Emikhayeni enobudlelwane obulula, ukushaywa emsebenzini kuthathwa njengokujwayelekile futhi akuphikisani nakancane neqiniso lokuthi izingane ziyamthanda futhi ziyamhlonipha ubaba. Ngokuvamile kuba usongo kunokuba ngokoqobo.
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Ukushaywa ngesiswebhu kuyinto enonya. Lesi yisijeziso esingokomzimba somntwana, ngokuvamile esifakwa ibhande ezinqeni, esinomsebenzi wokwenza ingane ilimaze kakhulu futhi ilimaze izikhathi eziningi, ukuze ingasakwazi ukwenza lokho eshaywa ngakho. Ukupha ibhande akukona ukushaya, wukunikeza ibhande elibuhlungu kanye noma kabili. Esikhathini sethu, ukushaya kanye nebhande njengezindlela zokufundisa akusetshenziswanga neze, nakuba izinsongo zalokhu ezivela kubazali (ngokuvamile zivela kobaba) zizwakala, ziphela ngokushaya upapa kuphela.
Nokho, konke kwenzeka ekuphileni. Izibonelo zempilo yangempela:
Okuhlangenwe nakho kokushaya kuncike kakhulu endaweni yokuphila yengane: uma ubuhlobo bulula, uma buseduze, kweminye imindeni, zonke izingane ziyashaywa, ngakho-ke, nangesikhathi esimisiwe, ukushaya kubhekwa njengesijeziso esivamile. Uma kungekho muntu ojeziswa ngokomzimba, kodwa ngajeziswa, futhi ngisho - okubi kunakho konke - abangani bami bathola ngakho futhi bangakwazi ukukugcona, ingane ingabhekana nakho kakhulu, njengokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo.
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ukusebenza kahle kokushaya
Ukusebenza kahle kokushaya kuyaphikiswana. Kubonakala sengathi ekushayweni, izingane azisabi kakhulu ubuhlungu ngokwazo, kodwa umuzwa wokungabi namandla nokululazeka. Bavame ukuziqhenya ngekhono labo lokumelana nokushaywa (“Angizideli nganoma yini!”). Uma ubuhlobo emkhayeni bunezinkinga, abazali bengenalo igunya, khona-ke ukushaya akwengezi lutho ebuhlotsheni obunjalo: ukwesaba komntwana ubuhlungu ngeke kuthathe indawo yokuntula igunya kwabazali. Ubukhulu obungafinyelelwa ngezinye izikhathi ukwehlisa izingane ekuthambekeleni kwazo okungahambisani nomphakathi ngokuphelele.
Angimesabi umama — ngizohamba ngiyontshontsha kumama. Ngiyamesaba ubaba wami — ngeke ngintshontshe.
Kubonakala sengathi udinga ukuhlukanisa: ukushaya okuvamile futhi unikezwe ibhande. Ukubhaxabulwa njalo kubangelwa ukungabi nalusizo kokufundisa, noma ngenxa yokuthambekela okudabukisayo kwabazali. Ngesinye isikhathi ukunikeza ibhande esimweni lapho ingane ivivinya abazali bayo amandla, ingalaleli amazwi futhi yenza konke ngokudelela - okungenani emindenini elula kungaba isidingo esinengqondo futhi kuqondwa kahle yizingane ngokwabo: "Gijima phezulu? - nginayo».
Emindenini lapho izingane zivamile, ngenxa yokuthi abazali ngokwabo bangabantu abahlakaniphile futhi abaziphatha kahle, ukushaywa nokubopha ibhande akudingeki nganoma iyiphi indlela, zikhishwa kalula futhi zibukwa njengobulwane.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuphendula abazali asebevele badebeselela izingane zabo, lapho izingane zinzima khona, nabazali ngokwabo bengahlukani ngesiko: “Pho-ke yini esikhundleni sokushaya?” — Impendulo: ukuba abazali abavamile.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa:
Omama nobaba abaningi abasebenzisa isijeziso esinzima esingokomzimba, ngaphezu kwalokho, babebanda futhi bengenandaba nezingane zabo, ngezinye izikhathi baze babonise ubutha obala kubo, babengabanaki, futhi ngokuvamile babonisa ukungahambisani noma ukuvumelana emfundweni yezingane zabo. Ocwaningweni lwakudala lukaR. Sears, E. Maccoby, kanye noG. Levin, kwaboniswa ukuthi abazali abasebenzisa ukujezisa ngokomzimba i-gu.ee abagcini ngokushaya izingane zabo kaningi nje kuphela, kodwa futhi babeguquguquka futhi ngezinye izikhathi baze bavumele ukujwayelana ngokweqile ( Sears, uMaccoby noLevin, 1957). Ocwaningweni olwenziwa ososayensi base-Oregon, kuphinde kwatholakala ukuthi ukujezisa kwabazali kuxubene nezinye izimfanelo. Njengoba uPatterson agcizelela ngokuphindaphindiwe, omama nobaba bezingane ezinenkinga yena nezisebenzi zakhe abazihlola babengagcini nje ngokujezisa ngokweqile, kodwa futhi babephumelela ekugxiliseni isiyalo ezinganeni zabo. Babengakhethi ngokwanele futhi bengaguquguquki ekukhetheni kwabo izenzo zokuklomelisa noma ukujezisa, futhi njalo nangokungakhethi, begajwa, beqalekiswa, futhi besabisa izingane zabo (Patterson, 1986a, 1986b; Patterson, Dishion and Bank, 1984; Patterson, DeBaryshe and Ramsey, 1989). Bona →
Mhlawumbe kungaphezulu kulokhu, futhi hhayi ekushayweni ngokwakho?
Izinkinga ezinzima azixazululeki ngokushesha. Abazali badinga ukubekezela, futhi izingane zidinga indawo enempilo. Uma ungakwazi ukubhekana nengane ngokwakho - cabanga ngokuthi ubani ongakusiza kulokhu. Uma abantu abadala ngokwabo bephila njengabantu, uma ingane izungezwe uthando nokuqina okunengqondo, ngisho nezingane ezinzima ziba ngcono eminyakeni embalwa. Bheka, isibonelo, isipiliyoni somphakathi waseKitezh.