Ukujeziswa ngokomzimba

Isijeziso esingokomzimba ukuveza imizwa yomzimba engathandeki noma ebuhlungu.

Ngaphandle kokuchaza lokhu esikhuluma ngakho, abesilisa bavame ukusho ukushaya kanzima ezinqeni, abesifazane - ukushaya ngebhande.

Ngokujeziswa ngokomzimba basho izinto ezihlukahlukene: kusukela ekuqhumeni ngokuvumelana nokushaywa njalo. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ubani oshayayo, kusiphi isimo futhi ngokumelene nesizinda sabuphi ubuhlobo: into eyodwa umama odakiwe uvame ukuvuza indodana yakhe ngama-cuffs, naphambi kwawo wonke umuntu, futhi isikhathi esisele silulaza futhi sishaya ngamazwi, enye. into ubaba oqinile futhi onothando, indodana eziqhenyayo ngaye, wake washaya indodana yakhe lapho ezivumela ukuba ahlambalaze unina. Ngokunjalo, ukukhuluma ngokuvunyelwa noma ukungamukeleki kwesijeziso somzimba kanye nezinkomba ezifundweni ezithile akwenzi mqondo kuze kube yilapho kucaciswa ukuthi yiziphi izijeziso zomzimba okukhulunywa ngazo.

Ezibizwa ngokufanayo, izijeziso ezingokomzimba zihluke kakhulu komunye nomunye, ikakhulukazi lezo ezisetshenziswa abazali abahlukene ezimeni ezihlukene ezinganeni ezineminyaka ehlukene kanye nezinhlamvu. Lokhu kungase kube umzamo wabazali wokudonsela ukunakekela kulokho abakushoyo lapho ingane ingayizwa noma ingafuni ukuyizwa. Ngesinye isikhathi, lokhu kungumlayezo wengane mayelana nokungathandeki kwezenzo zakhe ezithile, uma ingane ingaqondi ukukhalaza ngomlomo noma inqume ukungaqondi. Impama elula ingaba ukuqinisa okulula, okungafunwa; impama ethile ingaba isijeziso esifanele esikhulula ingane ecaleni. Umbono wezingane ngokujeziswa ngokomzimba nawo uhluke kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi kuba ubuhlungu bamandla athile noma amanye, lapho umntwana ehlotshaniswa nawo ngendlela efanayo nokushaywa ngesikhathi sokuwa. Kwesinye isimo, lokhu kuthathwa njengokululazeka, ikakhulukazi uma kwenzeka phambi kwabantu okubalulekile enganeni. Kwezinye izimo, ukujeziswa ngokomzimba kuwumbango wamandla ovamile phakathi kwabazali nengane, kanye nokuziphindiselela okuncane kwabazali ngezinkinga zabo zomuntu siqu.

Iyini imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokujeziswa ngokomzimba? Indaba eyindida kakhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izivivinyo emkhakheni wezengqondo yezenhlalakahle zibonisa ukungabalulekile kwemiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba okwenzeka ebuntwaneni, kanye nethonya elincane kakhulu lesimo somndeni ebuntwaneni ekuziphatheni nasekuphileni komuntu omdala, njll Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abanye abacwaningi baphikisa ngokuthi izingane ezijeziswa ngokomzimba, zinenani elikhulu lezinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezokuziphatha, ikakhulukazi lezo ezihambisana nolaka, ukucindezeleka nobudlova kwabanye.

Umbuzo othakazelisayo nakakhulu: yini ebuhlungu kakhulu, yini ephumelela kakhulu. Yini ebuhlungu kakhulu - isijeziso somzimba noma sokuziphatha? Amadoda maningi amathuba okuthi asebenzise isijeziso esingokomzimba - ngokombono wabo, asebenza kangcono futhi ingozi yokuhlukumezeka kwengqondo ayiphezulu kakhulu (kunzima kakhulu ukuba amadoda abekezelele izinyembezi zomama, umphefumulo ugcwele icala).

Ukuhlola ukwamukelwa nokusebenza kwesijeziso somzimba kuyinkimbinkimbi. Izijeziso ezingokomzimba ezithambile zingamukeleka impela, ezinonya maningi amathuba okuthi zingamukeleki. Kusukela kumuntu omdala oyedwa bavunyelwe futhi cishe umvuzo, komunye - inhlamba engamukeleki, ngisho noma kungenxa yesizathu. Amadoda, njengomthetho, azwela isijeziso somzimba, abesifazane bavame ukubhikisha ngokuqinile. Ukuthonya umzimba ngenjongo yokululaza, ukulimaza nokulimaza omunye umuntu, ikakhulukazi ingane, akwamukeleki neze. Kungenzeka futhi kudingekile ukuthonya ngokomzimba ukuze umise okubi (ubudlova, i-hysteria, ukuhlolwa kwamandla) ngendlela elinganayo, kodwa isikhathi ngasinye kuyadingeka ukuqonda.

Njengendlela yokukhulisa izingane, ukujeziswa ngokomzimba kuthathwa njengokwamukelekayo kwezinye izinhlelo zokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe ekukhuliseni izingane futhi akukhuthazwa kakhulu ukuba umzali akhululeke.