elikhulu" lomunye umuntu.
Kodwa ingabe wake wazibuza umzuzwana ukuthi laba ochwepheshe banquma kanjani ukuthi yilokhu okudingayo? Zibuze imibuzo: ingabe basakaza izifiso zabo kuwe? Ingabe laba bantu bayakwazi ukuphila ngendlela abakunikeza ngayo? Futhi noma bengakwazi, banquma kanjani ukuthi nawe uzophakama kuwo futhi uphile ngenjabulo?
Zinqumele ukuthi ubani owazi kangcono indlela yokuphila: wena noma umhlahlandlela?
Yebo, umqondo wokuthi omunye umuntu angafika azositshela ukuthi singobani nokuthi kufanele sizakhe kanjani ukuphila kwethu ulingeka kakhulu. Isisindo esikhulu engqondweni yomuntu! Kodwa okwesikhashana, saze saphuma ngomnyango. Futhi lapho sesivele silinde i-melancholy nokucindezeleka, okuvame ukuvela njengenkokhelo yesifiso sokushintsha impilo ngomzuzwana, ngokushesha futhi eshibhile, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ungahlupheki futhi ungafaki ubunzima.
Eminyakeni yami yokuhlangenwe nakho kochwepheshe, angikahlangani nomuntu oyedwa "ongadla" umqondo womunye umuntu wokuthi kufanele aphile kanjani nokuthi enzeni, futhi angafakwa ubuthi yikho. Uma ufuna umhlahlandlela owazi konke, umbheka kanjani? Uneminyaka emingaki uma "useduze" nalo muntu?
Njengomthetho, useduze naye - ingane encane ebone umzali omkhulu futhi onamandla manje ozokunakekela futhi anqume konke. Zinqumele ukuthi ubani owazi kangcono ukuthi ungayiphila kanjani impilo yakho? Ingabe uwena noma umqhubi?
"Isidakamizwa" esinobuthi
"Amaphilisi Omlingo" adida futhi avale izwi lakho elingaphakathi. Kodwa uzama ukukuqondisa, udinga nje ukuzama ukumuzwa. Phela, akulona iphutha ukuthi ukwelapha kuyinqubo ecashile esiza iklayenti ukuba libone izindawo elingaboni ngaso linye, linqume ngokunembile izifiso zalo futhi lithole nezidingo ezingagcwaliseki.
Ngikholwe: ukushisekela imibono yabanye abantu kubukeka nje njengento engenangozi. Kodwa kungaphumela ekucindezelekeni okungokomtholampilo, emicabangweni yokuzibulala, nezinye izimo ezenza ukuphila kube nzima.
Lokhu kusengozini ikakhulukazi kubantu okuthi, ngenxa yezenzakalo ezihlukahlukene ezibuhlungu zesikhathi esidlule, abangazange bakhe ukusekelwa kwangaphakathi nesihlungi sabo siqu, esinquma “okuhle nokubi.”
Ukufinyelela amaphupho akho siqu
Sekuyisikhathi eside umhlaba uyikho konke esikudingayo nokubalulekile. Kodwa ngesinye isikhathi asikwazi ukuthola esikufunayo kabi ngoba sivinjwa ukufinyelela amaphupho ethu. Futhi kunezizathu ezimbili zalokhu.
- Okokuqala, asiziqondi ngokugcwele izifiso nezindinganiso zethu zangempela.
- Okwesibili, asazi njalo ukuthi singahlanganisa kanjani amaphupho ethu eqinisweni lamanje.
Ngizokunikeza isibonelo. Owesifazane ufuna ngobuqotho ukwakha ubuhlobo obufudumele, obuseduze nendoda, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngoba empilweni yakhe kwakungekho okuhlangenwe nakho kokwakha ubuhlobo obunobunye. Wayesejwayele ukuzizwa elahliwe futhi engafunwa. Ngakho-ke, lapho indoda ibonakala emkhathizwe, akazi ukuthi kufanele aziphathe kanjani naye. Ulahlekelwa yilokhu: akamnaki noma uyabaleka.
Kwenzeka okufanayo nangemali. Umuntu uthola kalula ukufinyelela kubo, ngoba ngaphakathi kwakhe uqinisekile ukuthi angakwazi ukuzitholela, ngeke "ajeziswe" noma anqatshelwe ngalokhu. Futhi umuntu umane akaboni iminyango ongangena ngayo futhi uthole imali oyifunayo. Kungani? Ngoba phambi kwamehlo akhe - izibonelo ezimbi emlandweni womndeni. Noma kunesimo sangaphakathi sokuthi abantu abacebile babi, ukuthi bayohlale bejeziswa ngokufuna ukuba nokuningi. Futhi kunezibonelo eziningi ezinjalo.
Iresiphi yakho yomuntu siqu
Ukuze uguqule okuthile empilweni yakho, udinga ukuchitha isikhathi futhi wenze imizamo. Leli yilona «iphilisi lomlingo»!
Uma ufuna ukwehlisa isisindo bese umpompa imbongolo yakho, yidla kahle futhi wenze ama-squats angu-50 ngosuku njalo. Uma ufuna ukufunda ulimi, qasha umfundisi, bukela amamuvi anemibhalo engezansi.
Ukuze umzimba wakhe kabusha, imisipha ithathe isimo esihlukile, noma inethiwekhi entsha ye-neural yakheka ebuchosheni, umuntu kufanele enze ngokuvumelana nefomula ethi "Isikhathi + Umzamo".
Futhi umthetho ofanayo uyasebenza ekushintsheni kwengqondo. Uma umuntu esephile iminyaka engu-25 enomuzwa wokuthi akabalulekile futhi akadingeki, khona-ke konke akwenzayo kuzobonakala kungenalutho. Futhi ngeke kukhulunywe nganoma iyiphi inzuzo yesigidi samadola nokuduma emhlabeni wonke okutholwe ngemva kwehora elilodwa lomsebenzi ngokohlelo lwe-guru.
Kusemandleni ethu ukufunda ukuzwa izifiso zethu zangempela futhi senze ngendlela yokuqaliswa kwazo.
Futhi ngisho neseshini yokuqeqeshwa yosuku, isonto noma inyanga, ngeke akwazi ukushintsha lokhu. Lokhu kuzothatha unyaka okungcono kakhulu. Kodwa ngokuvamile, ukwethembeka, ukuze uguqule isimo sengqondo ngawe, kuzodingeka usebenze kanzima okungenani iminyaka embalwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, akukaze kwenzeke ukuthi yonke into empilweni yethu iba ngamaphesenti ayikhulu okuhle ngisho nangemva kokwelashwa okude nokuphikelelayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ayikho into okuthiwa ukuba mubi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Angikaze ngibone noyedwa umuntu ongahlala ejabule noma ezwa ubuhlungu obungapheli obungokwengqondo, ongenawo amahlamvu ethemba.
Siyakhathala, sidlule ezinkingeni ezihlobene nokukhula, sibhekana ubuso nobuso nezinkinga zangaphandle, zomhlaba. Konke lokhu kuthinta isimo sethu. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthola ibhalansi unomphela! Kodwa kusemandleni ethu ukufunda ukuzwa izifiso zethu zangempela futhi senze konke esingakwenza ukuze zifezeke.