Kwesinye isikhathi siyehluleka emzabalazweni nathi kanye nezimo. Asifuni ukuyeka futhi sithembe isimangaliso futhi senze iphutha. Udokotela wokusebenza kwengqondo u-Derek Draper ubonisa ukuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuvuma ukunqotshwa kusenesikhathi.
Ngangisebenza kwezombangazwe futhi ngazi uLord Montag omdala, ilungu lePhalamende laseBrithani. Ngivame ukukhumbula inkulumo yakhe ayithandayo. “Abantu bangashintsha,” esho ngokunyenya okukhohlisayo emehlweni akhe, futhi ngemva kokuthula wanezela: “Amaphesenti amahlanu nemizuzu emihlanu.”
Lo mcabango - vele, ungabaza - uzwakale ungokwemvelo ezindebeni zomuntu okuzenzisa endaweni yakhe ngokulandelana kwezinto. Kodwa lapho nginquma ukuba ngumelaphi futhi ngiqala ukuzilolonga, ngacabanga ngala mazwi izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa. Kuthiwani uma eqinisile? Ingabe siyakhohlisa mayelana nokuguquguquka kwethu siqu?
Isipiliyoni sami sithi: cha. Ngizikhumbule ebusheni bami. Ngangihileleka ezidakamizweni futhi ngiphila ukuphila okungavamile, ngase ngicindezeleke isikhathi eside. Manje ukuphila kwami sekushintshile. Ngokwephesenti, ngama-75% eminyakeni emihlanu edlule.
Ngibona izinguquko ezigulini. Angabonakala esikhathini esingangesonto, noma angathatha iminyaka. Kwesinye isikhathi inqubekelaphambili ingabonakala esimisweni sokuqala, futhi lokhu kuba yimpumelelo enkulu. Kodwa ngokuvamile lezi zinqubo zihamba kancane. Phela sizama ukugijima lapho izinsimbi ezisindayo zilenga ezinyaweni zethu. Asinawo amasaha noma isihluthulelo samaketanga, futhi isikhathi nokuzikhandla kuphela okungasisiza ukuba sikulahle. Iminyaka emihlanu engakwazi ngayo ukucabanga kabusha ngempilo yami ingumphumela weminyaka emihlanu edlule yokuzikhandla kwami.
Kwesinye isikhathi othile udinga ukusikhumbuza iqiniso: kunezinto esingakwazi ukuzilungisa.
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ushintsho alufiki. Uma ngehluleka ukwenza inqubekela phambili neklayenti, ngizibuza imibuzo eyinkulungwane. Ngabe ngehlulekile? Ngidinga ukumtshela iqiniso? Mhlawumbe angidalelwe lo msebenzi? Ngezinye izikhathi ufuna ukulungisa iqiniso kancane, wenze isithombe sibe sihle kakhulu: kahle, manje ubona okungenani ukuthi inkinga ikuphi nokuthi ungaqhubeka kuphi. Mhlawumbe uzobuyela ekwelapheni ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Kodwa ukuphila ngeqiniso kuhlale kungcono. Futhi lokho kusho ukuvuma ukuthi awukwazi njalo ukuthi ukwelapha kuzosebenza yini. Futhi awukwazi ngisho nokuthola ukuthi kungani ingazange isebenze. Futhi amaphutha adinga ukuqashelwa, naphezu kobukhulu bawo, futhi ungazami ukuwehlisa ngosizo lokulinganisa.
Enye yamazwi ahlakaniphe kunawo wonke engake ngawafunda avela kusazi sengqondo esihle kakhulu uDonald Winnicott. Ngolunye usuku owesifazane othile weza kuye ezocela usizo. Wabhala ukuthi indodana yakhe encane ishonile, wayedangele futhi engazi ukuthi enzeni. Wamphendula ngencwadi emfushane ebhalwe ngesandla: “Ngiyaxolisa, kodwa akukho engingakwenza ukuze ngisize. Kuyinhlekelele.»
Angazi ukuthi wakuthatha kanjani, kodwa ngithanda ukucabanga ukuthi uzizwe engcono. Kwesinye isikhathi kudingeka umuntu asikhumbuze ngeqiniso: kunezinto esingeke sizilungise. Ukwelashwa okuhle kukunika ithuba lokwenza umehluko. Kodwa futhi inikeza indawo ephephile lapho singavuma khona ukunqotshwa. Lokhu kusebenza kukho kokubili iklayenti kanye nomelaphi.
Ngokushesha lapho siqonda ukuthi ushintsho alunakwenzeka, sidinga ukushintshela komunye umsebenzi - ukwamukela
Lo mbono uvezwa kahle kakhulu ohlelweni lwezinyathelo ezingu-12, nakuba bawuthatha emthandazweni owaziwa kakhulu “wokuthula kwengqondo” (noma ubani owawubhala): “Nkosi, nginike ukuthula ukuze ngamukele lokho engingenakukushintsha, nginike isibindi sokushintsha engingakwazi ukukushintsha, futhi unginike ubuhlakani bokwehlukanisa omunye komunye.
Mhlawumbe u-Lord Montag omdala ohlakaniphile, owabulawa ukumelwa yinhliziyo, wayekhuluma amazwi akhe kulabo abangazange bawuqonde lowo mehluko. Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi wayeqinisile. Angifuni ukuhlukana nombono wokuthi ushintsho lungenzeka. Mhlawumbe hhayi u-95%, kodwa sisakwazi ukwenza izinguquko ezijulile nezihlala njalo. Kodwa lapho nje siqonda ukuthi ushintsho alunakwenzeka, sidinga ukushintshela komunye umsebenzi - ukwamukela.